Hi ladies...some of you will know me and know my history. I am 5+3 today on preg no 3. (2mc) Please tell me how you cope. I woke up sobbing last night, actually in tears as I type this, this is too hard. The past few days I had sore boobs, a bit of reflux and actually allowed myself to feel a tiny bit of hope. Everything is gone now, and I have mild cramps in my tummy. Im sure its over. Just waiting to bleed. I know all the advice, relax, nothing you can do, try to be positive. I just cant do it! I read an article by someone who had recurrent mc which said that she found it a relief when the bleeding started. She knew how to do that. I feel the same. I know stress isnt good for you or the pregnancy but I cant stop it. Ive got to just take one day at a time but im already devastated. I just wanted to get this out. No point in going to docs or epu, im too early. Nothing anyone can do. Feel as if im completely alone and I just want this to end, but I dont, I want to hold a beautiful baby in my arms. Sorry for the rant, just not coping at all.
Tracy x

Oh Hun I totally sympathise with you... I am on pregnancy 4 after 3 miscarriages.... And I felt totally the same as you last time I never had any hope that things would be ok, all my symptoms dissappered and I just knew it would all go wrong again.

This time I have just carried on as normal have not really thought about being pregnant and we have told nobody so nobody treats me any different and I can sort if get through each day forgetting I am pregnant. It's really sad that I have to do that but I am coping much better this time.....

I have a few symptoms so far, boobs are sore I am constantly hungry, but I no if they go away I will worry. The only true reassurance is a scan but I am terrified of scans as all of mine have been bad news!!!

I don't think there is an answer to all this, all we can do it get through each day and see what the world brings us..... We can't change what will happen and I just keep telling myself I have more chance of a healthy pregnancy than a miscarriage so just keep thinking that....

Have the hospital give you any reason for your miscarriages??? All my tests came back totally normal so I know there is nothing wrong with me and just hope this time is the right time!!!!!

If you need to chat just message me.... We have to stay as strong as possible to get each other through this...... I just wish I had a crystal ball!!

I have my first hospital appointment on Friday when I will be 6 weeks.... So scared and not sure what they are going to do!!!

Take care Hun x sending big hugs x

hey i've replied privately to you love but just wanted to say on here again that i really hope that this is a bad case of the jitters and that everything works out for you....i have absolutely everything crossed.

i know theres not a lot to see at 6 weeks but you are not that far away from six weeks so it might be an idea to ring the epu to book in for then..... it might give you some peace of mind

thinking of you lots and lots honey xxx

Thnx for the reply 3054....it's so distressing. All my tests have been fine, just bad luck. Hospital appt isn't till 15th, at 7 weeks. We will see if I make it till then. Every symptom has stopped. I usually start to bleed quite quickly, so should know soon enough. We shouldn't have to go through these things, it's not bloody fair. Thanks again, and I wish you all the good things you so deserve xx

Oh I really feel for you, I actually don't know how I got through the first few weeks but I did, I didn't have any symptoms and I bled but everything is still going well now (am 29 weeks). I think I tried really hard to not think about anything baby related and kept busy, its really tough but you don't have a choice-before you know it those long hours become days and days become weeks. What you're going through sounds completely normal, I remember crying myself to sleep night after night as I was so convinced that I was going to miscarry, you over analyze every little twinge and start driving yourself crazy. I got to the point where I wished I hadn't started ttc after m/c as the first few weeks were so torturous. I really don't have any better advice as I think you can only keep plodding on through these weeks, one way or another you'll come through the other side of it and these few weeks will seem a world away. I wish you both so much luck, remember we're here if you ever want a rant!!
xxx

Tracy I hate knowing you're feeling like this this, I really feel for you, and you know I know what you're going through. I'm not going to say relax because we know how hard that is and such an easy thing for other people to say, if anybody said that to me I wanted to punch them! I was told by my consultant, my doctor, midwives, my dad! that my mc's were all just bad luck, a bad hand, next time will be different and I never believed any of them. Being disappointed was normal for me, I could never feel any hope because as 3054 also said about hers, none of my scans ever gave me any reason for hope (and I had a lot of scans!).

But as you know i'm now almost 22 wks pregnant which feels like a complete miracle to me, I can feel my baby doing somersaults and sometimes I still feel it may go wrong. But then I feel really guilty for feeling that because it's like i'm not giving her a chance and if I can't give her a chance then who will? I had a bleed when I was 8 wks and was convinced that it was all over again. I went for a scan and refused to look at the screen until the mw made me look. I honestly thought I would see what i'd seen so many times before but I didn't and the mw basically told me off(which is what I needed, she had been scanning me since my first mc so knew what i'd gone through and why I was scared).

So basically what i'm trying to say is don't write this off because you only know how to deal with disappointment. Think of that little baby who's growing and will be giving you symptoms to be proud of soon (mine didn't start until about 9 wks), please speak to your gp and tell him/her all of this. You need someone in the profession who will support you (as we all will too) and give you the relief you desperatly need. It's been shown that regular scans help women like us who have suffered mc's and I really think you need this. As speccles said a scan at 6 wks will show something and this will do you the world of good.

I hope I don't come across as telling you off, i'm not at all, I desperately want this to work for you and I know how you feel, we all do. I'm finally speaking from experiance when saying you can get through this, I don't know how the hell I did but the point is I did and you will too xxx

Thankyou all so much, I honestly can't put into words how wonderful your support is. This really messes with your head.
Jojo, when you mentioned crying yourself to sleep that just echoes how desolate I feel. I have to try and pull myself together, what will be will be. I'm getting quite a lot of tummy cramps today which are bringing me down. Could be something could be nothing. I'm going to try and hold out till 7 weeks.
Thankyou all again, it helps that you all understand.
3054, you look after yourself and good luck for Friday.
Kwn, you are wonderful as always xx
Jojo, you know exactly how I'm feeling, thanks for sharing your experience with me xx
Speccles....thankyou xx

Tashelby, I know how you feel. I am currently 7+2 after two mc in Nov and Jan. Every twinge or ache worries me. Every time I go to the loo I'm worried to look down in case I'm bleeding.
Today I am fretting because I don't feel quite as sick as yesterday! I have no magic words of advice I'm afraid, but rest assured you're not alone with your worries.

Aw Tracey I really feel for you. I only had 1 mc but i was the same i convinced myself that it wasn't going to happen and even after my 7 week scan I still thought something would go wrong. Im 18 weeks now and don't worry as much but there will aalways be part of me that does. I think once you've had a mc its hard to get over excited. Also please don't woryy about the tummy cramps as its all normal I had them until about week 10 and its just your uterus stretching so I would take them as a good sign. I really really hope this is 3rd time lucky for you. Don't ever feel alone as reading all your replies just proves that you have a lot of support from a lot of lovely caring ladies who all know what you're going through. Sending you a big hug and sticky baby dust xxxx and don't forget once you get to 6 weeks and a heartbeat is there the chance of mc drops xxxxx

Thanks again ladies. Feeling a bit better mentally. Still not positive but not worrying constantly. That's as positive as it gets. Still no symptoms really, but that could be normal for me.
Take care everyone , love Tracy xxx

Glad your feeling a little better Hun. I am having good days and bad days and with what we have been throught it's only to be expected!!! I still only have sore boobs and I'm hungry all the time.... Other than that I wouldn't know I was pregnant.... Maybe we are just in for a very nice pregnancy

aw glad you're feeling a bit better xxx
3054 yes maybe we're in for nice pregnancy, I worried so much cos I had no symptoms at all but all was well at my 12 week scan so do try not to worry not everyone has symptoms xxx take care ladies xxxx

Hi Tracey

I have just been reading through all your posts and the lovely messages of support (it made me cry actually).I'm glad you're feeling a bit better today, just to reassure you again that you're def not alone in the way your feeling, i am 7+3 today after having 2 m/c and to be honest the only way I have been able to get through each day is trying to forget I'm even pregnant. We haven't told anyone yet & we don't really talk about it much either, I daren't get my hopes up. I have had a few symptoms but I had those with the first & it still ended up in mc. We have a gorgeous boy whos 4 and all I concentrate on is him. I have got an early scan next wed so who knows, as I keep telling myself whatever will be will be!! Please remember we are all here for you and whatever the outcome is for any of us we will get through it with the fantastic support from ech other. Sending you big hugs Nicki xx

Thanks nik...your message means a lot, they all do. Like you, I'm trying to put the pregnancy to the back of my mind. Hubby and a dont talk about it much, and when we do it's only a quick 'how r u'? No plans past next weeks scan. I hope things go well, but I will manage if they don't. Fingers crossed for us all, we have been through so much and surely we have luck on our side
Love to you all, Tracy xx

Ps nik, let me know how the scan goes please. Xx

Morning Tracey

I will, but got my worried head on today!! You should see my diary its covered in all the symptoms (or lack of them some days). Also just found out yesterday my best friend is pregnant and 11 weeks, please please please let it all be ok this time.
How are you feeling today? xx

I hope everything works out ok for you and that all goes well at your scan and you get to see a little bouncing bean in there xx

ooh hun couldnt read and not say how sorry I am you are going through this . I can't imagine how it must feel had one miscarriage and yet to fall and I know I will be so scared. You are not alone though though. Big hugs xx

i don't think we have spoken before but i just wanted to offer some support and also bump this up to the top as i can see someone else has commented on an old thread of yours by mistake which is now showing on the home page.
i have seen some of your posts before and they stick out for me as i think we are a similar age (i am 41). i just want to wish you lots of luck for this pregnancy. i totally understand what you mean about not being able to relax although my history is different. i have got medical conditions which mean i am classed as high risk. i bled in my first pregnancy up until about 16 weeks and then she stopped growing but was fine, although tiny, at birth and is now a busy toddler. i had a miscarriage second time around (conceived on my 40th birthday) and i then fell pregnant last july. i am about 38 weeks now but still don't believe this is really happening and can't let myself get excited. my first little girl was a miracle and this one feels like one too.
i am keeping everything crossed that you are blessed with a little miracle too.
hope your scan goes ok.
xxx

Hi ladies, thanks for all your support. Feeling ok these days, just taking it a day at a time. Scan this Friday.
Nik, hope you are ok. Looking forward to hearing good news from you on Wednesday xx
Greymum....nice to meet you ( so to speak) I'm the grand old age of 42, so probably one of the oldest ladies on this site. Thanks for your message and I appreciate you bumping this thread to the top. I was trying not to view that as a bad omen. You must be shattered with only 2 weeks to go.Lo Ok