Posted: 17/09/2010 at 16:35
Hi guys - sorry - this might be long.
As some of you may know, my husband and I had decided we were going to ttc in November this year. A few things happened with my job though, and after a lot of discussion we decided to wait until later, probably April or May next year. Partly beacuse of finances but mostly because then we'll know where we stand in terms of my employment,.
I really didn't want to wait, and I don't think my husband did either, but we decided it was the sensible thing to do. We don't have a huge amount of debt but if we wait until next year we'll just be in a more secure position.
However, my husband was out at the weekend with one of his best friends. He and his wife are great friends of ours, and we spend a lot of time together. They had planned to try for a baby next year, but this weekend he told my husband they're starting to try now.
My husband is now constantly talking about ttc. He's always been excited about it, but I'm really concerned that the only reason he's started talking about doing it sooner than we'd planned is because his friend is. How ridiculous does that sound? I know that he wants a baby for all the right reasons, but now (even though I originally wanted to ttc as soon as possible) I'm worried that he's rushing himself to keep up with his friends.
Am I being ridiculous? I would love to have a baby, immediately if possible, but I just feel a bit weird that he is more raring to go after a day in a pub with his mate than he ever has been after speaking to me. I just don't know what to think about it any more.
Sorry, I know I am being a bit flaky, but you guys always have wonderful advice. Any reassurance would be welcome!