What's the right age to have a baby?

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bxwebmaster Platinum member
28/01/2011 at 07:29
According to a new study 29 years-old is officially the right child bearing age.

Do you think this is right or wrong?

Click the link to read the news story or cut and paste it into a new browser: http://www.babyexpert.com/get-pregnant/fertility/best_age_to_have_a_baby
franners Platinum member
28/01/2011 at 08:20
I was 30 when I had our first baby, it was the right time for us, I have since had 3 more children our youngest being 7 weeks & I was 36 when I had him.
The only down side to waiting until your're in your 30's is the short time you have to complete your family, if you'd like lots of children that is, while the risks are still relatively low!
Fran
Mum to Erin 6, Lachlan 4, Matthew 2 & Macauley 7 weeks
shuck85 Platinum member
28/01/2011 at 08:30
I think you are the right age to have children when you feel happy with yourself and your life. For me that is now that I am 25 and as I want a large family I think starting now gives me enough time to do this.

shuck, 17weeks pregnant with first child
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laranchloe Platinum member
28/01/2011 at 10:27
It depends on so much, how career driven you are, how much time you spend in education, when you meet the 'right' person etc etc.

I got pregnant at 26 and had my first and only child when I was 1 mth passed 27. It was the right time for us but not for all. I wanted to have had my only child before 30 if I had any choice in it and completed that goal.

Lara
Lady2188 Platinum member
28/01/2011 at 12:26
I think it totally depends on your circumstances rather than your age. My baby's due in 8 weeks and i'm 22. I've had a few people comment on my age but what they don't know is that i'm in a stable relationship with a man who wants to be a father. We're engaged to be married (hopefully within the next couple years). We have our own house that we own and i'm in a job that's related to my degree. We have as much to offer a baby as anyone 10 years older so i do wish people wouldn't judge.

Whats more, a friend of mine whose also 22 is due her baby next week and she's in s stable relationship, owns her own house and is a fully qualified accountant.

I think as long as you are paying for your baby and can offer it a good quality of life then your age is irrelevant! I hate it when people assume because i'm young that i'm going to be relying on benefits in the back of a council estate. I know people a lot older than me who have babies for the state finance...never judge a book and all that!

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Lady2188 Platinum member
28/01/2011 at 12:28
Just wanted to add that when i said paying for your baby i meant it's financial upkeep and not buying a baby off ebay! :lol:
Cornflake Platinum member
29/01/2011 at 09:00
i was 29 when i had my first baby - i would have had one sooner but it took me almost 3 years from starting ttc to actually popping one out !
A-Nonny-Mouse Platinum member
02/02/2011 at 05:48
I don't think there's ever a "right" time, but you do know when it's not the wrong time. I was one month off my 29th birthday when I had my daughter. I am married, own our own home, have an established career and we're in a position to emotionally and financially care for our daughter without relying on the state or any handouts. We were lucky and fell pregnant in the first month of trying, but it could have taken longer. However, we went for it because we couldn't think of any reasons not to.

We're currently thinking about number 2 and having the "are we ready" discussions. We want to move house before number 2, but also don't want a big age gap. I think we'll have to get the mortgage approval before the BFP!
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GlitterBug09 Platinum member
04/02/2011 at 07:04
I think it is more important for it to be the right time than for a woman to be the right age. The right time is different for each woman. For one of my cousins, the right age was 21. She was in a stable relationship, and happily settled in a rented home. She had worked since she was 18 and decided that at 21 she wanted to start her family. I, on the other hand, wasnt ready at 21 despite being in a stable relationship and owning my own home. My career was my focus. I got married at 26, and suddenly my career wasnt my focus anymore. We decided we wanted to try for a baby, and now at 27 Im almost 16 weeks pregnant with my first. I think babies need two things - love and stability. When you can offer a baby those things age doesnt matter.
Funshine Platinum member
08/02/2011 at 11:04
i dont belive there is a right time i think that every person is different my life hasnt gone to plan as i have all my children alot sooner than i though i would but now i feel it was the best disision i could have made as im 25 (26 in april) and im 21wks pregnant with my 4th and final child, i always wante da big family but after i had a good job and got married, it worked out i had a job got pg at 19 in 2005 had her when i was 20 and was pregnant again 3months after her birth when i was 21 had my dd2 in 2007, (both happy accidents) we got married in december 2007, we started trying for a baby in july 2008 but unfortunatly had a mmc in march 2009, we got pg again in may 2009 and when i was 24 i had my 3rd daughter in feb 2010, we are now pg again with out 4th child who is due june 2011 and our little man is much wanted im happy my life hasnt gone to plan as i have everything i could ever wish for and i do feel very lucky to have had all my children while im young i have many yrs to enjoy them growing up, I never expected to be 25 and a married mummy of 3 beautiful daughters and pregnant with a precious little boy!! but i am and i couldnt be happier!! xx
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ARG4 Gold member
27/04/2011 at 14:08
I had my first child a year and a half after I got married at the officially right age of 29 then my 2nd at 31.Both were conceived in the first month of trying and I didn't have any problems with the pregnancies.

We had always planned to have 3 or 4 children so tried for no 3 in 2006. Again I got pregnant straight away but unfortunately had a miscarriage then another one straight after that. Baby no 3 was born when I was 36 followed by another 2 miscarriages last year. I am currently 14 weeks with no 4 and having always said that I wanted to have had all my children by the age of 39 I will be just 41 when this lo is born.

For someone who likes to plan everything, I have had to learn that not everything can be controlled including when to have a baby. Obviously, my older age has increased my risk of miscarriage and it is likely that the only reason I am still pregnant is because I have been on lots of medication, but for some of us it is more to do with either the time it takes to get pregnant or not having a miscarriage rather than the right age to have a baby.
Sarah_Jane_Smith Silver member
23/05/2011 at 05:24
I think you are the right age to have children when you feel happy with yourself and your life. For me that is now that I am 25 and as I want a large family I think starting now gives me enough time to do this.

shuck, 17weeks pregnant with first child

I agree with this. Also being financially able to provide for your family is a big issue for me.
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KazzieM Platinum member
23/05/2011 at 12:31
I don't think you can decide on a right age or right time to have a baby, it all depends on individual circumstances and how you feel personally. I had my 1st at 30yrs of age and am having my 2nd now 2yrs later, which has felt right for both me and my husband. My sister had her 1st child at 20yrs old because she felt ready at that point, I don't think the outcome has been any different for us, we both have loving families. The most important factors are the home you're bringing baby into and how you are going to finance raising an additional person with increased food, clothing, bedding, washing costs.

 

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Bukzii Silver member
09/12/2012 at 01:09

Hii all, reading through all your comments is very helpful....I am in age 25 and will be 26 next year. Have a steady boyfriend, both have jobs but do not own a house yet.

I am thinking of getting married when Im 27 and have my first child when Im 28.

Please have your say

Sid89 Platinum member
09/12/2012 at 09:01
As my doctor told me, there is never a 'right time' to have a baby!!! It's such a massive impact on anybody's life that there are always obstacles in the way! I am 23 and 17 weeks pregnant! I never would have dreamed of getting pregnant at such a young age, but I did and we are thrilled!! I think as long as you can provide for it financially, feel emotionally mature enough, and can offer a loving home for a child then any age is perfect!!
Deren Lennon Silver member
16/12/2012 at 23:00
I dont believe there is a right time, i would say many women become pregnant by accident and it may not be a great time but they still make brilliant parents and love there child the same as any other. Yes maybe you should have a stable job etc. but if it wasnt for half of these accidents many of us would not be here today. I think what will be will be and as long as your a loving parent what more could a child ask for.
megha k Silver member
20/12/2012 at 05:44

Hi ,

I got Maried in OCT 2011 , now i am planning to have baby but my husband is not ready. currently my age is 26+, in other 6 months i will be 27 . I used have urine infection problem after my marriage so I am little bit concern if any problem occur if i plan my baby after 2 yrs then my age will 29+. I want to plan a baby now beacuse I want to.

Just want to know the concieving power of women ... til what age they plan .. age  factor is a big issue for having a baby? and Men too?

 

jacob weltons Silver member
05/06/2013 at 13:16

Yes, 30 right age for baby.

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