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taking children to a funeral-advice please

Posted: 22/01/2011 at 13:22
Hi, thankyou so much for all the replies, the funeral is first wk of feb so its constantly on my mind at the moment, im torn between what to do, i can see both sides of taking/not taking them to the funeral but i dont want to make the wrong decision and end up regretting it
xxx

Is over confidence a problem?

Posted: 14/01/2011 at 07:46
hiya hunni, K said she was starting preschool this week, bless her. tbh I wish both my girls had more confidence, I see it as a positive thing, especially when she starts school- as u know ive had so many problems with dd1 when she first started school just through lack of confidence- she never stands up for herself and just bottles everything up until she gets home to tell me- never will she tell her teacher if there is a problem. I think erin jus has a very confident personality and at the moment she prob has no spacial awareness, whether it be her own or others personal space but that will come with time and as she gets older she will begin to realise that some children may not want to be kissed and cuddled. u havnt done any thing wrong, shes prob jus a very affectionate and excitable little girl.
its good that she will stick up for herself, and shes not aggressive towards and from meeting her when she was younger she was so polite then, there is nothing worse than having a child with no manners.
you are doin just fine hun, im sure she will calm down soon and once she knows the routine she will be alot better at storytime.
thanks for the reply on the funeral post, its nice to hear it from someone else along the lines that i was thinking- u jus worded it better than me, i dont want to over protect them so they dont know/have no vision of what happens when people die and tbh i dont really think that she would be too upset(i dont mean that in a disrespecful way) as im sure she wouldnt actually pay too much attention anyway, im goin to ask her what she wants to do i think and go from there, its so hard, i hate making decisions at the best of times, but this has completely thrown me. speak soon xxx

taking children to a funeral....advice please

Posted: 13/01/2011 at 18:09
thanks for the replies, im sure she doesnt really understand tbh, its my 5 yr old im more concerned about, my 2 yr old will jus happily sit there and so will my 5yr old BUT im worried she will get very confused if she sees the people closest to her upset and crying- im pretty sure i will be able to control my feelings and not seem too upset in front of them. we used to see him all the time then when i was expecting dd2 he was diagnosed with alzeimers and deterioated (sp?) really quickly so was in a care home for the past yr and we havnt seen him very much, but dd1 still knows who he is. we made him some cakes at xmas time and all she says to me perhaps he ate the cakes and it made him die? i said it had nothing to do with the cakes but she keeps bringing it up. i would like them to come so they may understand a bit more of what happens when people die but not sure if its worth the risk of upsetting them. also, as its at 3pm i cant go to the funeral then pick her up after to go to the wake as she finishes school at 3:20, if it was in the morning i think i prob would have taken her to school as normal then picked her up after the funeral and go to the wake. my instincts at the moment are saying not to let them go, but take them to the wake, so doesnt look like i will be goin to the funeral either.

taking children to a funeral-advice please

Posted: 13/01/2011 at 14:07
thanks for the reply, he will be cremated. im really stuck on this one- my husband says its my choice but i dont know what to do for the best xxx

taking children to a funeral-advice please

Posted: 13/01/2011 at 13:49
Sorry for the depressing post.......
sadly the girls great grandad passed away on the weekend and the in-laws want know if they will be attneding the funeral with us. im not to worried about dd2 as she is 2yrs and wont really pay attention but a bit unsure about dd1 who will be 6 nxt mth. ive explained to her that he died and her response was just "ok mummy" in a really casual way then carried on playing. I dont mind taking them but I just dont want it to backfire and for her to start worrying about death/dying etc- the topic has never really come up before but i know she took it in as she came home from school today saying she told her friends about great grandad dying. also, if they dont go to the funeral i wont be able to go as its on a wednesday at 3pm so there will be no1 to look after the girls for me anyway. arrrgh im so stressed about it, not knowing what to do for the best, obviously i dont want them growing up not knowing about death and thinking life is sweet and simple as its not. help.....what do u ladies think? any1 had any experience with this? xxxx

taking children to a funeral....advice please

Posted: 13/01/2011 at 13:47
Sorry for the depressing post.......
sadly the girls great grandad passed away on the weekend and the in-laws want know if they will be attneding the funeral with us. im not to worried about dd2 as she is 2yrs and wont really pay attention but a bit unsure about dd1 who will be 6 nxt mth. ive explained to her that he died and her response was just "ok mummy" in a really casual way then carried on playing. I dont mind taking them but I just dont want it to backfire and for her to start worrying about death/dying etc- the topic has never really come up before but i know she took it in as she came home from school today saying she told her friends about great grandad dying. also, if they dont go to the funeral i wont be able to go as its on a wednesday at 3pm so there will be no1 to look after the girls for me anyway. arrrgh im so stressed about it, not knowing what to do for the best, obviously i dont want them growing up not knowing about death and thinking life is sweet and simple as its not. help.....what do u ladies think? any1 had any experience with this? xxxx

taking children to a funeral....advice please

Posted: 13/01/2011 at 13:46
Sorry for the depressing post.......
sadly the girls great grandad passed away on the weekend and the in-laws want know if they will be attneding the funeral with us. im not to worried about dd2 as she is 2yrs and wont really pay attention but a bit unsure about dd1 who will be 6 nxt mth. ive explained to her that he died and her response was just "ok mummy" in a really casual way then carried on playing. I dont mind taking them but I just dont want it to backfire and for her to start worrying about death/dying etc- the topic has never really come up before but i know she took it in as she came home from school today saying she told her friends about great grandad dying. also, if they dont go to the funeral i wont be able to go as its on a wednesday at 3pm so there will be no1 to look after the girls for me anyway. arrrgh im so stressed about it, not knowing what to do for the best, obviously i dont want them growing up not knowing about death and thinking life is sweet and simple as its not. help.....what do u ladies think? any1 had any experience with this? xxxx

One born every minute!!

Posted: 11/01/2011 at 17:38
loving this series already. i had both my girls in that hospital and we live in the same village as ralph, his g/friend and the mum, my mum knows him. he made me cry at the end when i saw him crying, bless him xxx

Bookstart 18-30 mth pack - where do you get it ?

Posted: 09/01/2011 at 14:23
hiya, we picked ours up from our local library- i completley forgot about it then when we went to change the library bks the lady asked me how old dd was and she let her choose the colour bag she wanted. xxx

Where can I buy a 2nd Birthday t-shirt?

Posted: 04/01/2011 at 16:13
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