Has ANYONE ever heard of a headmaster punishing a child that lasts before and after a holiday??

to cut a very long story short my child (nearly 8) has ASD (Autistic spectrum disorder) this effects his ablilty to be social and display appropriate social behaviours. He has learnt kiss chase from school and was playing it to a girl in his class who complained as she didnt like it. (my son was devasted he didnt mean to upset her he thought she was his friend )

I agree that my son has to learn right from wrong and I usually support the school in discapline but I feel they have gone totally overboard this time and noone I know has ever heard of this happening before.

The head wants to withdraw all playground from my son 5 days before half term and 5 days after half term during these times my son will sit in the school office area. I find it hard to imagine any 7/8 year old knowing why they were still being punished 3/4 weeks on from the original incident????

Has anyone ever heard of a before and after holiday punishment????

just to add according to the head the school SENCO and teacher are supporting him in this!!!

That is ridiculous, I agree with you that he has to learn right from wrong but that is pushing it too far, As you say any child would have difficulty with understanding why they were still being punished 3/4 weeks later let alone a child with ASD, personally I think even 5 days is too much, maybe one or 2 days but 5 is just silly.

I think the school need to make allowances for your childs behaviour and make the other children aware that he doesnt always understand what he is doing, my youngest son is almost 3 and he is currently being assessed for ASD/aspergers, I have to say that his understanding at this age is far less than it was with my other 3 and although it is hard we do have to make allowances for some of the things he does.

Sorry for the waffle, I will get down off my soapbox now.

BTW have you joined any forums for support with ASD, I have recently joined one called ASD friendly, it is really friendly and the support everyone gives each other is amazing, sometimes it helps to know you are not alone xxx

What a load of rubbish! The school obviously has no concept of ASD and has acted really irresponsibly. I would take it further! I am a teacher and wouldn't imagine carrying a punishment over the holidays at that age considering, as you said, they will have no idea why they are being punished which will lead him to feel frustrated and might get him into more trouble- its a vicious circle!! Let us know how you get on but I do think you should challenge it!

total codswallop!!! I have a 12 year old who is currently ebing reassessed for an ASD and there is no way at your sons age he would realise why he is being punished for somethingover such a long time. WOuld you tell a child off and then give him the naughty step for ten minutesd and then 2 weeks later tell him to sit on the naughty step again for the same crime!!! Absolutley ridiculous and they should be told as much!

no way should this be carried out, a punishment should be immediate and allow the child chance to reflect, doing it after a break would serve no purpose whatsoever. I'm a teaching assistant in a primary school and have never heard of a punishment being spread out like this

im a primary school teacher, and if my head behaved like this towards a child, i would be really p***ed off!

I think instead of punishing him like this, Im sure your son needs to be spoken to properly about why you dont play this game (and im sure from what you've written, you have done this) and that his ASD should be taken into account, that he wouldnt really think there was anything wrong in what he was doing!! I cant believe the school have acted like this! im sure a punishment of just missing a few days would have been enough, but when i teach i always try to start off terms with a clean slate, and it seems pointless dragging this back up!

have you thought about talking to the chair of governers about this?

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Total rubbish! No way should any child be treated like this. As a TA in primary, current degree student and a Governor i would be taking this further. Write to the Chair of Govenors formally and request a meeting to discuss this. Won't make any difference to the punishment when he returns but will make sure it doesn't happen again to him, or any other child.

iwould of thought the 5 days before the holidays to be more than adequate a punishment for that age. I don't see the point of punishing hima fter the holidays when the event will be long forgotten about.

i would go to the LEA hun and ask them to intervein as the punishment is ment to fit the crim and this is well above and beyond what is needed... it is ment to be new term new start, no way it should be carryed over xx

omg, im really shocked at this, its ridiculous!!! if it was my child i really wouldnt stand for this punishment, how is he suppose to know why he is being punished like that, to him it was a little game and he didnt think he was doin wrong, imo he should have jus been told not to play the game again, THEN if he did do it again, follow through with a punishment of losing the next playtime, not 5 days b4 and after, im lost for words!! hope u get it sorted hun. xxxx

i argree this isnt right a child needs to be punished for doing wrong yes, now he will know what he has done wrong on why he is being punished for the first 5 days but the second 5 he probably wont have a clue as to why he has been punished x

I know nothing about ASD, but even for my son who does not have it I would find the punishment extreme.

hello mrs Im a teacher in a college and some of my many classes are kids with asd etc so have a fair idea where youa re coming from, some one above mentioned contactin the lea and i agree with them, there is no way this is following senco, unless every other child who is bad is punished this way, they need to take into account his understanding - obviously I do not know your son but with a lot of asd children if they are told once you catch you have to kiss it is taken as the literal and must be done!!! surely he was following the rules to the tee!!! (joking aside) yes he must learn right from wrong but this is extreme xx