I would post this in pnd page but not many peeps on there.
i have been taking Citralopan (sp?) for about 11 months for pnd, and am doing well on them.
the only thing is i have absolutly NO sex drive. i was just wandering if anyone else who is taking or has in the past has had the same experience. DH and i have only done the deed twice since october!!!!!! ANd even when we have done it we have had to use lube as i am so dry - was soooo not like this before i had hayden, we never had to use anything before. there have been allot of external factors that have got in the way too 1 i am sooooo tired sometimes sex is the last thing on my mind 2 dh's mother moved in in dec!!! who in there right mind could get jiggy with mil in next room!!!!! 3 dh worked away till dec and i only saw him at weekends and after looking after lo on my own all week number 1 happens again! 4 AF always showed on q! Dam mother nature.

it's not even like i havnet tried to get a bit of it back, i was always prepaired just incase something happened - ie legs shaven LOL but sleep always wins out!

i am just hoping that as i start to come off the tablets my labido returns - anyone been here and recovered?
love fi

hi there fiandrup

My husband and I have both taken these in the past and they completely wipe out your sex drive. We were on them at different times but hubby would get out of bed on lates, sit on sofa and sleep. We joked that all he did was work, eat and sleep.

We are both off them now (and pill too) and it does return believe me. Hub is still better when he is off work etc but now we don't go for months any more.

One thing though, for me I found it hard getting back into it, after not being into it if you know what I mean, but it does get there.

Hope this helps.

V xxx

It is a situation where the more you get, the more you want unfortunately. I've been on citalopram before and it killed my sex drive and in all honesty it's never recovered. But there are various circumstances specific to me to explain that so don't start worrying.

My hubby works away and while we go and stay with him sometimes he's in a tiny single room where our light sleeper son is literally 3 inches away from the bed which is on a par with mil in the next room for killing your sex life!!

As unsexy as it sounds the best way to get around it is to schedule sex. And there's no shame in using lube anymore - there's some that double as massage oil which makes them seem a little more sexy.

Also, depending on your relationship with your mil, could you talk to her about this and maybe ask her to go out for one evening so you have the house to yourself, or ask her to have lo overnight whilst you stay at a b&b up the road? (My mil's quite frank about these kind of things and wouldn't mind but I know not everyone's is.)

But it will get better, just remember to relax xx

Well hun, I feel similar to you and I've never even been on citalopram!

I didn't lose all sex drive, but it reduced drastically! Either no. 3 baby, bf'ing for so long or the pill I was on did it for me! Hubby moans about it all the time - but you know I cannot get up at 6am on a Saturday morning, do kids brekkie and then 'as if by magic' pop up to him (having a lie-in), miraculously in the mood for a quickie every weekend!!! I'm not a machine that churn it out like that!! (Oh and not to mention all 3 kids are occupied!!!!) I do have my moments - but hubby complains not enough of them. This has been a cause of huge arguments......

Things have improved since I stopped bf'ing and so changed the pill I was on. TMI to -the dryness thing was a bit of an issue for me too - but that has stopped since I changed pill so hopefully you will an improvement when you cut down on citalopram.

You know Jem is right - it is a case of use it or lose it! I still have to tell myself that all the time. I do find that I am more up for it the more I want it! It's just a case of grin and bear it at first I'm afraid! :evil:

xx

thanks for the replts ladies. it is good to know vicsy that there is light at the end of the tunnel - god that sounds wrong lol, but hope you know what i mean!!
i think you are right about use or loose. mil has been staying with her daughter in wales for a week and we still haven't bothered! oh is in navy and is ment to be going to sea today for up to 7 weeks so i think i will make a conciuos effort to do things to make me feel better about myself and hopefully put me back in the mood for when he returns (ment to add a number 5 last night, i really don't like my jelly belly and don't feel sexy anymore)
love fi
i know i am not ttc (ha chance would be fine thing!!) but think i will start mantra again of PMA PMA PMA PMA!!!

Oh Fi, I wish I had words of wisdom but I don't. I can't even blame it on citalopram.

My sex drive has gone and I have no idea how to get it back.

I have huge body issues and put on more weight being off work on maternity leave than I did when I was pregnant. I'm dieting now but I'm still not ready to lose my inhibitions just yet. TMI - Lets just say the sex we do have is pretty limited compared to pre baby.

I had a tube of lube left over from when I used it for doppler when pg and it's come in handy more than once since lo was born.

I'm going to spend some time on maintenance (couldn't tell you last time I had a bikini wax and I used to go regularly) and invest in some PMA too. Mabe hubby will get a treat on Friday night.

Haha, more likely I'll fall asleep on sofa and not even manage to stay awake for Johnathon Ross !! S x

I've never been on it either but sex drive is virtually non existant since have lo 2 1/2 years ago!!

Hubby has even threatened to leave me over it but I really can't be arsed to sort it out!! Its right when they say the more you have it, the more you want it, cause it just doesn't bother me if I go without!!

I struggle with getting up by 6am, working all the time, housework, entertaining lo, having a hubby working shifts. we haven't had sex for nearly 2 months now cause either I fall asleep early in the evening or he does!!!

I'd like another lo in a year or two but god knows how that would happen!!!

Aw I can totally sympathise with everyone.

I lost my sex drive when preg with dd1 (we only did it a couple of times in the whole 9 months) and after I had Lily I was brave and got back in the swing of things- for a few weeks until I found out I was pregnant again! Then it was back to none existant through pregnancy.

I'm on citalopram at the mo and though it does seem to reduce the urge to have sex, I think it's more in the mind. For instance, when me and hubby get down to it, I really enjoy it ops: and then I want more the next night. But if I don't talk myself into doing it then I would put it off forever and probably not even be bothered. I don't miss it when I don't get it! At the mo I'd rather sleeeeeeeeep.

What I'd say is try and be ready to initiate sex, or go along with it at 1st when hubby suggests it. Hope this isn't tmi, but I ask hubby to give my shoulders and back a rub with some massage oil and this helps me to get in the mood ;\)

Good luck hun, and you can get your sex drive back.

ah fi im sorry i dont have words of wisdom to offer either... no man in my life = no sex = NO sex drive so I don't miss it at all either. Since we're all giving TMI I'll add a bit lol... it's been 2 years and 4 months since my last time! That was when I got pregnant!!!!!!! I think I am a reclaimed virgin! haha!
Must be true, the more you get the more you want. Sorry! Hopefully when you stop the medicine (cant spell it either lol) it can pick up again!

Good luck xx