hi i am trying to concieve after losing last baby at 39+6 weeks. am really scared has anyone any advice :\(

Hi Joanne. So sorry to hear about your sad loss, it must be awful to have got that far and then lost your little precious one. i miscarried in October this year at 5 weeks which was traumatic enough. Different people cope in different ways i guess. one lady on here was so traumatised by her mc that she sought advice from a counsellor which has seriously helped her. You must be very anxious about going through it all again. Do you mind if i ask if this was your first baby? My friend Sine lost her first at 5 months, had two healthy boys lost another at the same time as you (very sad indeed) and then went on to have a healthy little girl. My advice, simple as it is and easier said than done is to try to relax as much as possible and have lots of "you" time wherever you can, either with or without partner. i am sure that once you fall pregnant again, the nurses will keep a very close eye on you and you'll be well looked after. Good luck hun, you'll never forget your little one but hopefully next time will be different and you'll have a bundle of joy in your arms in no time. Very best wishes, lots of hugs and kisses, bluebird xxxx

joanne im trying to get in touch with you...ive just found your post what you left a little while ago to us on the m/c your not alone post...there was something wrong with the pages and we did see your post so didnt reply and ive only just come across it now its working again....and i just want to say that we'd love for you to come and join us again and have a little chat about anything you like on the your not alone 2 (we had to set up a new one!) hope to talk to you soon. thinking of you spud. take care. love and kisses becky xxx

Hi, just want to leave a message of support for Joanne- I was very sad to read your post. I am the person Bluebird referred to (I think). I sought the help of a councillor last month to help me come to terms with my m/c. I was not very far along (don't actually know how pregnant I was) but found it all very difficult to cope with. There was a few other things mixed up in what happened at the time. I don't know what to say apart from, if you feel you need extra support don't be afraid to get it-wherever it comes from. The old chesnut- time always helps and it does, even though what happened to me will always be there. I have come to terms with mine by thinking about the future. I have to hope that eventually everything will turn our right as its mean to. I believe that I am entitled to a happy and carefree future.
I hope this helps.