Sorry, you probable know im having problems with my oh. Im just really angry with him at the minute, he does what he wants when he wants regardless of what i say. He has told me he is going out tonight, (we're broke) at 6, i said im cooking a roast so make it 7, he said ok and proceeded to tell his mate he will meet him at 6, i asked him why he said 6 when we agreed 7 and he shouted no we didnt you said 7, what the f**k does it matter what time im going out im going at 6 and thats it ect ect
he does it with his hunting too, i say i would rather you didnt go tonight and he already arranged it and goes anyway. Im not overbearing he gets 2 days/nights a week hunting plus another at the range or an extra hunting trip. He goes on 2 hour bike rides daily, and also goes off roading so im not unreasonable.
I just wish he would listen to me and its not like he does anything round the house either and not a lot with Connor.
After our talk nothings changed, he still shouts and doesn't give a damn what i think feel or say.
At this rate im not gonna last til after xmas.
Sorry for my moan ive got noone to talk to and i know this probably sounds really pathetic and whiny
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Oh hun really feel for you, will be totally honest with you though, if he wont change-tbh he never will!
I gave my ex chance after chance and he just didnt change, nearly a year after i split with him he realised what he lost and said yet again he really will change and yet again he couldnt!

Your oh treats you with no respect and by continuing to speak to you like that it just shows he isnt willing to make any effort.
All i can say is have a really good think and just decide whats best for you, although its hard-you cant stay with someone because you have a child with them, yes it makes it very difficult but it isnt fair on either of you and i learnt that the hard way.
Put your needs and feelings first, tell your oh straight what you want even if it is a trial seperation, if he was really bothered he would do anything to change and make an effort.
Good luck, ive been there myself so know how hard it is, you stay because you think things will change and its just easier but in the long run it wont be.
Sorry hope that makes sense ive waffled a bit! xx

Hey id forgotten id written this!
Thanks for replying, i know you are right, we have already had one seperation and it worked for a few weeks, could always try it again.
Today was interesting, i wanted him to come into town with me to help me with an xmas pressie and needed to go to tesco, he said ok so i waited in til he got home at 1 and he decided he didnt want to go. So off i walk to tesco for nappies in the freezing cold with Connor and he rings his mum to see if she needs taking anywhere cuz his dad cant drive at the mo.
Says it all really
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Oh that's not good, sounds so familiar to when i was with my lo's dad.
Hope you sort something out xx