hiya i have a 16 month old daughter and i am expecting my nxt baby in june, me and my partner made the mistake of leeting our daughter sleep in the bed and now are finding it difficult to get her in her own bed she just will not sleep and scream untill u give in. is there any advise you can give me so can get her in to her own bed insted of sleeping with us . . . thanx x x

controlled crying, it isn't nice & you will have a few days of upset but it DOES work but only if you are strong & stick to the plan, that includes your oh being on board with it too.

Good luck.

Hi we have had the exact same prop with our daughter (15 months). We decided that over the xmas break with us both off work we would try to get her in her own bed. I refused to do controlled crying as I did not want to make my daughter feel as though we had abandoned her after all it is us that allowed her into our bed, not her fault.. We changed her cot into a bed as i think one problem was she hated being closed in. We started on Monday night and my husband lay with her on her bed until she went to sleep and then he stayed on the floor in her room all night. She woke 4 times and each time he held her hand until she went back to sleep but did not pick her up. On Tuesday night he did the same but left the room when she was asleep. She woke 3 times. He went back in as soon as we heard her cry so she knew we were there for her and there was no anxiety created. On wed night he held her hand until she went to sleep ( did not lie on her bed) and she woke twice. Last night she slept through the night in her own bed for the first time ever!!! I know this is probably not the problem solved completely yet but at least we know she can do it now. I'm not saying it'll work for you as all kids are different but might be worth a try. Good luck x

I did not go into her at all during the night or put her to bed as I was also stopping breastfeeding and I knew that if she saw me she'd only want feeding so thats why hubbie did it all.

I agree with Karliepop. Kara does seem to come into us most nights but the times vary. I think it is the idea of being on her own when she wakes. Once she comes in with us she goes straight to sleep. A lot of the time she is in her own bed all night. I also will never do controlled crying. I don't think it is fair on the child to go to sleep feeling sad and lonely. I would hate to go to bed like that so why do it to a child. I know that it works for some people and they swear by it but personally I don't like it.

Hey girlies, Happy Xmas.
Well hon we had similar problems with my eldest son.
We basically stopped him coming in and helping him settle in his own bed by simply TAKING HIM BACK TO HIS OWN BED.
EVERY TIME he got out of bed, came into our room etc we took him back popped him into bed with a little pat, an "I love you" and walk out. and even through all the screaming and pretend tears(sometime genuin) we carried on taking him back and it worked.
It did take a few days(about 4 I think) and probably over 100 times being returned to bed a night to start with. And sometimes we didnt even get out of the door before he would come running after us.
He now(7yrs) sleeps all night, 12 hrs most nights as do my two girls with whom we used the same tecnike(sp?) whenever we had a bit of a blip with their sleeping/settling.
They have always had a soothing night light and keeping a special teddy/toy for bed is a must for my 3 as its comfort for them.
Strangly enough I didnt get as stressed as I thought I would, maybe because it needed a calm head and needed to be done.
This is only my personal opinion though, find a groove that works for your lo and you and stick with it.
Good luck hon, dont give in, it is for the best in the long run and it will help tremendously once your next lo is born.

hey girls thanx 4 all teh replys. she has new bed coming in a few days so am gonna start wen it comes. i think not bein traped in like she is in her cot is her problem. coz once shes in our bed shes straight as sleep. thanx 4 advice will keep posted on how it goes x x x

I would say it is being trapped as well because thats the reason I think Kara wants in when she wakens at times. Its the bars that I think make it look as if you can't move. I hope she settles in her own bed which I am sure she will. I can't wait to get Kara into her own bed and get rid of the cot. I have a big double bed for her and it will be great to give her loads of room.

Oh I never thought that they would feel trapped in a cot, I had the opposite with my youngest dd, she loved her cot and now sleeps on the bottom bunk bed with a blanket to enclose it more....she loves to be under the covers too...a right little mole lol!
Anyway, good luck with your dd in her new "big bed"
xxxxx

heya girlys thanx 4 the advise. i got the bed 2 day and she helped us put it 2geva n and stuff. wen it came 2 goin 2 bed i put a dvd on 4 her gave her a kiss goodnight and went out the room.... i never herd a peek from her went 2 check on her after a while and she was asleep. this is the 1st time she has slept in her room and gone 2 bed by herself and she is 17 months. im so amazed i hope it lasts. just gotta c if she sleeps threw the nite. if she keeps waitin i dnt no weatha 2 leave her and c if she stops or me or oh go into her :S we will c wot happens. but its gotta happen b4 her lil brotha comes along not got big nhuf bed lol xxx