ladies, i need some help/advice!...

has anyone else baby's sleep totally gone to pot?!
Phoebe's sleeping is really starting to get me down.. to the point where i dread bed time, i don't feel like i get any rest day or night anymore!

She was a good sleeper, from birth - about 6 weeks she went to bed at 7pm, woke at 11pm, 2am, 5am and then at 8am, but everytime she'd feed and go straight back to sleep so i got good blocks of sleep in between then at 6 weeks she started sleeping 7pm - 4am had a quick change and feed and then went straight back to sleep from 4am-8am, she did that up till about 12 weeks, i thought we were heading in the right direction, we even had a couple of 7pm - 6am nights but since then she's started waking more, taking ages to get back to sleep, waking really early in the morning and not going back, it's been getting worse and worse to the point now that the last two weeks we've gone back to 4-6 wake ups in the night, im up for an hour or more sometimes, i've been getting about 2-3 hrs sleep a night and it's really really making me unhappy, i've tried everything and i'm out of ideas!!!

I've tried ignoring her and seeing if she'll go back to sleep, she doesn't. I've tried not feeding her incase the waking is habit, i've tried feeding her more before bed, less before bed, making her room warmer, colder, i've tried teething gel, night lights, moving bedtime back, forwards and nothing works, im starting to get really depressed, i just don't feel like i ever get a break! day or night, i dunno how much longer i can carry on having next to know sleep!

any advice? xxx

o hunny no advice but didnt want to read and run i hope someone has some suggestions. i can see why its getting you down x x x

I have heard that babies do start to wake again through the night around 4 months old? Do you think this could be something to do with it? Other than that, I don't really know hun. Hope she starts to improve again soon as going from a full nights sleep to waking every few hours can't be good!!

Samuel has started to play up at bedtime the past couple of nights and just not settling down, and wanting to play!! We were up with him the other night until midnight and then he stirred at 4am and 6am!

Hope someone can offer some advice xx

sorry you're having a hard time, i have no words of wisdom either but hope things get better! ive also heard that babies sleep pattern can change dramatically at 4 months, but its a stage that passes.
how is she sleeping during the day? have you weaned her? could she have tummy ache?
sleep deprivation is EVIL! hope you get it sorted soon xx

Hi ilovecupcakes i dont have any advice but am in a similar position. Ds jad started going down at 7 feeding again at 11/12 whenever i went to bed then could go through till 4:30 feed them through till 7:30/8 in the last week however its really hard to get him down he breastfeeds fir a log longer still feeding now as it goes then i jave.to settle.him a few more times before i go to bed. Last night the longest block of sleep i got was 70 minutes. Tomorrow i am doing a.full day at work and i have hardly slept at all this week.
At the moment im putting it down to teething as his 2 front teeth r through but im not sure how much longer i should expect this sleep behaviour to last.

Sorry to highjack your post xx

Hey hun, sounds like your having a really rough time!

Not sure if i dare say it for fear of been stoned (lol) but are you weaning yet??? x

Hope she settles back to sleep soon- sounds like you've tried everything. Riley has only slept through a handful amount of times so i'm not used to sleeping through yet as it doesn't happen very often. XX

Emily has started waking too hun. As far as I can remember they have a growth spurt around 4/5 months which can upset routines - day & night. Weaning sometimes gets them back on track otherwise its a matter of sitting it out and not spoiling them (which I did with DS3 and he still wakes now at 2yrs old ARGH!)

I have tended to leave Emily to whinge and only when she is full blown crying to give her a feed or a dummy. Calpol before bed and early hours incase of growing pains/teething. NO CUDDLES (this one is very hard) but shushing so she knows Im there. Sleeping in the day is hard for me as I have the others but if you can do it then you must - it will make night times easier to deal with. Does she cry when she wakes in the night? If not (and alot might disagree) I put a toy/taggie blanket in her cot with her to play with (yes i know its the middle of the night) but at least it tires her out and she self settles rather than me rocking/cuddling her.

Its hard when they revert back to newborn hours but generally, unless you sod it up like i did, it dosnt las t long.

Big hugs hunnie xxx

Oh god, I know exactly how you feel now hon as its happening to me too. James was so great at self settling and a fantastic sleeper, we had a few weeks of 7-7's and I was so happy. Now the last 5 nights I have only had 1 reasonable sleep. He has been waking every hour ish and screaming! He is so overtired now he is screaming all day and wont settle for naps - even in the car and pram today. I feel shaky and ill and feel like crying at the fear of hat will happen tonight. I know that sounds dramatic but I honestly feel defeated. I have been reading about 4 month sleep regression, in a nutshell babies start to have periods of light and deep sleep like adults, we wake to turn our pillow or roll over and go back to sleep and they start to do the same, only if they cant get themselves to sleep they go mental at us! Apparently the things to do is to make good sleep associations, like a snuggly cloth etc so they dont rely on bad ones, like rocking to sleep as every sleep cycle 50 - 90 mins ish they will need rocking again. So I am trying to shush James, give him his snuggly cloth and pull his cot lullaby toy and last night he did go back to sleep each time, however today he wouldnt do it for naps at all : ( James is also totally overtired so I am going to try putting him back to bed after his morning bottle and treating it like a night feed and bringing bed time forward by half an hour. I am also going to stay in all day Mon and Tues and really watch him to see if I am missing some cues as maybe he is naturally changing his routine somehow and im not adapting to it. I want to cry too : ( but fingers crossed if we hang in there it will pass. xx

I am so happy to read this post as its happening to me to, for the past 2/3 weeks Emma has started stirring from about 3 in the morning until she gets up and i am shattered! She was never like this even as a newborn so its a bit of a shock to the system!

She doesnt cry just whinges and wants her dummy back in, this we have made a rod with our own back for always putting her dummy in, she was four months on Saturday so am putting it down to a growth sput but i hope it passes soon as she was up at 6.30 this morning and i'm sooo tired i cried! Never done that before apart from once when she was about 5 days old!

I have given her a couple of spoonfuls of rice once a day since Friday and an extra oz of milk before she goes to bed and Friday night she was better only had to get up to her at 4 5 and 6 then she slept until 8.20 which was heaven but the last two nights have been the worst ever! Must have got up about 15 times between 3 and 7.30

I'm wracking my brains all morning about why she is being like this and what other things i can try, going to try putting her to bed later tonight, plus i think maybe now shes getting older and more aware i think she gets quite bored during the day and maybe i need to do more with her?! Sorry i cant really help but just wanted to say you are not alone x

MrsBridge, we are having exactly the same trouble as you! I think it's teeth with Caleb though! Boooooo!
Im knackered all the time like, it isnt good! x

Touch wood she was better last night, only got up twice

Put her to be at 8.30 and gave her 8oz, half normal milk half hungrier baby might have been because of that or just a coiendience! Done exactly the same tonight so time will tell!

xx

Mrs Bridge - we have the exact same situation at the moment!! Tried teething gel, that seems to help a bit. xxx

hows things hun? xx