Is anyone else 40+ and expecting their First Baby? - Older mums

Julie0176

20/05/2008 at 09:56

Hi Everyone. I'm 16 weeks (due 6/11) with my first at the age of 42 (I'll be 43 when it arrives). After miscarrying last year at 7 weeks I was delighted at 13 week scan to see heartbeat and baby punching the air in victory! Now I'm just worrying about the anomaly scan at 20 weeks (though hubby and I have already decided we do not want to pursue any invasive further tests). My waistband has been expanding since approx week 8. Felt nauseous but not actually sick during first 12 weeks. More recently, if I rush around in the morning I find myself wretching so have slowed the pace. Seem to be prone to heartburn in the evenings. Boobs have expanded and I think I might try some support at night now too. Thoroughly enjoying the experience. Told parents last weekend - delighted. Just need to break it to the boss. I am concerned what reaction I will get from wider work colleagues when I break the news. Is it just me? All my mags have 'young' mums. It would really help put things in perspective to hear from other first-timers who are 40+.

22/05/2008 at 12:59

Hi Julie
just wanted to say many congratulations on your pregnancy. I am 42 and ttc my 3rd. I am begining to think that my time has run out as we have been trying for 11 months now but after reading your story you have given me new hope that it is possible. Try not to worry too much about future test etc. I know there is a bit more to worry about being an older mum but hopefully everything will be fine and you wil have a lovely heathy baby. A friend of my mums has just had a baby at 43 she had no tests done and her son it 100% ok. So good luck and well done. I hope i can be lucky and fall pregnant soon.
take care xxx

AODRIVER

23/05/2008 at 16:51

Good luck Julie. I hads my second lo last year at 41. She's the best thing that ever happened to our little family. We had no tests as i knew i wouldn't act on the result. God willing all will be well. Take care and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Al x

Julie0176

24/05/2008 at 15:24

Thank you for the reassuring messages. I do feel lucky and am hopeful all will be well. I will keep you all posted. Summer41 there is lots of hope, I am sure you'll succeed. AODriver your lo looks a sweetie. Thanks for sharing your stories with me. Julie x

fernack

29/05/2008 at 04:49

Hi,
I am PG with 2nd (May as well be first as my daughter is 8)!
This one is due the week before my 42nd Birthday. I was very apprehensive but have just had my 20 week scan and all was well. I have had no screening tests or anything else so just keeping fingers crossed that baby will be ok when born. Just look after yourself and enjoy!
Good Luck, Ann x

specialpetal Silver member

04/06/2008 at 09:37

hi im 39 and will be 40 when baby arrives this is my 5 child ive got 4 boys already would like a girl,good luck with pg and enjoy every min of it xxx

scubababe

09/06/2008 at 16:10

Hiya, Congratulations. I am 44 and was 43 when Alasdair was born! Had 2 miscarriages before and had pretty much given up.Loved every moment of being pregnant...so much so want to do it all again! Alasdair is now 9 months old and love every, teething moment with him. We decided on no tests, we adopted the "wait and see, what will be will be" stance and we have no regrets. He is worth everything. Good luck

Julie0176

10/06/2008 at 12:52

Thanks Scubababe. It was good to read your post.

I had my triple blood test on Friday and am currently hoping I don't get a phone-call! (If I don't hear, I am at no higher risk). Reading your story really helps to keep me positive. Hubby and I are already saying if all goes well, would it really be too late to have a second. Obviously, I've got a long way to go yet and I just hope that all will be well with this one.

I have my 20 week scan on 20th June so that will be another milestone. Dreading it, but willing it to come around at the same time.

Just thought I'd add (you may or may not find this useful) as hubby and I did not start ttc until quite late on, we used the First Response predictor kit. It's absolutely spot on and rules out any leaving to chance. It worked both times for us and I would certainly recommend it.

Thank you for sharing your story with me.

Julie x

jow

13/06/2008 at 12:15

Hi Julie
I had my first baby at age 42 (she is now three) and I was on the pill, just missed the odd one here and there! I had the 12 week nuchal scan and the 20 week anomaly scan and she was born absolutely perfect. I am now 45 and would love a second baby. My periods are not so regular now but I live in hope and will keep trying.
Jo

Gina625

09/07/2008 at 16:57

hi Julie,

Hope everything is going all right for you.

I conceived for the first time at the age of 42, had C section aged 43. Now 44 and ttc for no.2. I know what you mean about worrying about scans and blood tests. I worried non-stop during pregnancy. As soon as baby was born and the midwife gave him an APGAR score of 9 (best is 10), only then did I stop worrying. It's natural to worry and you'll never stop, just don't let it take over your life. Enjoy your pregnancy. It seems like a really long 9 months but afterwards you wonder where the time went. Enjoy the warmth of the bump, the movements, the hiccups. And don't forget to talk to bump. Apparently it gets bump used to your voice (and daddy's), and helps bonding.

Good luck
xx

Julie0176

13/07/2008 at 14:27

Hi Gina,

Many thanks for the kind words. Now at 23 weeks and all is well. Scan revealed everything is as it should be and we are having a boy! Over the last few days I have begun to feel definite kicks and cannot wait to hold this little bundle. Have some time off work in a few more weeks so we are going to start shopping (at last - cannot wait). It's so good to hear from mum's who have similar experiences to share - is your lo a girl or a boy? Julie x

AnneHuyen

11/03/2012 at 21:30

Hi, i'm 41 now. I want to have my 1st baby, but i'm worry about age will affect the health of baby. Can someone give me some advices please...

GreyMum

12/03/2012 at 10:48

Hi Anne. I am also 41. I had my first when I was 38 and am currently 38 weeks pregnant. I am a bit of a complicated case due to pre existing health conditions which make me high risk for prenancy, but my age alone has never been an issue and never caused me any problems. I had bleeding and my baby was small the first time, but health wise I sailed through. This time I have struggled with tiredness and various bugs, but I think this is more to do with having a toddler at nursery and working full time in a relatively senior job. My baby is growing fine and looks to be healthy from the many scans I have had. I had a miscarriage in between these two pregnancies. On all three occasions, I fell pregnant really quickly (first month of trying) and my screening blood tests have always come back as very low risk. So age doesn't necessarily mean you will have problems.
Hope this helps.

FerretloverUK Silver member

27/06/2012 at 11:08

Hi im 39 and hubby & i had been trying for 3 years.

We had the full screening as hubby was adopted at 3 months old so we have no medical history. We had the Amnio test and everything is good with Sprout!

Ive been extremely lucky with my pregnancy as ive had no sickness, nausea or cravings! Amazing!

julie64

04/01/2013 at 22:06

I am 48 and because of several recent circumstances in my life, I am getting ready to try for my first child. I am scared of what might happen, but feel like God is telling me that it is my last chance to conceive and that he will give me and my husband a child. I read another blog recently that had several posts from women in their mid forties to early fifties that all had healthy babies and did not regret it at all, as well as messages from children of older parents that had a great life and great parents.

Noni L

21/01/2013 at 15:13

Hi, I had my little girl when I was 44! After years of trying and a miscarriage the previous year at 8 weeks I really thought I would never be a mum. Also my sister had her first baby at 41 and second at 43. All of these were natural conceptions and thankfully the three babies were all healthy. I was really nervous throughout the pregnancy and had 3 private scans and hired a heart doppler etc and was convinced every symptom was a problem!! I actually had a great pregnancy and my little girl is the best thing ever happened to me. Good luck to everyone trying, I know how desperate you can become.

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