Another honest opinion thread.

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Team_Blue_aka_doublebubble Platinum member

06/06/2009 at 14:22

Hi

After you were all kind enough to be honest with my elective c-section thread wondered if you cld post what you really think about me being pregnant with no4 (esp considering i will have 4 under 3 when baby is born)

So far i have been really surprised with the response i have had from some people so would love to know what your really think

and as always you cant offend me

xxDBxx

06/06/2009 at 14:25

I think its fab!!!!

I would have abig family if i could but Lee is 37 this year and it took 18 months ttc gracie faye so its juts not possible for us.

I say as long as you can support your brood then fair enough! yay for more babys :lol: xx

MrsTreacle Platinum member

06/06/2009 at 14:29

I think your nuts!!! in the kindest possible way. I would love to have more kids however I don't think I could cope. I take my hat off to you for being so selfless.

As mrs gladwin2b says as long as you can support your kiddies then go for it. I came from a family of 4 & I am a twin myself. My brothers & sisters made my chiildhood. Got so much admiration for my mother now. i don't think I could have done it xx

lushlowy

06/06/2009 at 14:30

Hi I norm post on due in aug but this caught my eye, lol!!!!

Personally I think your crazy hehe!! No really though if it was me I really couldnt cope but your not me and I'm sure you've thought this through!!
My friend had three under three none of which we're planned, wanted but not planned and she managed fine!!
All babies need is a good loving family and I'm sure yours all have that so your all gonna be great!!

And also it doesnt matter what people think it's just what works for your family that matters!!

Lowy 29+6
xxx

bride-carly-barleyx Platinum member

06/06/2009 at 14:31

I personally think your amazing and very very brave!
I'm pregnant with number 3 and although Abby is 5, Theo will only be 10 months and 10 days old on the day I go in to be induced and I am completley terrified about how I'm going to cope.
Part of me feels incredibly guilty, how am I ever going to be able to give the kids all they need when I'm going to have so much to do? I keep beating myself up for falling pregnant again so quickly because I feel like I'm rushing Theo through his baby years.
But on the other hand I am looking forward to having this baby and I think I'm a good mum to my children and cant wait to have another little one.
If you feel that you can cope with your children and can be a good mum to all of them then good for you!
I dont know about you but I'm so sick of people telling me I'm mad for having another baby so soon. Truth is I'm trying to make the best out of whats happened, this baby wasn't planned. I fell pregnant breast feeding as no one explained the ovulation thing properly and I was terrified and pretty much devestated when I found out I was pregnant again when Theo was 8 weeks old. But I couldnt look at my newborn son and consider aborting the new baby inside me, I dont think anyone could when they'd just given birth to a beautiful little boy and I dont regret my decision to have my baby at all, yes I'm scared but its a good kind and I'm excited too. I wish people would just think before they tell me I'm insane.
Oh and I'd be really grateful for any advice you might have!
xxx

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caitsb

06/06/2009 at 14:32

i think its fantastic, i would really love 3 or 4 children in a close age range. My SIL has 4 children aged 13,11,9 & 7 and i think its wicked, the kids all play together and share so much. The thing is you have twins so thats why you will have 4 so close together. Ideally i would like to be pregnant or have had my 3rd by the time im 30, im 26 now. I watch my nieces and nephews and they have a fantastic life and great relationships. Plus my SIL& BIL have all there kids going through thing in close succession and will be up at out not long after each other.
There life is hectic but easier as all the children are amused by similar things making holidays etc much easier.
I think your so lucky to have children close in age and so are your children.
xcx
17+4

gemmiebaby Platinum member

06/06/2009 at 14:33

Another one who thinks youre mad here!

I think that you should go with what you feel. You obviously wanted this so why shouldnt you have it? Im unsure as to what people could say against it to be honest. You look after them, you support them, you want them and above all you love them...whats the problem??

(I know that im living the ideal there as people will always have problems!!)

Little_Miss_Bump Platinum member

06/06/2009 at 15:10

I think you are super mum... I had my first at 19 and never ever do it again, but got to 35 and started to brood so hence no 2 being born i could have hundreds more as i love motherhood now but sadly no 3 is the last as bio clock is now stopping.. I Admire you and kindo envy you xx

EnglebertW_nkface Platinum member

06/06/2009 at 15:20

Gatecrashing, I think you're slightly mad, but in a really good way and tbh in your postition I probably would have done exactly the same. I don't (personally) like odd numbers of children as I think it means someone always gets left out, so to me 4 is a better number than 3!! I'm not sure that having 3, or 4, or 5 kids is much harder than 2 and tbh I think it's the first one that is the hardest and you coped with twins so I'm sure you'll have no trouble with 4.
xxx

unhappy_EX_user Platinum member

06/06/2009 at 15:21

I think once you have had twins any more after that have got to be a doddle surely!!

I only want 2 children but if I had 2 boys or 2 girls I would have more in the hope I got the one I was after and I would personally rather have 4 than 3 (nothing against people with 3 children!!)

I think its lovely they are going to be so close together, it means you won't have years nappy free etc and then have to go back to it all and when they grow up and move on they will all do it at similar times (you would hope lol) they will also be a lot closer and entertain each other more, my aunt has got 4, there is an 11 year age gap between the oldest and youngest and they don't really interact because they are in such different places in their lives!

You obviously planned to have them this close together and you must be over the moon to have such a lovely sized family so why should anyone make you feel bad about yourself??

moony

06/06/2009 at 16:40

I think its great that they are all so close in age and they will benefit from being close in age.
But I also think 'wow how does she cope!'
I'm pregnant with baby no.2, they'll both be under 2, and i have said definantly nomore for a good few years!
But if you feel confident and are coping fine etc, then no-one has the right to judge you x

rockmama2855 Platinum member

06/06/2009 at 16:54

I think it is fab honey and i am secretly hoping you have number five when i have number 3 simple so i get the bed next to you in hospital.

When i told oh i was pregnant this time-his response was 'hope its twins or triplet' lol.

As you know Ruby is almost 1 and when number 2 comes there will be 18month gap. . . hopefully number 3 will follow asap.xxx

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doozer81

06/06/2009 at 17:17

i think it's fab hun, but then i would cause i've got 4 (and i'm one of 5!!!) lol!!! imo it really is the more the merrier, and i love my brood!!! yes they can be hard work, but the rewards are so so worth it!!! but at the end of the day as long as u and ur oh are happy it's noone elses business to pass judgement!!! xxxx

EmCB

06/06/2009 at 17:28

I think you're brave, and I also think some people say very rude things about other people's family choices! I can't understand why anyone would tell someone who was having a baby that it was 'too soon' - not a lot they can do about it now, eh?! I think you're incredible, DB! I want 3 altogether, and hubby wants them pretty close in age, which I didn't used to want - probably because there's a five year age gap between me and my sister, and another 5 between her and my bro. Now I'm pregnant we've talked about trying again, all being well, when lo is 6 months old. I know a collegue whose first baby was 6 weeks old when she discovered she was pregnant with her second - eep! but fair play to her, that's exactly what she wanted!

Em 15+5 x x x

If the other EmilyB reads this, can I have my username back please?

Team_Blue_aka_doublebubble Platinum member

07/06/2009 at 05:58

Thank you so much for all your replies, im amazed at how positive they are, people in 'real life' are so much more negative, they only seem to see the bad things (including my gran who had 6 of her own, the cheek lol).

Yes it is hard at times we both work at dh does really long hours so am on my own most of the time but the rewards are amazing, watching the older 2 try and help baby learn to walk, seeing them play together, getting 3 lots of cuddles. The only thing i hate is the housework, as when they are asleep like now, i like to have a few minutes to myself and come on here with a cuppa, which means i spend all evening catching up but hey ho, cant have everything.

thanks again

xxDBxx

SugarnSpicebump Platinum member

07/06/2009 at 06:19

I think you are amazing hun!!! Truely

First of all I'm not sure I could ever cope having twins!!! let alone two more to follow!!
I think it's great hun and I def think 4 is the way to go!! I really want to have 4 close together as you know. It's just getting the oh to agree thats the hard part! lol!!

I'm sure you will be fine hun and don't care what other people say to you! I know it's hard but I'm sure they are all secretly jealous!! It's just their way of making themselves feel better

Your right about the housework tho, thats prob the only thing that really winds me up!!!!

You are a fantastic mummy and your doing a great job

Love Sarah and girls x x x x x x x x

annebop

07/06/2009 at 06:47

I think you are mad, totally and utterly bonkers! Honestly I can hardly imagine coping with one - still hoping to get my head around that come December LOL!!

If very close people to you are being slightly negative but are doing this because they are genuinely concerned, then I think that is understandable.

My personal opinion though is that you have the right to live your life as you want. If this is what you want (and it very obviously is), then thats fine, what other people think should never matter.

I take my hat off to you, I think you are super woman and honestly are an inspiration xx

mummyGG

07/06/2009 at 06:50

I wouldnt think anything apart from "I bet she is tired" lol....

Honestly I wouldnt think anything! And I am very opinionated haha!! xxx

K-lou

07/06/2009 at 06:55

I think your mad and brave LOL but each women is very different, I don;t think I could cope with so many small babies but then I have not one yet so you never know till it happens.

I think super mum springs to mind as well

K xxxx
31+4

Baby_B

07/06/2009 at 06:55

I think you're nuts! Mainly from a money point of view I can't imagine having 4 children. What with school uniforms, lunches, school trips, holidays etc etc. You'd need a bigger car, house etc. And then coping with them having exams, being taxi to 4 teenagers, uni, weddings - argh!

But that's just me! I think it's great if it's what you are happy with. Hats off to you as I don't think I'd cope at all. 2 is my limit!