Experiences mummies, can you help a 1st time mummy to be?

At my hospital (both after normal delieveries) the mw tends to mention to the birth partner that baby is on their way, can they get the nappy and clothes ready and does the birth partner want to cut the cord and asks if we wish for baby to have the vitamin K injection? Baby was born and then placed on chest whilst cord was cut and placenta delivered, I seem to remember dd pee'ing all over me so think she was left with me quite a while and then she was taken to the resuscitaire thingy and face wiped down (they don't bath or top and tail too soon in our hospital, they prefer to leave them with the vernix, etc on to keep their skin moist and then bath on 1st/2nd day if still in)and hubby then helps to dress baby and then has a cuddle, whilst mummy (if able) goes to have a bath or shower. We were in the delivery room between 2 and 3 hours before being moved to a ward. xxx

Are we all decided on names?

g/c'ing but I am now 6 days overdue and still don't have a name for our little girl! We had decided on Phoebe Eleanor May until a girl I grew up with (like a sister) named her daughter Phoebe Emma back in February, so we are now stuck as to whether to stick with it or go with one of the growing number of names we have on a list, including Imogen, Freya, Sophie and (I like but hubby doesn't! but hey, I'm the one going through labour!) Elodie. We're going to wait until she's here now and see what suits her and what our other two children think. Just be reassured you have more time than we do! lol! xxx

Post Birth Poo?

I've never had stitches so that probably helps, but I've not had problems going, although still been wary, I also found pressing a pad over my bits helped, even if it was just for reassurance. x

Anterior placenta at 12 weeks - did it move by 20 weeks?

I have an anterior placenta with this pregnancy, it was noted at the 12 weeks scan and re confirmed when I had to have a scan for an amnio at 18 weeks (position is important for them to perform the amnio)it has remained so ever since, I first felt movements at about 18 weeks so later than my second pregnancy (whom I felt at 16 weeks) BUT I had to go for monitoring at the hospital last week as I hadn't felt my 10 movements for that day, it seems that baby is alot more active than what I can feel, in the first 10 mins she didn't stop moving yet I only felt her twice! I have noticed that I see her moving more than what I feel, too. I've not heard of an anterior placenta moving as such as it is just located at the front of the uterus so as the uterus grows, so does the placenta and tends to move up, as is the case when the placenta is low lying and is often refered to as moving , it's simply as the uterus grows it follows it up if that makes sense, I don't think they go from front to back.

Other people making me feel I should want a girl

I sympathise with you completely, and understand exactly what piggypops is saying, too!
I am now pregnant with my third, I already have one of each and it has caused me to make so many snappy remarks to others, including my own mum before I fell pregnant, I have always made it known that I wanted more then two children and that to me it doesn't matter what gender they are, however, everyone else thought I should be happy with the two I've got seeing as I had one of each, yet my brother has 2 girls and they are always being actively encouraged by the same people to have another to 'try for a boy' how bloody rude!! I don't care what I have, although I know that this one is another girl, it doesn't matter, I love my children for who they are not what they are, and my brother is the same, why should I stop at two because of their gender, in the same sense that why should he have more just because of their gender? Sorry for the rant, it makes me so cross! Especially as some of the people who pass comment are so flipping hypocritical, including my mother (4 children, I'm the eldest and only girl, my nan had 9 and only 2 girls!How come they didn't stop when they got the one of each gender they wanted?)

I can't change my 10 month old nappy!!!

maybe no help, but I stopped changing mine on the floor/mat/changing station, etc and found that with a bit of practice I could change them quicker lay on their back across my lap, using the hand furthest away to hold their legs up and the free one to do the wiping, putting nappy underneath and then doing up, meant I ended up being a lot quicker and there was a restriction on their movements as they weren;t able to wiggle as much and couldn't roll, simply because there wasn't any space to!

Does your baby tend to get bigger each time?

Another one who's on their third, I had dd at 40+3 and she weighed 7lb 4.5oz, ds was then born at 40+4 and weighed in at 8lb 4.5oz, according to all the charts in my notes, following the line I should be (35cm at 35 weeks, etc) this put me on the 91st centile and a 10lb baby, have been pooing myself all pregnancy as my dad was one of five and every single one of them was between 10 and 11lb! Upshot is that my measurements have tailed off over the last couple of weeks, putting me on the 50th centile, I ended up having a scan on Wednesday as I had had reduced movements and this is apparently standard at our hospital in the last few weeks of pregnancy, the sonographer decided to do a growth scan at the same time due to measurements and it turns out that this one appears to be smaller! she was weighing in at about 6.5lb at 38+5, I know these measurements aren't accurate and can be out but I'm definately not as big this time as I have been in my last 2 pregnancies and I have been quite ill, these measurements have now put me down on the 9th centile on the growth charts, so we shall see in a couple of weeks!

opinions on the name........

I love oscar and if a close friend hadn't got a little boy called Oscar it would have been in the running in our boys list (expecting a girl though!)

should i really leave a infected tooth?

Hi, I work as a dental receptionist and have worked as a dental nurse, generally if your tooth is infected you will be in pain, this is the main sympton, along with swelling, if you are experiencing neither of these and you haven't had an xray I would say it is impossible to diagnose infection so I would say that seeing as you are not in any pain and you have completed a course of antibiotics, the infection has cleared up. It may be that you need other work doing, such as a root canal treatment, which although they can start in pregnancy, many won't complete until baby is born, due to the need for xrays, and there really aren't many dentists who possess lead sheets for protection. I would just go back if you start experiencing pain or swelling again but be prepared to just be prescribed antibiotics until you have had baby as they may not be able to discover what is causing the infection until you can have the xrays, this is fairly standard practice, I know many patients have had to have repeat prescriptions, simply whilst they wait for their appointment to have extra work doing or whilst they are being referred. If it's a wisdom tooth cutting through which keeps getting infected, hot salt mouth rinses work relatively well, too. hth xxx

Why does everyone have an opinion on our baby names!?

I hate the way people think they can comment on others choices of names, I remember when expecting dd I was in love with the name Jacob for a boy (we had chosen and did stick with our girls name)I liked the full name as well as all the shortened versions but I made the mistake of mentioning it to the in laws and they shot it down, I won't repeat what they said as it was down right offensive but it made me determined to use it if she had turned out to be a boy, however, in my second pregnancy they decided they would let me know what names they liked and they happened to have seen one on a tv programmes credits that they loved - it turned out to be Jacob - they loved it and all the names it could be shortened to - funny I remember uttering those exact same words only 18 months before when they hated it!!! It then made me even more determined to find another boys name that I loved and never ever use the name Jacob (although I do still like it - it's the principle!) I don't think they particularly liked our chosen boys name at the time but we didn't tell them until after he had been born so I think they felt like they couldn't say anything then!
This time we are lucky that we love our chosen girly name, as does every one else, my parents and siblings and all the in laws included!

Help!!

Anyone work nights?