Posted: 17/04/2012 at 22:08
Hello Blue star! I think we should ban the term G/C - everyone is welcome!!
I always sleep on my tum, my midwife said it was fine.
Cheese - I have heard conflicting advice on this. I have been told no unpasterised cheeses, but I have also heard that if it's hard cheese you will probably be ok as it's too dry for bacteria to breed, just avoid soft cheese. I have decided not to take the risk but it's a personal thing.
Peanuts - there are no conclusive studies on this. I have peanut butter on my toast every morning and my family has a serious history of allergies (I have them, all my siblings have them, my parents wear allergy bands etc etc).
Other food - avoid Pate (plus other offal/liver products), Blue cheese, soft cheese, shell fish, soft boiled/poached eggs, limit caffeine (200mg or less a day), avoid alcohol, that's all I can think of right now. My midwife advised me to avoid white bread and rice as she thinks it can lead to big babies (and big mummies), and leads to hard tendons which is difficult for birth (????) but she has some fairly fixed ideas on things so I'd take that with a pinch of salt.
I haven't had much backache but loads of tummy stuff, lots of stretching and tugging and pulling.
I am really sorry to hear about your losses, it's no wonder death is on your mind. I wouldn't worry about what's in your dreams, what they represent is rarely literal. I keep dreaming about being unfaithful to Mr P - no intentions in real life I should add - but I have found that a bit disturbing.
I posted a few weeks back on the general thread about feeling vulnerable and worried. I am in regular therapy (for other issues) but asked my therapist about it - her response was that it was entirely normal and understandable. We are now utterly responsible for this new life and there are so many things we have to worry about (as you've put in your original post, all these different things to worry about, that we might get 'wrong'). I don't think you should try to snap out of it - it's a natural feeling. My feelings passed when I stopped trying so hard, I made a point of doing all my normal things but I made sure I had some water, my phone charged, oyster card full etc etc prepared for all eventualities and had a clear way home in case it got too much. You aren't being silly - just a normal woman who is newly pregnant.
Enough of the ramble - I think I always post huge posts. I know it's impossible not to worry but we're all here to support each other.
Loads of love,