i am 17 and have 3 boys of 4, 2(almost 3) and 7months. i was on the pill to stop me getting pregnant but it did not work i went for my first scan today and to mine un hubby's(father to all the children) suprise its twins but people, my family mainly my mum are telling me i will not cope with 5 children. what should i do

HELP! :\?

[Modified by: Pipsey5000uk on 04 April 2007 16:32:02 ]

you have to make the best of situations and you should be proud of yourself for coping so well with three you will handle it bcoz you have to and just bcoz ur young doesnt mean your any less capable than any1 thats older i am 16 17 days to go till i have my baby ! i never thought id cope but things make you stronger good luck xxx

congratulation do u know werther ur having a by boy or girl nikki01

yeah a boy i just want it all over with now lol u shud b so proud of urself for coping wen sum ppl our age wud just run away from situations how far gone r u? i bet its wierd noing theres 2 babys in there were bouts do u live xx

i am 6 weeks so got ages lol
i live in nottingham u nikki 01

Do u know what ur naming the bby

near york do ppl judge u 4 havin kids young sum ppl have said sum really hurtful things to me. i think its the ppl hu get pregnant then av abortions thn get pregnant again that shud get all the grief

Giant congrats on twins are they identical or non?(I'm also a twin mum) having twins is a blessing, the fact that you are coping well so far shows you can do it. i think the fact your 17 is a positive as you have more energy. you can get extra support with twins. contact the twins and multiple birth association www.tamba.co.uk and they can put you in touch with a local twins club who will be very helpful. You do need to be aware that you will need extra help, a twin pregnancy is much more draining than a singleton pregnancy and you will get bigger quickly, and much more tired, but im sure you will be fine. When i found out i was expecting a friend said 'god knew you would be a great mum so he blessed you with two.' You have already been blessed with three lovely boys and your lucky to be blessed again. good luck and keep in touch xx ps i know this is a very pro having them post and you asked in your post what should you do..when it comes down to it do what you and the father of your children think is right dont listen to anyone else xx

yes well would they rather us get pregnat and have abortions most people would the abortion rate is hight enought as it is. people should think about puting up to baby for adoption before abortion. yes people say some bad thing and i get funny lokks but i would not change a thing as i am happily married and have 3 buieful kid and 2 more on the way all with the same dad. my mum offered to adopt my first (unplanned off me but i said no i got myself pregnat i will look after it) then i planned the 1 i had at 15 and i the 1 i had last year but not these 2. if ur happy and give look after ur kids properly then y cant u have the younger people hould not judge us. do u have hotmial we could talk on there if u do? what do u think bout everything i have said?

I agree doublebubble, It only matters what the parents think as they will be the ones bringing them up!

I had alot of negative comments when i was pregnant with our 1st as i was 19 going on 20.

One particularly hurtful one from a midwife when i was in labour! She asked me if we knew what we were having and i said "yes we are expecting a girl" she replied "oh good ...you'll have someone to play barbies with!"

WHAT A BITCH! She's lucky i was so looking forward to the birth of our 1st baby that i didn't let it get to me too much, but these things still stay with you...

So as far as other peoples opinnions go (sorry for being blunt) who cares, fuck them!

I proved those people wrong as our eldest Caitlin is 4 now and gorgeous! We have subsequently had our gorgeous Phoebe (now 19months) and are expecting our 3rd (gorgeous) girl who is due next month.
I think you'll agree on how gorgeous she is...

Some people have always got to have an opinnion (even well meaning family members!) When people ask me if we know what we are having, i'm in two minds to tell them, as we get the look and the "you'll be luckier next time" Like we just wanted a boy. We didn't have a preference, i'm just glad she's healthy and i love her as much as my other two!

People assume we wont stop until we get a boy Which is rediculous, we will 'shut shop' when we are both good and ready!

So congratulations and love and best wishes to you and your (growing) family!

Emma and clan xx

Yes me an hubby had a long think last night. we are having the babies no matter what(hubby craigs family are over joyed). My oldest 2 know i pregnat as well. we ha decied before we know we were having twins that if it was a girl she would be 'Catlyn Patricia Lidijia Shales' and for a boy 'Benjamin Phillip Morgan Shales' but because they are idantiacal we need another name for a boy and another name for a girl (with 2 middle name) any ideas plz

Thanks for your help

Becky :\)


[Modified by: Pipsey5000uk on April 05, 2007 11:33 AM]

We are calling our little one Lucie Lilac Grace but i also like Charlotte, Maddie, Millie, Eden, Lily ...cant think of anymore and for boys i like Caleb, Harvey, Mason, Niall, Alex (thats my nephew's name!) and i can't think of anymore of them either!

Hope this helps...

Emma x

It's hard for anyone to cope with 5 children at any age. Only you can decide what's best for you, consider well and don't regret!