Posted: 16/06/2010 at 12:58
I am one of those women who had babies in her twenties (first marriage) and now again in her forties(second marriage).....and I do not think that 40+ is too old to have a baby. Its interesting that most of the comments are about the mum being 40+ and not the dad. My DH is 50 next birthday, so does that make him too old as well???
Becoming a mum again in my 40's IS different to that of being in my 20's, but not for any negative reasons, its brilliant and we just feel totally blessed that we were lucky enough to have created an expression of us both in one person, regardless of our age.
My husband was widowed with three children, aged between 9 and 22 and you just never know what life will bring, so I respect that some opinions are fixed on ' i wouldnt have a child in my 40's' but a life changing situation may just alter that mind set .
Also, rather than cringing at the 'embarrassment' of being an older parent, my DH and I have both been mistaken as the grandparents (not that we look old) but if we have been out with our daugther, (my step daughter) who is 27, everyone assumes that our lo is hers.......but thats just how judgemental society is and we just laugh and it causes more embarrassment for them when we tell them that lo is ours. And then we get the 'oh was lo planned?!" and 'oh, was lo a surpise?!" - that bit i find rude!
If your body and heart are capable of the prospect of a baby in your 40's then I think its a fabulous time to have a baby.