WHEN DO THEY STOP???????

SERIOUSLY HAD ENOUGH OF THEM ALREADY.

:x

Hi Leigh - couldn't resist saying hi and lol on your post...know the feeling hun!!! Braedon having major tantrums and wants to be in charge of everything and everyone at the moment. Bless two year olds!
The bad news is that tantrums dont stop (sorry!!!) but the good news is they are easier to deal with as they get older - Madi still has tantrums and she is nearly 8!!! she is easier to ignore and easier to communicate with so she doesnt get randomly angry and frustrated the way the youinger ones do.
Hang on in there - it does get easier! xxxx

Yes i'm wondering that too!

Isaac has really stepped it up a gear over the past few weeks. We now have tantrums every time he doesn't get his own way! The worse ones are saved for when we're out!!!!!!!!! :x

me too. i have found that the naughty step is working really well. i then kneel in fornt of her and tell her what she has done wrong etc and then say 'give mammy a kiss to make friends/say sorry' and she jumps up from the bottom stair gives me a kiss and cuddle and while cuddling she taps my shoulder and says 'mammy sorry' which is heart melting and instantly she is forgiven.

when out and i dont have a step i plonk her down in a quiet corner of the shop and 'look' away (still keeping one eye on the escapee) then do the same thing as on the step. usually once on the step or plonked on the floor the tantrum tends to be over so all the crying, shouting, screaming etc was all for show and nothing actually wrong with her

I still have temper tantrums and I'm 33! :lol:

Abby generally has tantrums if she is too tired, too hungry or isn't able to communicate exactly what she wants. The other one is when she does something and refuses to say sorry. She had to sit on the naughty spot for 45 minutes the other day for not saying sorry to my mum for something (neither of us knew what for by the end of it). Our main issue is that Abby will happily say sorry to me but not to anyone else and she can't work out why I won't forgive her. If she's having a tantrum and she not in the middle of being told off I try and ask her what the matter is. It's usually something small like when she had a doughnut the other day (she chose it specially from the bakers) and asked my dad something, he misunderstood and she had a meltdown. It took 10 minutes to realise she wanted a fork to eat it with - bless her. :\) As soon as she had her fork she was happy, she thought she wouldn't be able to eat it without one. I ended up feeling quite sorry for her.

H xx

Most of Skye's tantrums seem to stem from her not being able to communicate what she wants and then getting frustrated now too. I don't think they are as bad as they have been, as in she doesn't have as many, but when she does have one it's quite often in public :roll: She proceeds to go all floppy and lays on the floor thrashing and stropping about! I tend to walk away if at all possible but she's so damn stubborn that she doesn't care if I leave her and go out of sight!!! So bloody annoying!!
She is also getting more resistant to apologising for her behaviour, a little like Abby(!). On Sunday she got annoyed her little cousin, 14 months, was standing on front of the telly, so she promptly pushed him over to get to it. Cue a telling off from Mummy, and I then placed her in the hall told her what she'd done wrong and shut the door. Skye started crying etc, so I went back to her after a minute and asked if she was going to say sorry to Thomas? She said "NO!", so she got left there again for another minute...more crying and yelling. I went out to her again and asked if she was going to say sorry, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!". So we had more words and I eventually let her back in the room, and it took another good 5 minutes before she grudingly gave him a cuddle, but she would only say sorry to Mummy, not Thomas :roll:
I think they'll be a lot more of this to come, sigh...

Bless Abby and her fork!;\)

Issy only really has tantrums when she is very tired or hungry, to be honest they are few and far betwen, being a teacher i have a lot of patience and am able to distract her or understand what she wants quite quickly, wheareas my DH bless him is quite negative and tells her off and doesnt have much patience so the tantrums esculate much quicker at weekend!!! Im trying not to undermnd him, but sometimes i do step in and calm her down!
If she has done something wrong, i do explain to her what she has done and she is good at saying sorry to us and telling us why she is sorry not just saying 'sorry' but i do not use a 'naughty spot / step x

Lily's are hugely frustrating because I can never work out where they've come from or what they're about. I can't pre-empt them and I can't usually do anything to calm her down once she's started. They seem so random, and there's rarely any solution (such as Abby's fork). They're mostly related to food/hunger, but not always.

Standing her on the front door mat until she calmed down and said sorry used to work, but she just gets off it and follows me around bellowing now. I think I might start shutting her in her room for a period of time - sounds harsh but if I explain that she's there to calm down she'll understand perfectly well, and she's safe in there. I find it hugely stressful to have her bellowing and wailing right into my face and frankly I need to remove her for my own sanity, as usually she does just need to calm down and me getting stressed at her just perpetuates things. Try as I might I can't ignore her when it's right in my face, I snap and huff at her

We've only had one stinker in public so far (when we walked into Starbucks for our usual Saturday morning coffee and she wanted to go to Costa - seriously :lol: ) and we just left her on the floor beating her fists whilst we went and ordered and sat down with our coffees. We were lucky as it wasn't very busy and we were close enough to have grabbed her if necessary but far away enough to make it obvious she was being ignored. THAT I found genuinely funny rather than stressful as it wasn't right up in my face.

She doesn't have many - maybe 5 small, brief ones on an average day, and perhaps 3 humdingers a week.