Hi girls
Just a bit of a let out really. I'm 36 weeks today (YIPPEE) and me and DH were chatting as MIL asked if I fancied a trip out to middlesex on Tuesday (about an hour away). I politely declined and said I wasn't traveling too far now, just locally as bubs could come at any time. I told DH and rather than him say "good for you" I got "well I dont' want you driving at all".
I understand where he is comign from but he goes tow ork at 6 and comes home between 6-7, I have been off 4 weeks on annual leave and start mat leave tomorrow and have had plenty to do but sometimes just a bit of fresh air in the local town does me good as I go stir crazy here! We don't have a massive place and it's spick and spam lol!
It ended up getting quite heated as he started saying I shouldn't be driving at all but I dont see why I can't make little 5 min trips to town or 10 min trips to our local shopping centre. I carry my notes in the car and my hospital bag if I go to my mums who is 20 mins away.
I know he just cares but now I feel a bit in limbo as to whether I should go to my mums for the day as planned. He is worried i'm goin to go into labour in the car but have tried explaining that it wont' happen THAT quickly. If I had any pains/niggles/waters or anything I would stay at home anyway and my mum is actually closer to my hospital than we are.
Has anybody else had thisand managed to explain to their hubby's that it will be ok? If I go 2 weeks over thats 6 weeks of staring at 4 walls and If I watch anymore JK I will cry!
Dont' get me wrong girls, I do completely understand it's tough for them but I have only made 2 journeys last week to town and to the dry cleaners and thats it so it's not as if i'm jetsetting! God, i'm lucky to get my ass out of bed most days!
No need to reply really, just letting off as I feel a bit confused!
Thanks
Em
36 weeks today!
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Of course you should still be driving if you feel up to it. You need to take the next month to enjoy yourself and get ready for the baby. Being stuck in the house will just drive you crazy. I had my first baby at 41 + 4 and drove up until the day before. I was going swimming until the week before. Once I felt like labour was starting, I didn't go out.Keeping up and active will also keep your baby in a good position. Sitting on the sofa all day will only encourage it to go back to back.

if u feel well enough to drive the u should! at the end of the day its ur body and u no wat u feel up to and wat u dont feel up to! i went to wembley (about 2 hours from home) to see take that wen i was 37 weeks lol!!!

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Oh EmmaH I'm sorry your OH feels like this. As long as you feel fit enough to drive, then I think it's a bit unfair of him. What are his reasons? Is it you going out at all or would he be happier for you to use public transport?

I'm 37 weeks and yesterday visited some family who were over an hours drive away. I'm off to the theatre with some friends tomorrow night and that's about a 45 minute drive each way. Personally I feel fine and fit enough to drive. I know you can't be sure but baby doesn't feel like it's coming anytime soon and I intend to drive for as long as possible. Of course if I felt under the weather or had any signs of labour, then I wouldn't be leaving the house!

I wish you lots of luck with your DH but remember you don't have to stop just because he says so. Debate the issue and if he's can't give good enough reasons, then I'd stand your ground and continue to drive xx

What the hell does he expect you to do all day, sit at home and darn his socks??

DD was born early, however, I dorve myself (with DH) to the hospital for the checkup that prompted her induction, to discover that I was contracting and was 3 1/2 cm dilated! And I still didn't crash and kill myself, so I'd say you pootling to your mums is perfectly safe.

Hi Emma

I just get the "becareful" comment which is fine. Tbh my OH knows i wouldn't listen to him anyway, i know my body a lot better than he does and so i'll continue to drive until i don't feel comfortable with it. I'm 38 weeks today and tbh staying in would drve me completelty nuts, i don't feel if you feel ok that he should tel you not to drive. Ok i understand his concerns but you know yourself better than he does at this time, so think he just needs to understand that a little more.

I have asked OH to come with me on Friday i have to take my son to meet his dad about 30 mins away, but traffic on M40 makes the journey back longer, and i don't fancy getting caught on the motorway.

This is my one fear for also having a c-sec, not being able to drive.

Drive until YOU don't feel comfortable anymore.

Marie
38 Weeks today x

Thanks girls for replying, you didn't have too.
I do feel completely comfortable driving and if Ifelt for one second I would go into labour today I wouldn't chance it. He seems to think i'm going to be driving and all of a sudden get a huge contraction thats going to cause me to crash or stop the car and he doesn't quite get that i'm going to get some kind of warning before that happens. And anyway that could happen sitting at home by myself all day.
I'm not silly, I take my notes and my hospital bags are in the car and if I felt ill for some reason I wouldn't drive or would get my mum to drive me home.
I honestly would go stir crazy sitting in. I'm getting bored just poodling around anyway! Yes it's harder with a big bump but I am still the same me that was very active before.
Thanks again girls, I have text him to tell him where I am going and told him I will keep him updated when I get to mums/leaving etc so he knows roughly where I am but apart from that there isn't much else I can do.
Unfortunately unless he wants to take the next 4 weeks off and drive me places I dont' see much option!
Em
36+1
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Thanks girls for replying, you didn't have too.
I do feel completely comfortable driving and if Ifelt for one second I would go into labour today I wouldn't chance it. He seems to think i'm going to be driving and all of a sudden get a huge contraction thats going to cause me to crash or stop the car and he doesn't quite get that i'm going to get some kind of warning before that happens. And anyway that could happen sitting at home by myself all day.
I'm not silly, I take my notes and my hospital bags are in the car and if I felt ill for some reason I wouldn't drive or would get my mum to drive me home.
I honestly would go stir crazy sitting in. I'm getting bored just poodling around anyway! Yes it's harder with a big bump but I am still the same me that was very active before.
Thanks again girls, I have text him to tell him where I am going and told him I will keep him updated when I get to mums/leaving etc so he knows roughly where I am but apart from that there isn't much else I can do.
Unfortunately unless he wants to take the next 4 weeks off and drive me places I dont' see much option!
Em
36+1
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i reckon the problem is thanks to TV and films - whenever someone goes into labour (on tv) they rush them to hospital and the baby is born within about 5 minutes with one big push

in fact until a couple of years ago i had no idea that labour could take several days

so i think men can be forgiven for thinking the baby would just pop out :lol:

well done on having a chat with him and standing your ground though

You stick to your guns. Its different if you dont feel up to it. Ive never really driven too far after about 30 weeks in any of my pg, but thats because i suffer with pelvic probs and its too painful. I crashed my car at 29 weeks during my first pg coz i was so distracted with the pain. Now although im not bad i find it too much getting the kids in and out of their car seats, but im still driving.

You do what feels right for you, and like your oh said just take extra care.

Gemm x
30+2

I drove most of the way through my first pregnancy - including taking some friends who'd come to visit for a snowy drive into the highlands at 38 weeks! If you feel fine and have your notes with you "just in case" I can't see it being a problem. I'll be driving into town most days through this pregnancy as I have a toddler and I can't see her understanding why she can't go to her toddler groups to see her friends ;\)

(Please note I don't recommend taking snowy drives into the highlands when heavily pregnant ;\) )

[Modified by: GoldenShades on November 23, 2009 12:37 PM]

I agree with the other ladies, and it's probably just a case of him wanting you to be careful when driving and not being too far away if something were to happen when you were out and about.

I've got no choice with the whole driving thing as both my hubby and I work 25 miles from home and he can't drive. As my husband is a chef he works late so even when I drive home from work I still have to go back out at about 10pm to pick him up and do the 25 miles each way again. He can drive with the L plates on so thankfully he'll still be able to drive me to the hospital when I go into labour.

Vix 31+5