please help baby is always hungry and never sleep through

Hi, I'm not sure if I can help but I feel your pain. My daughter was extremely unsettled until she got onto solids. She's only 4 months old and already 18lb which makes me think your little man is needing all of this food cos he's so small? Just guessing there. My daughter has milk at each feed too and three meals a day plus milk at bed time and then she sleeps til 7am from 7pm. She went through a stage where she was waking up every hour in the night and would use feeds to get back to sleep. We broke this by leaving her for a few minutes then going in to her and soothing her but not picking her up just rubbing her belly and talking to her softly then leaving her. If she still didn't settle we would give her a dummy but this was a last resort. She never goes down with a dummy but have you tried this just for a break and to see if he's feeding to get back to sleep? After a few nights she stopped waking and would get herself back to sleep should she wake. Also, do you do the same routine for bed? We have a rigid hot bath, bottle and book for bed and it relaxes her for bed. Perhaps bring his bedtime forward to 7pm or 7:30pm and see if this gets him into a deeper sleep? I'm just guessing here with things we've done to get her to sleep through. I hope maybe one of them works for you. Have you spoken with your health visitor about it?

Good luck.

Hungry boy

Hi, my little girl is almost 15 weeks and I've been considering this for some time. I spoke to my
Health visitor and she said that as she had doubled her birth weight I was ok to do this so I started her last week on half a rusk after her evening feed (4pm) and I'm just going to keep increasing the amount until she starts sleeping better. It is very scary at first because they are
Obviously a little young but also you've got to go on your instinct. It never hurt when they used to implement it years ago and my little girl is fine after having it for a week although not yet sleeping any better but it's a slow progress thing. My family were telling me to do this when she was just 9 weeks as they did it then. I think you just need to think of your own circumstances and perhaps give baby a go and just see. One thing my health visitor did advise me was make everything gluten free to help with their digestive system and don't add it to the bottle but mix it just like you say with baby's milk and then feed with a spoon. It's best to try it either an hour or so after a feed or half an hour before their feed. That way they're not starving.

I give it at 5:30 so it'll settle before bath and bed at 6:30pm. I hope this helps.

update and some honest advice

Hi,

Not sure if this will help but thought I would let you know my routine at night.

My little girl is almost 7 weeks old and from day one I have bathed her at 6pm - 6:30pm after her feed then got her ready for bed, fed her in our room with the lights down low then read her a book and put her into her moses basket awake and she has gone off to sleep. She then slept til about 11pm.

I have since put her in her own room now and kept the same routine but feeding and book in her room and she now sleeps til 3am.

She feeds every three hours in the day and has approx. 5oz. I have done this routine with both my children and it has worked a treat both times.

I find the bath really helps with the colic problems they seem to get in the evening as the warm water soothes their belly. Providing they like baths. My first daughter didn't but I still stook with the routine.

Perhaps it could work the same for you? Not sure but was just a thought for you. Anything is worth a try to get that little extra sleep like you say. I go to bed at 7pm also to be ready for night feeds.

I hope you find something that works for you.

Do we or don't we?????

After much consideration and a lot of help from you guys, I have decided not to find out however, I have come to a compromise.... I am going to ask my midwife to write it down on a piece of paper and put it in an envelope and then nearer the date if I change my mind or my husband can't wait any longer we can still find out before the birth.

Happy pregnancies everyone and thank you.

Do we or don't we?????

Hello all,

Just wanted someone else's views on finding out the sex of their baby.

I have got my 20 week scan in January and not sure if I want to know the sex or not. I initially wanted to know but to keep it a secret so it was personal to my husband and I but he wouldn't be able to keep quiet and he has already told everyone what names we have chosen.

My husband and I found out with our daughter but now I'm not so sure however, my husband really wants to know?! What made you guys decide to find out/not find out?

Its all I can think about at the moment.

Many thanks.

Children at the birth

Hi,

Just wanted to say thank you to you all for your replies. It has given me a lot of different angles to think about. My daughter is very mature for her age and understands an awful lot and to be fair it is probably something that I am wanting more than her as a comfort to me. I think I'm just going to see how things go when they start and have someone on standby should things get a little complicated. Fingers crossed I will be very lucky again but who knows.

Thank you to you all.

Children at the birth

Hi,

I'm after some constructive criticism/personal experiences on having children at the birth of a sibling.

My second child is due in May and I have been considering having my 3 year old at the birth should I be lucky enough to get another home birth.

My first labour was problem free and very relaxed at home and only lasted 5 hours with no drugs or screaming (like people think it would be). If it goes as smoothly this time I would love to have my daughter there with us but my family have expressed much concern with this and think I will "scare her to death". I have read up on it and seen bits on TV where children younger than 3 have attended births but not sure what other mothers-to-be think?

Does anyone have experience in this or think I am mad to even consider it?

Many thanks.

REALLY NEED NAME HELP!!!

Hi, you've probably already got a name for your little cutie now but how about emily may? You could spell it various ways... Mai, may, mae. Good luck

Help, Baby or not?

Thanks for your reply guys. It does help to see it from other people's perspectives. I'm not yet ready to start all over again with the sleepless nights and breast feeding so I think I need to wait until I'm ready and then worry about chilcare which may then be completely different and I may be able to approach things in a different way I just feel so guilty that my husband really wants another baby and I don't yet. Thanks again. Watch this space!

Help, Baby or not?

Hi,

I haven't been on here since my daughter was newborn however, I feel you guys will be the only people who can understand my situation properly and hopefully give me a little advice?

My daughter is three in October and for the past year now my husband has been talking babies non stop. He is desperate for another child but I don't feel ready. My biggest problem is childcare issues. I do not want to stop working however, we will have to pay for two children to attend childcare for at least a year which makes it pointless for me to work. Also, my mother in law currently looks after our daughter one day a week and has done since I went back to work when she was 3 months old. The only thing is it has been the worst mistake of my life letting her have her. It has caused the biggest fights ever in the family. She just won't listen to us when we tell her what we want for our daughter. For example, we won't let her have sweets and nearly every week we either find a lolly in her pushchair or a bag of sweets in her coat pocket. We only allow her to have an hour's sleep in the day now that she is two but she'll walk her around her village in the morning and she'll sleep then she'll sleep in the afternoon again. She also changes her clothes every time I drop her off. Is it me or is she saying my clothes aren't good enough for her? My husband is by my side with the problems but we are banging our head against a brick wall and the moment we say thats enough your not having her anymore it'll be world war three because my husband and I run a business that his father also works at so you can imagine the tension and family uproar we will get.

Every week I dread taking her there. It breaks my heart to do something I don't want when she is our daughter however, on the other hand I think should I be grateful for the free childcare and my daughter loves being there I just don't like the deceipt we get from her every single week.

I have spoken with my husband regarding another child but I have told him that I would not allow his mother to look after it on a regular basis and I would not want to stop work but all I get back is I can't tell my mother that and how can we afford two lots of childcare.

I don't know what to do for the better. I am starting to feel I would like another child but I need these ground rules to be adhered to first.

Am I being selfish to my husband and should I just stop being so picky or am I right to demand the upbringing I want for my children after all it is my turn to be a mother now and she has had her chance?

Please help. Thank you.

Do we or don't we?????

Help, Baby or not?