Posted: 16/12/2011 at 16:49
No real advice I'm afraid but I just wanted to say that I can understand your frustrations.
My DS2 will be 2 tomorrow and he sleeps through maybe once a fortnight, if we're lucky. For him, it's not his ears but his teeth; I've never know such a bad teether. His teeth come through one at a time and they grow so slowly, he starts getting distressed as soon as they start moving under the gum and will continue with nightime screaming until the tooth is fully erupted, this can take 1-2 weeks per tooth.
Like your DD, he will make himself sick if I leave him to cry for more than a couple of minutes. Although we are working on this.
My DS2 also wont be settled by anyone other than me. I'm soooo tired.
To me, your DD sounds like she's convinced herself that she can't sleep without you. I would suggest going back to your HV and asking if there's a local sleep clinic you could get some one-to-one "tuition" from.
I hope you manage to find a solution. I'm just thankful that my DS2 only has 5 more teeth to come!