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Hi there

I live in South Africa and really like this seat for my son. Please will you give me a price with postage to S.A.

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Renelle

I hate my neighbours. We live in a terraced house so have neighbours on both sides. I accept that we will always be able to hear a certain amount but its getting beyond a joke. On one side they are a couple with a little boy who is about 2 and 1/2. They row almost everynight and we are slightly concerned that he is hitting her. We hear lots of slamming and her screaming 'get off me' and 'dont touch me' He then usually slams out and she starts crying really loud. We hear the little boy saying 'daddy please dont' and crying. We have heard him shout at little boy 'do that again and i will batter you', 'shut the f**k up', 'stop f**kin crying' and similar. Last night they were rowing and he slammed the door when he was storming out so hard that a large canvas picture we have on the wall fell off!!!!!!!!

Im really peed off with it and also really worried about the little boy. I dont know if i should just let it go and put up with it cos its none of my business but i feel so bad for him. Is there anything i can do anyway? What would you do? :\?

i feel sorry for you i thought i had it bad with 2 dogs barking all the time but having that all the time is bad i don'y know what to surgest because it if you call the police it cold cause more problems for her and her child and im sure you would not want that have you tried talking to her when hes out you could just go round and say we have never got to know each other thought it was about time so it does not look like your prying get to know her then maybe she will confide in you it can be easy for people to confide in people who are not there family i don't know what else to surgest in case of problems.

if u think the kids are at risk u must tell someone, the social services or police. there is a confidencial number you can phone but i dont know it to hand. it might be that they already know theres bother but have no evidence to do anything and this might just be the thing to sort things out. it is a hard decision tho but you must think of the kids! all you can do is tell the truth without adding anything. dont say you think they are being abused just tell them what you hear them saying and the shouting.

good luck

Hi MKT86

I have to reply to this as a similar thing happened to me in my last house. It was very similar...young child, mum and dad fighting, crying, screaming, slamming doors. Eventually my OH who is a police officer went round and said he had enough. I phoned social services for all the good it did. Except they knew it was us and it made the husband quite abusive. My car got damaged etc. We moved in the end.

I think phoning the police is your only option really as its out of order. I know my husband says the police hate domestics but they have to at least go round and it is logged. You can ring social services too, as this child could be in danger.

Just thought I'd add I lived next door to a family like that but we did nothing about it. We found out later that the mum was hitting the kids and the dad was raping the girls (they 2 girls and a boy). I wish we had done something about it now but I was only 8,9 something like that. The guy has since abused other kids in the street but luckily he now has MS and can hardly move so at least theres some justice in the world! Please do something, anything.

Hi hun. We lived next door to a family like that a while ago. They had 2 boys, one was the same age as my daughter (4) and one was 2. We heard the parents screaming at them and hitting them all the time. I also saw the mum going out in the day and leaving the boys alone for hours at a time. I could hear them crying for her while she was out and once, as I was leaving my house to walk into town with Abby they were stood at the letter box, crying for their mum and the older one was saying "please come back mummy we'll be good" it broke my heart. She was constantly knocking on my door and asking if I could have them for 10 minutes and then wouldnt re-appear for hours on end and switched her phone off. I eventually couldnt take anymore and I rang the samaritans for advice and they advised me to ring social services, which I did. I was in 2 minds about doing it because I felt it wasnt really my place to get involved but I couldnt take listening to them being so neglected anymore. I dont know exactly what happened but I know that they were taken into care but are now back living with the parents and are closely supervised by social services. We've moved away now but I occassionaly see them in town and the mum looks much happier and the children seem happy and look well cared for. I still feel partially guilty for reporting them but if its made them buck up their ideas and the children are now safe I think I did the right thing.
It sounds like the family next door to you are in a similar situation, if I were you I would ring someone and tell them your concerns.
xxx

If you suspect violence, please call the police.

It's a horrible situation to be in, but like everyone has said if violence is happening it would be better to help protect the child and mother. I'm not ure but i think you can ring about your concerns anonomously. xxx

i work in a nursery that has had so many vunerable, at risk children through the doors and i would always say if you suspect any kind of abuse be it physical or emotional then please report it ot social services even say to your midwife, chances are they will have had contact with this mum or know how to help you out. Health visitors are good as well as they can do visits "just to see that everything is okay" There are few weeks that go by that we don't have to write incident reports about bruises or marks on children or behaviours acted out or things children say.
Always remember the safety of the child is always the most important thing to consider.
Hope you get possitve results from whatever you do and the people you tell will be helpful, love fiona and bump

Please, please report this. It sounds like the mother is unable to protect herself and her child, and the little boy is already at least being terribly emotionally damaged. Unfortunately these situations can get increasingly worse with time, and women and children end up in even worse danger, sometimes with fatal consequences.
Also, it won't be great for your child/ren if they hear this going on.
i really hope it all goes well xxx

I really feel for you, if you can/want to report it, I just hope social services and the police are better in your area than mine (northants). My step sis is abused by her fella, they have 4 kids 3 and under. Its suspected that the 3 eldest (all girls) have been touch by his friends. The 3 yr old speaks in detail of whats happened. No 3yr would know such things unless it happened. Anyway nothing has happened, police won't take the childs word for it. She wont leave him (has had various handouts/chances to). Social services said they couldnt live with the father till he had anger managment, drug therapy (he takes all benefit money for food clothe etc, spends on drugs- neither work) he never had any such therapy and then social services arranged for the deposit for a place for them ALL to live together. Even though they know he tells the children he doesn't love them/want them and his daughter is a lying little f***er when its comes to his friends.
So even when you ask for help from the right people, sometimes nothing happens. Good luck though x x