Am I being stupid?

Hey,

Thanks for all the responses. I think that it all just got a bit much and freaked me out a bit - I just didn't want to think he was only doing this to keep up with his friends. But actually, I know that theat isn't the reason. We've talked about ttc for ages and I know in my heart that we are ready; I'm not going to hold it against him that he is discussing it and getting encouragement from his friends!

I think we'll still try and wait a little while, at least until after Christmas, but hopefully not too long.

I just want to get cracking!

Thanks again everyone xx

Job insecurity and TTC

Hmm, I have to say the thing about eggs decaying at 26 is not popular with me at least, centurion! That said, I agree with everything else you say.

At the risk of hijacking the post - hattifatener, you are my inspiration. I too am in a stable job, which frankly, most of the time, I can't stand. The only reason I'm sticking it is the hope that I will get pregnant within the next year and then I will get the decent maternity pay that this job will give me. I wishs I could leave it but I just don't have the cojones.

To go back to the original question, Persephone, jobs and money are not everything - you know that, You want to provide for your child, that;s natural. I agree that quite often, in my experience, temporary maternity cover turns into full time jobs if you show everyone that you're capable and enthusiastic, so you may find that there's no problem at all. But even if the permanent job doesn't materialise, at the end of the day if you and your OH want to have a baby as much as it seems you do, you will find a way, And it will be the best thing you ever did,

B xxx

*edited for some truly appalling spelling mistakes*

[Modified by: little_bex on September 17, 2010 09:58 PM]

A little advice.

Hi sweetie. I don't have any experience in this but if what you're feeling is new (which it sounds like), and if it's starting to upset you (which it also sounds like) and take over your life a bit, then I think you really ought to talk to someone.

If you go to your GP and just be honest with them about what's happening and how ypu feel, they will refer you to someone who can really understand what you're going through and help you.

There's no reason to think that any of this will affect your ability as a mum - I'm sure you wil be wonderful! But also, if you don't feel right, having a baby won't fix that. You are the most important thing and you just have to look after yourself at the moment.

Big hugs.

Bex x

Am I being stupid?

Hi guys - sorry - this might be long.

As some of you may know, my husband and I had decided we were going to ttc in November this year. A few things happened with my job though, and after a lot of discussion we decided to wait until later, probably April or May next year. Partly beacuse of finances but mostly because then we'll know where we stand in terms of my employment,.

I really didn't want to wait, and I don't think my husband did either, but we decided it was the sensible thing to do. We don't have a huge amount of debt but if we wait until next year we'll just be in a more secure position.

However, my husband was out at the weekend with one of his best friends. He and his wife are great friends of ours, and we spend a lot of time together. They had planned to try for a baby next year, but this weekend he told my husband they're starting to try now.

My husband is now constantly talking about ttc. He's always been excited about it, but I'm really concerned that the only reason he's started talking about doing it sooner than we'd planned is because his friend is. How ridiculous does that sound? I know that he wants a baby for all the right reasons, but now (even though I originally wanted to ttc as soon as possible) I'm worried that he's rushing himself to keep up with his friends.

Am I being ridiculous? I would love to have a baby, immediately if possible, but I just feel a bit weird that he is more raring to go after a day in a pub with his mate than he ever has been after speaking to me. I just don't know what to think about it any more.

Sorry, I know I am being a bit flaky, but you guys always have wonderful advice. Any reassurance would be welcome!

might be TTC sooner than planned :D

Very exciting news, all the best for August! xx

implant removed and still no af

Hi Laura

No advice really I;m afraid but I am in the same boat - had my implant removed two weeks ago on 21 June and no sign of af yet. I had a few moments in the first week where I thought it was about to happen - lower stomach pain etc - but it never came to anything.

From everything I've read it's just different for everybody - I think the key is not to worry about it, because that won't help! (and if you work out how to do that, then let me know...!)

Good luck,

B xxx

Excited!!

Thank you! Will update after Monday to let you all know what it was like - ok maybe not that interesting but might be useful for other people thinking of doing it!

B x

PS Still so excited!

Excited!!

Well, I've just made an appointment to have my implanon taken out! We're still hoping to actually properly start ttc in November, but I've had implanon for nearly 6 years now (two different implants) and I really want to give my body a chance to get back to normal before pregnancy (I haven't had a period for 4 years!! ) I also want to lose some weight before getting pregnant and I think that that will be easier without the implant - I've put on loads of weight since it's been in!

Appointment is on Monday and I'm a little bit nervous but also very excited that we're taking actual steps towards babies! Someone please reassure me that it won't hurt too much though??!!

xxx

BFP after 2 years!

Massive congratulations, wonderful news! So happy for you!! All the best to you and bubba.

B xxxx

[color=violet]Losing weight before gaining baby![/color]

Hi girls

I've decided to get more serious about this now after seeing some photos of myself on holiday last week - ouch!

Also, my mum said to me 'you are going to lose some weight before you have a baby, aren't you?' !! Which obviously made me feel great.

So anyway, I've signed up to UK Diet Club - on a whim really, I got a spam email about it and it wasn't too expensive so I thought I'd give it a go. Just wondered if anyone else had any experience with it? I like the idea of weighing myself and submitting it all online rather than having to go to meetings etc, but only just started the diet today so don't know how effective it will be yet!!

B xxx

Excited!!

Am I being stupid?