My bf and I live in a small town because of his job. I am not okay with the place we live in and do not want this city on my baby's birth certificate. We have the option of moving but he won't get a promotion but if we don't leave then I will be forced to give birth and raise my baby in a city that I do not like. This is a hard choice but I really need some advice.

Hi there, I understand your frustration...I gave birth to my twin girls in a city where wouldn't be my first choice on their birth certificate, but because the hospital of our choice was there, it had to be that way. And I made it a big deal in my mind back then as  especially when it is your first child you want everything to ideal or "perfect"...My twins are 7 years old now, and we have changed 4 locations in 7 years...and I can assure you it hasn't made a bit of a difference what it wrote on their birth certificate in our lives...it was all in my mind...

If you are not happy there, you can move eventually when you are ready from all perspectives as a family...you don't have to live there forever just because you will give birth there.

What matters most is that you and your baby are healthy, you have a man in your life that loves you and he is employed and you are financially covered. I think you would feel better if you'd focus on all the great things happening in your life right now and not to focus on what's not happening....as I said you can always move later on when it's the right time for your family....and a birth certificate is just a piece of paper...it's not worth stressing over and it's not more important than your health and your happiness as a family.....I suggest you focus on the long term benefits and try to base your decision on that and then in the meanwhile make the best of what you have....

Good luck

Ahu

You are right! 

I know I am stressing about all the little things. This is my first time so, all I am worried about it the small details that won't matter in 5 years. Silly, I know. 

No..not silly at all....I have exactly been the same way....you just get more perspective along the way, that's it....

And you know we have moved a lot due to my husband's job and had lived in some really challenging locations which wasn't my first choice but did it anyway temporarily for the financial security of our family. We made quite good savings in those years of temporary sacrifice and now we are living in our favorite location with no financial worries and are able to afford the best schools for our kids. So no regrets...And another important point is, once I accepted the fact that we would be in that location for a while, I started to the benefits of that location for our family as every place has something unique to offer, if you start to look at it from that perspective...

For example, one of the cities we have lived was quite small and there was not much to do, but Erin and Maya was very young at the time, and that kind of life sytle really was great for us and for our quality of life, as we didn't have to struggle with traffic or other big city stress factors. It was a blessing in disguise which we appreciated later on.

I am sure you can find many positive things that your location has to offer if you start to look at it from that perspective...you can just make the best of it and move on to another place when you are ready....

Ahu