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Pro-breastfeeding goodies

Posted: 11/02/2011 at 14:41
My baby was in SCBU for 2 weeks. I got up every 3 hours when I was in the hospital and expressed like mad. When I finally got him back in my arms he would not latch on for love nor money without a nipple shield. When we got home I continally tried to feed him without a nipple shield but he would not feed without it and even then wouldn't feed very well. I had lots of support from my health visitor and midwife but unfortunately in the end my milk dried up and I had to put him onto formula.

I wonder Calliegh what your thoughts are for mums like me. Who try their hardest to breast feed but it just doesn't work out. Are we lazy?

Whilst I admire this pro breast feeding range and admire you trying to get more information to those mums who need it, please do not assume every baby who is formula fed has a lazy mum who just couldn't be bothered to breast feed. And even those mums who decide not to breast feed, for whatever other reason, it is their personal choice. Formula isn't posion!

Advice on early potty training please??

Posted: 05/02/2011 at 10:25
wow Tinkerbell do you mind me asking how you potty trained your little one at 8 months?
my lo is 10 months and I'm eager to try early potty training with him if I can but no idea how to even start! any tips you have would be excellent

For those of you who have good eaters...

Posted: 23/12/2010 at 08:39
ok, I was just trying to offer you some friendly helpful advice. I actually like the advice/help you offer most of the time and its a shame it gets lost by the confrontational aspect that your posts seem to have. You don't have to say everything you think about people, you could keep it to yourself. And then maybe you wouldn't get called names too.
Its a shame thats all. Because a lot more people would listen and respond better to you if you were a bit nicer about it.

Take care xx

For those of you who have good eaters...

Posted: 23/12/2010 at 08:24
ok I think you may have mis read or I have not written it very well.
I meant overall the whole site we are meant to be supportive to each other and offer advice or FACTS in a friendly well meant way.
I'm not actually saying you are wrong and you seem to be an expert in salt and I'm not denying you know what you are talking about.
My point is that the way you offer these facts to apple pie is not done in a way that is helpful at all or in a way that would encourage her to look at salt intake in a new way.

I'm sure you would not respond very well if people called you a jackass in your decisions you make.
Can you not just talk to people in a normal manner? You know "I'm not sure your aware, but did you know this about salt..." - maybe people would respond better to the helpful advice and facts you offer.

For those of you who have good eaters...

Posted: 23/12/2010 at 07:44
Maenad, I think your right that people need to be made aware and I get that you are trying to give people helpful advice but perhaps the reason people take offence so much is that you come across as very much "I'm right and your wrong" about it and you've made apple pie feel like she's an awful mother.

We're supposed to be here to support each other and I don't really think comments like "you created those little kidneys and if you want to put undue strain on them for no good reason at all, I respect that it's your choice to do that" really help anyone do they. And comments like " I reserve the right to an opinion, and mine is that anyone who gives their tiny baby tinned spaghetti is a jackass. " are not really helpful to anyone, they are just you being mean.
Why not offer your advice in a polite manner and if people choose not to take you up on that advice then its down to them. At the end of the day it is just advice and its down to the individual mother how she brings up her child. I'm sure not everyone agrees with everything you do but they won't have a go at you for it or call you a jackass. It's your personal choice.

Roll Call!!!

Posted: 16/12/2010 at 13:35
well I'm boring and i'm still arlik!

What do the Maybies weigh at 6 months

Posted: 19/11/2010 at 15:58
Leo is 7 months old now and he now weighs 16lb 1 oz
no idea what length!!


Posted: 15/11/2010 at 07:18
I had chocolate spread on toast for breakfast. I'm seriously rubbish at even attempting to lose weight and I have about 8 stone to lose.
I just don't know how to do it. I'm making an appointment at the docs this week as I need help, don't want them to just fob me off with that alli drug.

toast fingers!

Posted: 15/11/2010 at 07:17
Leo has toast fingers. I do white bread with a thin layer of normal marg. he sucks it rather than eats it and then throws it on the floor!

i need help (also in pnd)

Posted: 12/11/2010 at 15:16
I know you say you don't think you need the counseller but please go. They can be a huge help even if it isn't to do with bereavement.

You are allowed to be upset about your recent MC, even if you had 10 kids already. It's a horrible thing to go through. You've done the right thing by going to your doctor and the counseller may really help as you can discuss through everything and it might help to talk to someone about it all.
i'm also on citalopram. what dosage are you on? It has helped me loads with my PND and really got me through the dark times as has talking to people about it. Do you go to a baby group or have you contacted your health visitor? Just talking to other mums I have found really helped me. There are loads of support groups too and even if yours is not directly PND it might help to look them up and see if someone is in a similar situation or any other advice you can get.
and of course you've got us. if you need to chat or vent at any time about anything, even if it seems completely random or irrational just talk to us or email me I don't mind. it really helps to just get it off your chest.
I hope you feel better soon xxxx
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