OH MY GOD I am about ready to beat my OH round the head with a pooey nappy....whilst it is open!!!

If he even tries to say he is more tired than me one more time I am going to go mad!!

What annoys me more than anything is he will add up all my broken sleep and say 'how can you be tired you got 7 hours last night....................................'

Erm in that 7 hours I was up 3 times and it takes more than 3 minutes to feed/burp/settle a baby............

I have nearly reached the point where on Saturday I am leaving the house at 07:30 (when he noramlly does) and come back at 18:30 (when he gets in)...............just so he can have a little bite size taster of how hard it can be!!

Morning rant, sorry ladies!

I'm totally with you hun. Can I hijack and rant too...?!

OH is DOING MY HEAD IN! He is soooooo lazy (omg hope he doesn't read this...!) He's been off work for 3 days so far and has seriously done nothing. His entire wardrobe is on the floor waiting for some fairy to come along and wash. Even though I'm bf so have to do that ALL myself he has to be pratically forced to change a nappy. He won't change her clothes or bath her without my help as he says he's 'not very good at it'!???!!! He leaves used mugs etc all over the house. Doesn't think to empty dishwasher etc etc. So basically I do EVERYTHING. I mean, I do this when he's at work anyway, but now he's at home it really bugs me that I STILL have to do everything and don't get a minute to myself. Then he gets surprised when at 8pm I say I am going to bed! Then he spends the evening just watching tv when there's still all the dinner (which of course I cooked!) stuff to clear up. And then this morning I still had to speed shower so I was out in time to put Beth down for her nap as he's decided he can't swaddle her as well as me and she'll wake up! lol! So I was in bathroom less than 10 mins. He goes in and comes out 30 mins later! Errr - does he have long hair to wash - NO. Does he have armpits to shave - NO. So WHY does his shower take almost 3 times as long as mine. URGH.

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH. Am so mad. Sorry I've hijacked really badly!!!

Don't get me started on this argument!

Hubby wakes up about 3pm most days after going to bed at 7am (so 8 solid hours) and comes downstairs, moans that he is tired then asks what I have been doing all day (he says he is just interested but I'm sure he means it in another way!)
He is always moaning that he is tired but even on weekends he stays up til 2/3am which is HIS choice, I don't have that option!

He is off sick at the mo and was gobsmacked that it took me 3 hours to settle the baby last night and every time I put her in her cot 'asleep' she woke up, finally settling at 2am - he couldn't believe that I had to go through that every night!

Hopefully now he will be a bit more compassionate.

Sorry I have hijacked too - sore point with us ladies methinks!

xxx

Def a sore point. My NCT friends were all moaning about their OH's the other day. Pretty much everyone said that if they are around their OH's take a massive back seat with babycare and expect the Mum to deal with it all, make all the decisions etc.

What esp bugs me is that hubby doesn't see Beth at all during the week as she is in bed when he gets home and he then leaves about 5 mins after she gets up in the morning. Yet, he still hardly spends any proper time with her at weekends. Apparently tv and football are far more important.

My DH is pretty good at doing stuff if I ask him, and will offer to do more now and again, but if we are both at home I am the default carer for Sam!

Also, he is very good at the fun stuff - like bath time and playing/singing, but I seem to be the only one wondering about the serious stuff - like whether Sam's napping enough, whether he's meeting milestones, whether we're getting him into bad habits. I don't think DH realises that I am constantly thinking about being a mum, I can't switch off - whereas men can!

Just g/c from June forum - LadyK me and OH still have this argument on a regular basis......sooooo frustrating I feel like shoving his head in the nappy bin!!! At the weekend or on the rare occasion he is on 'night duty' and happens to be up abit he goes on and on and on about it the next day about how tired he is and how he was up for 2 hours in the night and Im like grrrrrr I do this all week!!! they honestly dont get it!! xx

When my LO was 4 weeks old OH had to go to inverness by car for work. Due to family health problems I had no back up so basically was on my own for 72 hours with a 4 week old colicky baby, up every couple of hours in the night etc. OH did the admittedly long 6 hour drive, got in and was complaining of being 'so tired from the drive'. I was very tempted to put babe in his arms and push past him out the door, into my car and far far away!

The next day I had a morning at the shops to my self. I kindly came back at 2pm and when I got in, Oh was saying'it's terrible, I only had breakfast at 11, I've not had lunch, I've not had a drink", to which I replied "what really? jolly (or words to that effect) hard isn't it, and I do this every day!"

xx

I know its funny how OH's never manage to eat or do anything when looking after LO when we do everything xx