Hi 3054 I dont know if you will remember me, I had a mmc back in Feb around the same time as you and we both took ages for our bodies to get back to normal, I am still trying to fall pregnant with no luck and am really starting to think ti isnt going to happen, i am nearly 34 so I am worrying that my age isnt helping. I am also having weird spotting every now and then too. Anyway, I stopped coming on here because I found it difficult to see everyone else getting their BFP but I still pop in now and then to see how everyone is. I saw your earlier post and wondered if you have your BFP now?? I'd love to hear from you if you are still around. I think I am the only one from Feb, Mar who is still trying. I find it REALLY upsetting but am trying to take a backstep from it all now because it is too much for me and I need to accept it might not happen. I feel sad because we started trying on 1 Aug 09 and it is nearly a year now!!

Anyway, hope all is well with you

Jacqui
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Totally rude of me to gatecrash your thread Jacqui but I was thinking about you the other day. I dont think we really spoke to each other alot but I too had my mc in February and I am still waiting to fall again so you are not alone. Hope your ok sweets

3054 hasnt been on here for a few days so I really hope she is ok .

Again apologies for hijacking your thread xx

Hi Bubsplease, i dont mind you gatecrashing, i do remember you, how are you? I really thought I would fall pregnant again fast because everyone was saying that you are more fertile in the first three months but unfortunately it wasnt to be. Mind you my cycle is completely different from before my mmc I used to be 30 days, now I am 35 days!! So to start with we were trying at the wrong time!!

I am so pleased for everyone who has got their BFP but desperately wish it was me too!!

Take care, i will keep in touch, i am finally feeling better about things, it has taken me a long time to get over it and i got really bad in April but i have finally accepted that is has happened and am trying to concentrate in other things in my life as well:\)

Jacqui
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I am well thanks hon, I am trying to keep positive and am concentrating on losing weight now to try and take my mind off the BFP ( not really working ) I thought I would pregnant again within a couple of months, how naive of me. I think the month straight after the mc was the worst of my life, slowly but surely I am getting back to my normal self tho.

My Cycle lengths have changed aswell, I was always 31 days , dead on . Now they vary between 29 and 36 days. So frustrating. Are you tracking ovulation and temps or you being more relaxed? I am thinking of investing in a CBFM soon.

Hopefully we will be able to jump on the BFP train soon but I will always be around hanging around this place if you want to chat.

Got my fingers crossed that you get your BFP soon

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I am trying to lose weight too! I thought it would help me concentrate my mind on something else.

The first coulpe of months I was trying to track temps and cm and work out my ov date but to no success. I have stopped doing that now because I was getting really obssessed with it and then if I thought I was ov'ing and for some reason we didnt BD I would get in a really bad mood.

I did think about buying a CBFM but it is quite expensive so I had decided not to. I decided to just BD every other day and hope that works.

Fingers crossed for us both

Hope 3054 is okay

Jacqui
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Hi girls,
I am still here too!!
I too thought i was the only one left after my m/c on 14th feb.
I have seen everyone get their BFP's and allthough over the moon for everyone have felt left behind and more and more upset.
My cycle has changed too since m/c, gone from 32 days to 30 to 40 days.
I am 36 now and really feeling that i have left it too late.
I have used a CBFM and would def recommend it, expensive but if you compare it to the expense of bringing up a child not so bad lol!
Here's hoping we all get our BFP's soon.
I too have gatecrashed 3054's thread. Hope she is OK.
Lots of luck to you both

Hi Baloubear, i remember you too. I am going to be 34 in a few months and have been really worrying that my age is a problem but I have been talking to alot of people and loads of people do go on to having babies right up into their early 40s so I am determined to try and stay positive. It is hard not to worry about it though!

Good luck to us all

Jacqui
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Hi Girls I'm GC too. I don't know if you remember me Jacqui but we spoke quite a bit in February right after your mmc. I had my mmc in Jan and am still here! I did get 2 bfp's in the mean time but lost them very early (before the 6w mark) so have been through a barrage of blood testing and sonohystograms - they found some blood issues but nothing conclusive that should be causing my mc's. So here I am plodding on still and I'm 37! So Jacqui you have loads of time hun!

I would highly recommend to you preseed - I used it both times I got my bfp's after the mmc. My cycles are also slightly longer, used to be 22-26 days now usually 27-31 days. I tend to hand around on the ttc thread more than this one as I find some of the stories so similar to mine and it upsets me so I only pop on here now and then to see how everyone is doing. Keep going ladies we'll get there! xx.

Hi Baby on board yes I remember you well, we did talk loads at the time in Feb. I am so sorry for what you have been through so far, i saw that you had your BFP a while ago but I didnt realise that it didnt work out for you. Im so sorry. Why is it sooo difficult, i really thought like 'Bubs please' said that i would fall pregnant again striaght away but i guess that is not to be.

I hopw one of us gets some good news soon!

Jacqui
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We will, we'll all get there, I just think that that special little one takes a little longer to deliver! :\) Perfect doesn't come easy or quick but it'll be worth the wait.xx

Oh and I saw 3054 over in ttc a few days ago! I think she is OK I think she was late with af so I'm hoping she has some good news I'll go over and look now!

Jacqui you should come and join the Golden Girls thread in ttc - we need a new recruite as we've lost a lot of the old GG's to bfp's although they still come and visit in ttc to give us PMA!

Thanks Baby on Board, i will pop in to ttc and have a look,

take care

Jacqui
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Hi jacqui, of course I remember you, thank you so much for looking out for me, it means so much. How are you, is everything back to normal now? it is now six months since my mc and I am still not totally right, just had my first proper cycle but it was 48 days........ So I have no idea where I am with my body at the moment, being almost two weeks late drove me insane!!!!!!!

The last six months have been so tough, I am desperate to have my baby and have become obsessed with everything, tracking ov ss I think about being pg every single day...... And I am totally stressing myself out.

Spoke with hubby about everything and he has asked me to keep off the forum for a while and stop ov tests etc, we have made a plan that up to Christmas we are just going to bd every other day until I get a period, hard work, but a much more relaxed way of doing it I think.....

So I am just calling in one a week for now said I can't come off totally as I have friends I want to stay in touch with, but am just doing that, Reading all the others getting bfp was also driving me crazy...... Why not me???????

So feeling better now promised hubby I will relax, and just see what happens.... He said if we are not pg again by Christmas then we can reassess. So have to stick to my end if the deal, will only be here every So often.....

Please let me know how you are and how your getting on, I would love to stay in touch, hope everything is well, I was wondering about you last week, thinking about how you were getting on.

Lovely to hear from you, thanks huni. Lots of stick baby dust to you, hopefully we will have some good news to share soon x

i was going to do an FAO for 3054 too but saw this so hope you don't mind me adding! i had a mmc a year ago and i'm still trying

hey hun how are you? i did reply in the FAO you left me in LTTTC but don't think you responded! tut tut, lol, how's things been ? i was all good but this month i haven't OV'd again and i've ahd brown spotting the last 2 days but it's too early for AF by a min of 5 days so have no idea what's going on noW!!! xx

Hi 3054, great to hear from you, i dont think my body is back to normal yet, i am having periods but also loads of brown spotting in between, (sorry too much info!!). I did see the doctor a while back and he said my body was still recovering but it has been ages now. I have been getting obssessed too which is why i stoped coming on here for a while but couldnt keep away!! I am trying to take a back seat with it now and not track anything. Easier said than done though! It must have been a nightmare to have a 48 day cycle!

Hi Rocky Kiz i remember you too, sorry to hear you have been trying for so long. On the 1 August it will be a year since we started trying, we fell in November so it was quite fast. I feel really depressed that this time last year I was getting excited about starting to try for another baby, never thought it would end in a mc

Anyway, good luck to us all, it WILL happen eventually

Take care

Jacqui
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Hey rocky so sorry I didn't reply to your thread.... I have been trying to stay away from here as hubby thinks it is making me obsessed, and he is probably right!!!!!! So just popping in now and again. How do you know you are not ovulating? Do you do the tests, I am not doing anything this month, just bd when we can as much as possible and see what happens..... I have my second appointment at gyna on the twenty fourth of august so am going to discuss my marathon cycle and see what they say, much more relaxed at the moment, going to give myself till Christmas to see what happens!!!!

Jacqui, are you on the relaxed approach to, would be nice to keep each other company, the three of us have had a tough time.... The support would be good, maybe we could start a relaxed ttc forum were we speak more about anything other than ttc...... That would be a novelty!!!!!!

Hi 3054 yes I am trying to be more relaxed now, i was getting really obbsessed and it was actually not very healthy for our relationship. I am not charting or anything now, we are just going to try every other day like you and see what happens. Mind you it is hard NOT to be obbsessed with it. I was talking about it non stop to my hubby but now I am trying not to mention it and just see what happens

Take care

Jacqui
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hey hun, yeah i use a cbfm and it's always been pretty accurate, got my bfp the very first cycle of using it before the mmc. still waiting for our appointments x

Hi girls feeling much more relaxed at the moment, don't know what cycle day I am on without checking...... No ov tests, I think it's best I don't know either way or else I get stressed out, enjoying bd every other night, although it is quite hard work........ Maybe I will lose some weight to whilst we are at it!!!!!!!:lol:

does feel better already trying to get back to how it was before when we were ttc, that is hard though. We fell pg month two last time. How about you two, how long did it take.

My edd is the 18th august, so that is at the back of my mind, not going to be easy and sept will be a year of ttc!!!! But not getting too worked up yet as this is really only month two of trying again since mc in feb as I was bleeding on and off for 12 weeks...... So we shall see!

How you both doing?

Hi 3054, im not doing too well with trying to take a back seat, i know that i should be ovulating this weekend, i am really trying not to be too aware of when but my hubby has just put his back out and i am really annoyed as i am sure he is not going to want to do any BDing, im gonna try anyway LOL!!!

Im not doing very well losing weight either, i lost 10 lbs but have now put 5 of them back on again! AAHH!!

Take care guys

Jacqui
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