Hooray!!

Yey well done Chloe x x x

taking children to a funeral....advice please

Hi hun so sorry for your loss.

I am a strong believer in not over protecting children too much when it comes to death at the end of the day its the only thing we can be certain will happen (sorry depressing i know), but I went to my grandad funeral when I was 7 and I saw people crying for him and I got upset, but i'm so pleased i went. Its natural to be upset when people die and I don't think this needs to be hidden from kids if you know what i mean. obviously it might be distressing for you to see dd1 upset, but it will allow her to ask questions about death and I think this is good as long as the answers arent to in depth iykwim. My reply might be contraversial but I strongly believe death is a huge part of life. I know kids grow up too fast and possible exposed to things they shouldn't be too young but I don't believe death is one of these things. I would take them. She knows him explain to her its a way to say goodbye and cry if you want to and then be happy for his life and remember him afterwards at the wake.

Obviously it ultamately comes down to what your comfortable with and maybe you could ask if she wants to go?? and go with that sorry if i have confused you more.

lots of love

Mez (we will properly meet one day lol)

xxxxxx

Is over confidence a problem?

and is there anything you can do about it?

Erin is very over confident she started preschool this week and just went bounding in talking to everyone and playing with everything. She has no awareness of personal space she cuddles and kisses everyone and as you can imagine lots of kids do not like this i tell her to just hello and ask their names rather than cuddes etc. she doesn't listen very well and bosses everyone about. she gets very upset when she doesn't get her way but we dont give in to her no matter how many tears.

On the positives she speaks incredibly well, she is polite, she always asks for things. She cares and is empathetic when people are hurt or upset. She rarely is aggressive towards others only if someone has pushed her would she push.

I'm not sure if I should be concerned? I asked them how she got on yesterday as it was her first day on her own, they said she was fine settling well although played with her cousin the whole time which I don't mind, when i asked was she well behaved? they said well its all new she doesnt know the routine yet, which i kinda reading means she probably wasnt that well behaved. At her settle in session she was well behaved until story time when she wouldn't sit still on the mat and talked instead of listening.

I don't know how to calm her over excited confidence or if I need to?

Is this her personality?
Is this a phase?
Is this because I have over praised her IYKWIM?

Is anyone else's lo's like this? it seemed like everyone elses kids were shy and quiet

Party plans and ideas???

We are going to book a church hall round the corner from my mum and dad, we only decided yesterday we were going to do this, its only a small hall but it means we can invite a few more people as our house is tiny, garden is ok sign but weather is a bit dodgy in March,

Mez x x

i know it may seem a bit early but....

I bought Erin one of those Camera's that you can chuck about but they still work and I bought her a necklace making thing which i got in the sale. We are buyinh her a bike for her birthday, but actually think a scooter is a good idea too. Its still too weird to think they will all be 3 !

our 'babies'

Hi, i didn't find BE until July 08, but it is really scary to think they will be 3 soon. Me and oh were talking yesterday and realise Erin will be going to school in Sept next year that thought is scary too!!!

Good luck ttc

Mez x x

one hell of a morning

Thanks again for replies, i am on the mini pill, but i stopped it I don't think it was helping at all. I think i need some coping stragies when it comes to stress, I think the best thing is I really what I need to do if that makes sense. Dee I'm the same that when everything goes well i'm fine but lots of small things can tip me over the edge !! But i'm having good days atm may they last. I'm very nervous about Erin starting preschool but i know she'll love it.

Thanks x x x

one hell of a morning

thanks everyone. Yesterday had a big black cloud over it!! dunno why because i do realise how lucky i am it was a stress overload and I dont think it helped that I restareted the pill recently and I think its gone a bit crazy with my hormones etc, i'm going to stop it Its has never agreed with me but thought i'd try the mini pill as never had that one before. I have the HV coming round on tuesday for a chat about pnd etc I dont think i have it, i think I have difficulty handling stress I just seem to get really annoyed or breakdown I need to find a way to chill out a bit. When I read what you went through Dee with Andrew and everything I really have nothing like the stress you were facing i really need to get a grip.

I think once Erin starts school next week (the last thing of her huge changes in her lil life). Hopefully things will then start to become into a bit more of a routine. I mean Erin has had to deal with such alot with me having fearne and due to the section wasn't very playful with her and couldn't go out for such a long time. Then christmas came and that I think overwhelmed her and got her out of routine, oh and the dummy fairy's came in november, she knows she is starting school next week which must be a worry for her (well i know i'm worried anyway). And today I have tried to be in a better mood and she has been an angel, so i think my mood reflects in hers or vice verser. She really isn't the demon kid i was thinking she was yesterday. Me and Paul also had a huge heart to heart last night both opened up a lot and I think I have been unreasonable at times and he has accepted he has too, so thats a good step for us. And we ended up going to bed iykwim!? for first time since having fearne

So hopefully days like yesterday are few and far between oh and i am going to call bf advisor tomorrow to hopefully alleviate all my concerns about Fearnes feeding and if not I'm going to stop feeding once i reach 3 months.

Thanks again, I do realise I often don't come on here for a while and I don't always post on everything and then come on when I have problems, but i find this site great for getting it all out and makes me feel better (like therapy!), even though my fam and pauls fam know I use it i'm hoping they don't read what i write!? Just wanted to say a huge thanks for always giving me advice when i'm not very good at giving it !!

thank you from the bottom of my heart x x x

one hell of a morning

Thanks Lara, The real issues I think are with Erin and i'm so worried if her her behaviour slides to far out of my control that she will become unmanagable so your words are very reassuring. My mum rang to tell me my Auntie died and I just absolutely fell apart don't think my mum knew what to say because my Aunt is in her late 80's and has been dying for nearly 2 years so don't think she expected that reaction but it was just another thing. I now feel absolutely shatter from all the crying!!! What I would do for a good nights sleep right now.

I think your right about Paul he is being less and less sympathetic like he is fed up with it all, I really want to know how he wold cope having to take both kids out on his own for a certain time, he would get very hevtic i'm sure. Anyway mum has a meeting and then she is coming round for a cuppa with me, so this should make me feel better. I hope i wake tomorrow thinking what was that all about yesterday!!

Thanks again it really helps to get it all out on here x x

one hell of a morning

I had a hell of a morning getting kids ready. Erin wanted conflakes then refused to eat them cos she wanted cheerios. Then finally everyone washed dressed ready to go to stay and play to get Fearne weighed and Erin pooed her pants 3rd day ion a row. so had to change her and I keep making it obvious how annoyed i am with her which makes me feel so giulty.

Got to stay and play it was packed, when Fearne was weighed she has only put in 3 oz !! Despite feeding every hour for last few days and topping up with formula, starting to think its my fault my milk is rubbish or i'm not spending enough time getting her to fed properly cos there is always something to do. Anyway when they told me her weight I just burst in tears in front of everyone, I feel like a complete failure as a mum. Now HV wants to visit me at home and keep an eye on me, I have not stopped crying since i left there, to make matters worse when i went to leave Erin had a huge tantrum which made me cry even more. I cannot believe what I must have looked like to all those people.

I really dont think i am cut out to be a good mum, i just keep getting so stressed. All the things Erin was good at she isn't anymore she doesn't go to bed easliy she doesn't nap, she bosses everyone around, she doesn't listen to anyone and I feel like I have failed to bring up a lovely little girl I feel like she is turing into a spoily brat. I just feel like such a bad mother right now. It can't help Erin seeing me this upset either. On top of all my worries with Erin Fearne obviously isn't feeding well, but i so wanted to bf for 6 months I really don't want to quit.

Sorry just didn't know what else to do, I phoned Paul when i got in, he basically said calm down and told me I have to be able to deal with the 2 of them but the thing is I just don't think i can i have never felt this stressed, and at work i'm in charge of 28 patients so thats saying something !!!!

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