Prima Baby's Wondernanny offers help and advice for 3 year old Kayla, who will only poo in a nappy!
Kayla will only do a poo in a nappy. She's quite capable of taking her own pants off and putting on a nappy herself in order to do a poo. Her parents have tried sitting her on the toilet, reading stories, using sticker charts, promising special treats or an outing, but nothing seems to work.
Toilet training can be quite daunting and you must be very sure your toddler is ready for the change. Make sure everything about doing a poo, nappy-free, is child-friendly. Make sure the potty is comfortable if that's what you're using, or there's a step and child seat on the toilet. Don't rush your toddler, and never force them.
Bin the nappy:
Kayla was in complete control of her bowels and unless the nappies were removed from the house she would always be able to rely on them. I asked Kayla and her parents to throw all the nappies into the bin. This would send a powerful message to Kayla that the nappies were gone and would no longer be there for her to rely on.
I didn't want Kayla to 'hold on' for a nappy as this could result in her becoming constipated. So I suggested to her mum that she should pay particular attention to diet and exercise at this time, ensuring Kayla was getting plenty of fluids , nutritious foods and exercise.
Reward charts can help:
Kayla was old enough to understand the concept of a reward chart so to start with Kayla got a sticker ont he chart every time she 'tried' to do a poo on the toilet, as 'trying' should be praised too. Toddlers need instant rewards, so small things like stickers work well.
I didn't want Kayla to wait until bedtime to do a poo in a nappy, so I suggested taking her shopping to buy some 'night-time pants' from a different brand. The special 'big-girl' pants would be put on just before Kayla got into bed.
Kayla's mum says: 'I can't belive it. A few days into the new routine and Kayla went to the toilet as usual but came back smiling and told us she'd done a poo! We were so happy. Rewarding Kayla with regular stickers has really helped. Kayla now goes to bed without the pants, then we lift her onto the loo when we go to bed and put them on her then. This has worked really well. Throwing away the nappies was an inspiration!'
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