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For anyone deciding about antenatal classes

Posted: 17/03/2012 at 06:26
i would totally echo this post! i was really unsure about them, felt they were a bit pretentious and wasn't sure i 'needed' more friends where the only thing we would have in common was babies! how wrong was i!? the girls i met have been an absolutely invaluable support for me and we see eachother loads. 4 out of the 6 of us have now had or are due to have second babies and so we are now off on maternity leave together all over again. i would highly recommend the nct courses, as emilyegg says, not for what you will learn (which probably won't be much) but for the support network and friendships it provides. hope this helps someone trying to decide whether to invest in these courses.

Oh SO tired - anyone else?

Posted: 16/03/2012 at 16:11
i am gatecrashing as this popped up on the home page. i am 38 weeks with my second and have never been so tired in my life, particularly in the early days. i thought there must be something wrong with me and wondered whether i needed iron but all my tests came back normal. i also have a toddler and had quite a responsible job and i think it is combination of that, and not getting the lie ins that you get before you have your first! really sympathise and all i can suggest is get yourself off to bed early at nights and take any opportunities for naps! i found the tiredness did ease up a little, but it is only in the last few weeks i have had any energy! definitely didn't feel like this last time!
hope things get a bit easier for you.

Not Coping

Posted: 16/03/2012 at 16:06
fantastic news that you ladies have had good news at your scans. really hope all goes well for you all from now on.

funny symptom

Posted: 12/03/2012 at 17:15
i have had terrible itchy skin most of this pregnancy. i found aveeno bath/shower oil has helped soothe it. i have had to have steroid cream from the doctors a couple of times because it got really bad. i was also taking piriton at night for quite a while as otherwise it was waking me up and i couldn't get back to sleep. both the steroid cream and piriton needs to be taken on doctors advice as neither is recommended in pregnancy.
mumma22beauboys makes a very good point - you should get your midwife to check your liver (its a simple blood test) to rule out OC. it is rare and if not picked up and monitored, it can have tragic circumstances as a very good friend of mine found out. so please just get it ruled out.

Is anyone else 40+ and expecting their First Baby?

Posted: 12/03/2012 at 10:48
Hi Anne. I am also 41. I had my first when I was 38 and am currently 38 weeks pregnant. I am a bit of a complicated case due to pre existing health conditions which make me high risk for prenancy, but my age alone has never been an issue and never caused me any problems. I had bleeding and my baby was small the first time, but health wise I sailed through. This time I have struggled with tiredness and various bugs, but I think this is more to do with having a toddler at nursery and working full time in a relatively senior job. My baby is growing fine and looks to be healthy from the many scans I have had. I had a miscarriage in between these two pregnancies. On all three occasions, I fell pregnant really quickly (first month of trying) and my screening blood tests have always come back as very low risk. So age doesn't necessarily mean you will have problems.
Hope this helps.

To Wean or Not to Wean???

Posted: 12/03/2012 at 10:40
I would do your own research as, in my experience, Health Visitors can sometimes give out of date advice. The six month guideline is there for a reason and whilst it is not a hard and fast rule for every baby as they are all different, there are reasons behind it which might be more important for a preemie baby (there is a theory that a baby's gut is 'open' up until at least 4 months, but may be up until 6 months and during this period of being open, giving solid food can cause allergies - if your baby is early, I am not sure whether this means their gut is 'open' for longer and therefore this window for introducing allergies may be longer). Weaning is a very controversial subject and you will get loads of people saying they weaned their baby or they were weaned before 6 months and are absolutely fine, so it is very difficult to know what to do for the best.
Another thing to watch for is growth spurts - babies have loads in their first few months, and quite often these are mistaken as being signs of being 'ready' for solids. A more important sign, as Glitterbug said, is the baby being able to sit up and hold their head up. If they can take finger food and bring it to their mouth then they are probably ready.
Sorry to gatecrash and I don't know loads about early babies but my concern would be that the HV might not either. So I would do some research and maybe speak to a doctor or an up to date health / nutrition organisation.
I hope this helps.

Not Coping

Posted: 12/03/2012 at 08:31
i don't think we have spoken before but i just wanted to offer some support and also bump this up to the top as i can see someone else has commented on an old thread of yours by mistake which is now showing on the home page.
i have seen some of your posts before and they stick out for me as i think we are a similar age (i am 41). i just want to wish you lots of luck for this pregnancy. i totally understand what you mean about not being able to relax although my history is different. i have got medical conditions which mean i am classed as high risk. i bled in my first pregnancy up until about 16 weeks and then she stopped growing but was fine, although tiny, at birth and is now a busy toddler. i had a miscarriage second time around (conceived on my 40th birthday) and i then fell pregnant last july. i am about 38 weeks now but still don't believe this is really happening and can't let myself get excited. my first little girl was a miracle and this one feels like one too.
i am keeping everything crossed that you are blessed with a little miracle too.
hope your scan goes ok.


Posted: 12/03/2012 at 05:51
Hi there. So sorry to hear of your loss.
I had a natural miscarriage at about 8 weeks last year (baby had never really developed). I bled for about a week, one day of very heavy bleeding and one day without much bleeding but I think the main 'products' were lost that day. After that, I think I just had some light bleeding. My first period was about 4 weeks later (normal for me) but the next couple of months were all over the place - very short cycles where I am pretty sure I did not ovulate. I then must have ovulated as I fell pregnant in the July (miscarriage was in March) and I am now nearly 38 weeks! I am pretty sure I did ovulate that first month but didn't feel mentally ready to do anything about it! The fact that my body didn't play ball then for a while I suspect meant I wasn't really ready to conceive again. By the time I fell pregnant, I felt I was mentally ready but obviously everyone is different. I guess the reason for my post is that, even if you feel ready to try again, you might have to wait a while for your cycles to return to normal so it is worth preparing yourself for that eventuality. On the other hand, if you feel mentally ready, then I don't think there is anything to stop you going for it straight away. Good luck. xxx

Swaddling and sleeping bags

Posted: 28/02/2012 at 13:18
hi. i had my first in the summer and just used a blanket. i swaddled for a while as that is what they did in hospital and we were there a few days but soon gave up with that. didn't use a sleeping bag for a while but she was only 5lbs when born so would have disappeared inside it. it probably depends on how big they are. i would definitely have a blanket and then once baby has arrived, you can always get the right size sleeping bag to fit.

Can you tell me more about baby led weaning???

Posted: 26/02/2012 at 14:28
Hi Tulip
In relation to your other post about coping on your own, Baby Led Weaning is a great way to wean if you don't have access to lots of babysitters. It makes eating out with your little one an absolute delight. We often go out for an early dinner at the weekend - around 5/6pm, and many restaurant chains will do a very cheap or even free kids meal at this time. As we rarely get out as a couple, we have found this a great substitute, making us feel 'normal'. Our little girl, now 2.5 will eat pretty much anything and just gets on with tucking in, without us needing to help her. We went out for a curry last night and you should have seen her tucking into popadoms and chutneys!
I would recommend the Baby Led Weaning Cookbook by Gill Rapley which goes into the theory a bit, but also gives you lots of ideas and recipes. The book is biased but the recipe book is a little less in your face. Another book which works for BLW is the River Cafe Baby and Toddler cookbook which also includes purees.
We started with toast, bananas, xmas dinner, veg wedges, hummous, rice cakes etc and we haven't really looked back!
Good luck if you decide to go for it - it is lots of fun!
Sorry for gatecrashing again!
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