i was out with my friends at the weekend 1 is also pregnant and we were comparing bump sizes. compared to hers im quite a lot bigger but i thought i was small we are both 18 weeks. my other friend said maybe im carrying more fluids or its going to be a fat baby. this really upset me cos it was like she was saying im fat. im only 5'2 and size 12 so i guess its going to show quicker.
how did you cope with comments when you were expecting? its really bugged me for days now and feel so fed up now
thank you both! you've put a smile on my face again now!! and you're right Deeders, i should be proud of it and i am!
Love the nickname you're going to have! think i'll adopt it if you dont mind?!
Just wish people would keep their big nosey self opinionated noses out :/
thank you ladies
Thanks myBs im glad its not just me who's had the comments. why do people do it? its sad and very thoughtless.
is a high bump a girl and a low bump a boy? i cant remember which way round it is!
hi dippyrose i work with pregnant women and have lost count of how many get upset for being told they are too big, too small, etc etc. its as if the general public are all experts! A major thing to do with it is your height - a shorter mummy will have a baby that comes out more because it cant be as hidden in her torso. it does not mean you are fat/your baby is fat/you're having twins etc etc. When i was pregnant i had a little bump and was told over and over i wasnt looking after myself. my bubba was 8lb 13 oz, im tall! ignore the lot of them. celebrate your wonderful body for growing a lovely baby and feel sorry for them that they havent got anything better to do than torment pregnant women - probably just jealous x
Im just starting to get this from people.
Im 20 weeks today and already had a bit of a tum before falling pregnant, im 5ft 7ins and size 16-18.
I dont feel as though i have a bump just a fat belly lol. Im sick of people staring at my tum wondering whats going on down there!!
This subject is something that always makes me so angry. I will share my story with you in the hope that it makes you feel a bit better!
When I got pregnant I carried a lot of fluid in the early stages and was in maternity trousers at 11 weeks! My hubby's grandma actually said to me when I was four months; 'you are plonking on all this weight and you still have so long to go! You are going to be huge and its not fair on the baby'. I posted pictures of my growing bump on facebook and the amount of 'you are huge, that baby is going to be a monster!' comments I got were just silly. It all really upset me and I had to work really hard to ignore people and keep eating well. At a time when I should have been on top of the world I felt more self concious than ever about what I was eating. Having suffered from an eating disorder in my teens I started to get anxious that I would relapse. However, there was this driving force within me to eat well for my baby and I am proud to say that I managed to steer clear of any ED related issues. Anyway, by the time I got to about 7 months I was being critised by the very same people who called me fat for being too thin!! The fluid retention stopped and the water weight went away and what I was left with was a lovely neat bump. However, I still had people make comments if I ate something fattening about how I shouldnt 'eat for two', and then in the next breath someone would make a comment about how my bump was far too small and my baby would be tiny. My mother in law accused me of not eating properly because I couldnt manage to eat all of a giant sized dinner she had cooked me. The reality was that once I got to about 7 months I couldnt handle big meals because there was a baby pressing on my tummy! I suffered from really bad acid reflux so I ate 4 small meals a day plus two snacks. I ate healthily, but to be honest, no more healthily than I usually do - I still had a packet of crisps every day and the occasional chocolate bar. Anyway, my midwife reassured me that my bump was small but still normal and my weight gain was in the normal range. For every person that said my bump was too small, there was always someone who would watch me eat and make a 'eating for two' comment. I felt like I couldnt win. However, I went on to have a 7lb 15oz baby - so not tiny like everyone predicted. The only thing I can say is that you need to find a way to handle the comments because even after the baby is born they do not stop. I lost my baby weight quickly and have been critised for that too! Never mind the fact that my daughter had colic and I couldnt put her down for three months. I struggled to eat because I was struggling with my baby and spent a large portion of the day holding in a wee whilst I walked the living room floor crying with a screaming baby! When ever any one saw me, the only thing anyone would comment on was my weight! It has driven me mad! I wouldnt mind if I was super skinny, but I am a size 10! I was a size 10-12 before I got pregnant and now I am a little bit smaller. The way people talk you would think I was a size 0 or something! The only real advice I have is ignore anyone who doesnt pay you a compliment! x
Thanks for sharing that Glitterbug, I can totally relate, the second you find out your pregnant everyone thinks its their god given right to comment on your weight gain, what you eat and bump size! I have been really shocked with how blatant people have been with me.
If I eat healthily I get "make sure you eat enough for your baby" if I relax and have a weekend off i get "she is "enjoying" her pregnancy isnt she"... I cant win.
I am tall and broad so I was surprised that I showed in my pregnancy early, I have a big bump and look as big as a few people I know who are a month ahead of me. I wasnt expecting that with being tall. I gain weight quite fast between weeks 10 - 22 but its slowed down now and stayed pretty stable since.
I live on diets so when we found out I was pregnant I ate whatever I fancied for teh first trimester, i gained weight and realised I was eating too much, so I now eat very healthily but if I fancy something I will have it and relax more on weekends. I am making sure I get my reccomended calories and that most (not all) is really healthy stuff for the baby.. I do indulge in a packet of crisps every day (healthiest I can get like quavers, skips, baked varities etc) and a biscuit... the rest I eat is fairly healthy - meat, fish, salad, veg, rice, new potatoes, all bran cereal, brown bread etc...
I havent felt however that I can eat what I like as everyone has really been open / forward with what I should / shouldnt be doing. Ive even been told I shouldnt get stretchmarks!!! (like I can control that?!).
You name the comment about a bump size I have had it! "wow it must be twins", or "you sure you have your dates right?" or "you look like you are about to drop" or "I was never that big with my pregnancy" or "you are going to have a BIG baby" or my favourite "you know all that weight wont come off afterwards"...
im learning to just ignore it but its not fair, I have voxwed to never comment on a ladies bump EVER again after this experience as when you are feeling the most vulnerable and self concious about the changes to your body you dont need every person having a go, whether they mean it badly or not.
Right rant over! ha ha!
But trust me you are not on your own and try not to let anything anyone says bother you
i just tried to take it as a positive. i;'d wanted to be pg for so long i was excited to be showing and just saw all the comments i was growing a lovely place that was comfortable for my little boy!!! anyway despite being massive and gaining four stone!!!! my boy was only 7 pounds 5 and a half so not a problem for him!!!
People do think they can give their opinion but just be proud fo that bump and worry about any weight loss after xxx
We are all different shapes and sizes and no 2 bumps will look the same!
Me and my best friend are 2 weeks apart and have totally different shaped bumps.
I have only gained a stone but because i was small to start off with, i have a beach ball shape bump that sticks out and people keep commenting on the size of it! I just retort that it hasn't got anywhere else to go other than stick out! I have not spread anywhere else and am wearing size 8 maternity clothes!
Hi I am 27+1 all my life I have battled with my weight. When I fell pg I started eating heathily thinking of the little1 inside me that needed my help to grow and become a little baby. I ate so well and so poorly before that i lost 5/6 pound in the first 5 months. I have constantly been told 'your big' , 'you know you shouldnt eat for two' 'dont you think you had enough extra weight to start off with?', 'twins?', 'your dates are wrong' and 'your baby is going to huge and you will have trouble in labour'. Yes I was/am bigger lady but I just feel bigger, and apart from needing help sometimes to get up from sofa (I swear it likes to swallow me sometimes lol) I dont feel very 'front heavy'. I am very happy being pregnant but know i have the hardest bit to go yet! but i wish people would keep their opinions to them selves. Every1 seems to think its ok to comment on my bump size and because of history of constantly fighting my weight it really gets me down. From day 1 of work colleagues knowing 1 person took great delight from the beginning in saying about bump 'your huge' and another colleague has nick-named me 'fatty!' Lovely!! xx
Sounds like shes a bit jealous of ur bump... Its nice to have a nice big healthy bump to show off and be proud off... every body is different, and tbh every bump is different... Both my pregnancies I carried very differently, both different shapes and most deffinatly different sizes... as were/are my babies... Try to just ignore these comments and enjoy ur bump for being ur bump... ignore all those who feel their experts with a godgiven right to comment xxx
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