Oh and I have been discussing when to start trying for number 2. One minute I want to start immediately next I think it's best to wait for various reasons

1 I have/had postnatal and am still on anti depressants is it really wise to start before coming off them?
2 we only have a 2 bedroom flat and have been trying to sell but with no luck so how would I fit 2 children in flat?
3 with the money problems that the country
4 I hate my job and would love a new job

I am just being silly and should I wait or just go for it??

I have just had the implant out and it was decided it might have been mixing with my tablets and I am still waiting for my first AF really since before my first pregnancy ( lo is 1)

Any advice would be great

I wouldn't want to direct you either way but you do have genuine concerns! If you're seriously thinking of changing jobs I would personally do that first, get settled in a new job, maybe if you're happier at work you might then be able to find it easier to come off the anti depressants? Also with a 2 bed flat, if there's not room for two small children it could get very clostrophobic (sp) (not good for depression) and once a new bubba is coming moving and any DIY involved and the stress with a move will only be more difficult!

I know when you're broody it feels like nothing else matters and lets just go for it! Then reality sneeks into your mind! If you're not in a rush to have a second (age, health etc) I would personally wait until at least some of the doubts have been solved.

That's just my thinking, I have a similar situation and I'm forcing myself to wait a while. But it't totally up to you and OH what is best for you! x x

I can not offer any advice as i think this is something only you and you oh can decide sorry

I do know though that there is never a "perfect" time to have a baby.

Whatever you decide i am sure it will be right for you.

We are ttc at the mo, but there are always things that make you think, are we doing it at the right time. I think in our case we will just cross the bridges when we come to them.

Best of luck either way xx

hi i would love another right now but dd1 is in middle of assesment for aspergers and we have to deal with this first but other than this im more of your "deal with the problems when you cross them" kinda person too. hubby is the solve it first and more sensible one in our realtionship x