feelin really down - Pregnancy

sammi1989

21/02/2009 at 17:21

heya girls just wanna have a rant coz dnt really have any 1 2 tlk 2 bout how i feel... i feel like i dnt wanna b with my oh any more im really no happy and he dont seem 2 understand wot he dus hurts me he works in a pub so works nite and weekends so me n dd dnt really c him much from thursday to monday. he reckon he neva gets to go out but play darts on a tuesday and pool on a sunday and stays 4 a few drinks after work at weekends... but he lies and if i get mardy with him 4 not comin home early he dont come home till early hours. im 6 months pg and just dnt feel like i get any support from him or that he wants me... i really dont no wot to do i dont no if i trust him any more as he never answer the fone to me and just egnores me and makes out to ppl that i dont let him out. soory 4 the long post but i really dont no wot 2 do any advise plz xxx

carlyfee

21/02/2009 at 17:45

I'm sorry you are feeling low!! I don't really have any advice but didn't want to r and r!! MY oh is doing my head in at the moment ! i think its the hormones making me worse but for two pins i'd have gone to my mums lastnight !!
I hope it works out for you!!xxxxx
carly 32 weeksxx

mrs ward

21/02/2009 at 17:55

hi hun have replied in the june forum. xx

xkelx

22/02/2009 at 08:03

Hey hun just seen your post you could have spoken to me if you wanted to.
Tbh I don't really know what to tell you to do because I don't know how you're feeling but if you're really unhappy then you gotta do something about it now before baby is born or things could get worse when emotions are running at a high!
Tell him how you feel and maybe try and spend a bit of time just the two of you without Briany so you can have chance to have a good chat and sort things out.
Hope you're feeling better.
xxx

tinkerbell83 Platinum member

22/02/2009 at 08:35

hi ya hun i was exactily the same but my oh walked out on me 2 weeks ago im 7 months preg and he still wants to be with me but dont want to live with me ffs and im haveing his baby he wanted to cum and go as he pleases typical man your oh sounds the same just let him get on with it babe cos everytime i tryed to talk to him he just said w.e i found pics of girls on net and everything to be honest he sounds a looser u r beta off alone cos u wont get any happyer hes left me with 3 kids and another on the way and i am stuggleing but i will get through it dont let him f.... your head up babe cos he will keep doing it men r wankers end of if u do decide to get rid u will be fine im copeing and ive got no family or support and im slowly takeing each day as it comes im totally heart borken and cry my eyes out every night over him but im getting stronger u will have bad days but gud aswell u can try talking to him if he approchable and if he ent show him the door cos u can do with out the shit at the mo he will come sniffin wen your baby is born and it will be to late thn and hel have nobody to blame but himself tc hun and im thinking of u let me no how u get on with the numpty xxx

sammi1989

22/02/2009 at 08:40

hey thanx 4 the replys. i have sat down and spoke to him and hes sed he wud change coz he relaises wot hes doin makin me feel like shit... but once agen he jsut dus wot he wants, i dnt wana end it with him but dnt wont him 2 fink im a pushova n wlk all ove me.. wen we sat down and spoke a couple ov weeks ago i told him this was the last chance and hes just dun it agen shud i stick 2 it and tell him 2 go or giv it 1 more go... i really dont no wot 2 do! i do luv him but is that enuff? x x

sammi1989

22/02/2009 at 08:49

just read the reply from tinkerbell83. sorry to hear bout ur oh. men really are dicks. im gonna sit down and tlk to him to nite i fink thats if he comes home... it dont help that he works at the pub his mum runs... thy all take his side and make out that i course thses problems... i packed all his bags this mornin so i will leave the choose to him and c wot he takes ... xxx

xkelx

22/02/2009 at 08:55

You've gotta set yourself a limit and don't keep giving him second chances. Tell him how it is no questions and if he doesn't like it he can go.
Not all men are wankers..but deep down only you knows what he' really like and if he's able to change. It's just unfortunate that these things happen at the worst of times.
xxx

tinkerbell83 Platinum member

22/02/2009 at 11:11

all i seam to get r wankers i ent met a gud man yet where do u get yours frm kel lol can u find me 1 xx

Clare_Be

22/02/2009 at 12:25

Hey hun,
Didn't want to read and run but prob don't have much in the way of help. It sounds like you're in an awful situation. The only thing I can say is I once split up with a guy who I was head over heels for but kept treating me like I didn't matter. It was the hardest thing to do and it was nowhere near as complicated as your situation (no house, kids, etc). Anyway it was the best thing I ever did. I was down for a while and saw a couple of other fellas but then I met my husband and I cannot imagine being with anyone else. He's so kind and patient and wonderful so just remember there are some good ones out there and if you don't feel you can be the person you want to be then maybe it is time, for both of you.

Be happy.

xkelx

22/02/2009 at 12:38

lol tinkerbell83 they don't come round too often I think you gotta get through a few nob heads before you get to him!
xxx

tinkerbell83 Platinum member

22/02/2009 at 12:42

still dont change the fact im 7 mnths preg with my 4th child who the hell is gonna want me now nobody is gonna give me a second look haveing 4 kids at 26 im stuffed and im so scared i dont no how im gona cope xxx

xkelx

22/02/2009 at 12:53

you will find the right one one day there are plenty of decent guys out there and until then you should enjoy your kids and spend time with friends.
I know its not as easy as that but you will cope for the sake of your kids.
xx

tinkerbell83 Platinum member

22/02/2009 at 14:06

god i wish i had your strength hes just knocked my confidense right out of me i think doing this cos i never ever thought hed ever leave me he was besotted atleast i thought he was i just love him so much and the kids do to they r missing him terribly my youngest has braindamage and domt understand hes started self harming like banging his head and smacking himself in the face and swearing at me hes just reacted so bad and the other 2 dont no weather they r comeing or going and they r being so naughty ive screamed at them 2 2 days now they just wont listen to me they just laugh at me and all i do is cry god im so pathetic xxx

xkelx

22/02/2009 at 14:14

I'm sure my strength would have been knocked too if I was you. Have you got anyone to help you out until you get back on your feet like your mum or a close friend?
xxx

tinkerbell83 Platinum member

22/02/2009 at 14:41

nope its just me my mom is in birmingham and im in norfolk im here on my own so im stuffed my kids have even got to go into foster care wen i have baby cos i ent got any1 to look after them men a they dunalf leave u in the shit xx

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