Had my third ante natal class today and have never felt so upset and low after. As some of you may know I am being induced at 38 weeks(Monday week!)because I have an illness called Lupus which can be a nightmare in pregnancy and the doc has decided that it is safest for me and baby. I have already lost one baby to Lupus and I am so lucky that I have had a pretty healthy pregnancy this far so I'm not going to argue with a specialist!
All the couples at the group know that I am being induced (although they don't know why) and I did tell the midwife last week too( she knows why!!). Today she talked about induction (which is the most valuable part of the course for me)and was so negative. I was choking back the tears. She said that we should leave nature run its course, said that labour by induction was much longer and more painful and that syntocinon could be "nasty". She said that induction at 38 weeks was too soon and would probably fail. She only spoke about overdue babies and not that some woman have no option. In about ten mins she completely destroyed my confidance. I couldn't understand why she was being so insensitive. I feel like I am a rubbish mother already and have cried most of the day.
Thank goodness OH has been there to give me big hugs. Sorry for the negativity but I am so overwhelmed and upset. Probably a lot to do with hormones too :roll:
Am going to try a bit of chocolate/ice cream therapy to cheer myself up

What a crock of S*** the woman is talking hun. Take NO notice at all, you have legit medical reasons for an Inducement and As I am being induced too I have looked into it and spoke at length to My NCT midwife about the pain etc, She advised that yes the Contractions will come on very quick because of the Syntocin but to ask for Epidural before and this should stop the so called 'nasty'side that this woman is talking about. I have 2 good friends who have been induced recently using this and all are perfectly fine, they just had epidural. Pls dont be upset, this woman is just scare mongering and knowing its what is happening to you, just plain Evil...nasty Cow!! xxx

Oh no, what a stupid woman!
We all know in pregnancy everyone has their opinion on everything and love to tell us, and make us feel worried, scared, useless etc. I am sick of hearing labour stories and tips from people as though I am stupid because it is my first! :lol:
#put her down to a stupid person who didn't get what she wanted so loves to moan to others! you know it is right, your Oh knows it is right, your doc knows it is right and so does your specialist.
= your right , she is stupid :lol: :lol:
seriously though don't let one persons opinion put you off.
sending you hugs xxxx

How awful and insensitive of her! Sometimes you have to wonder why these women went into the profession in the first place- I found the same with wedding shops not sure if it's where i live but in these areas you expect lovely caring women who have a genuine interest in the service they are providing - how wrong can you be! Don't let her get you down hun your consultant knows what is best for you and baby and that is what is important I would say you have done well to get to 38 weeks - old bat!! God i'm cross for you!! xx

how awful for you, and what a bitch!

I am sure you are apprehensive enough without her being so negative. You should complain seeing as she she knows your situation!

Take no notice, and just take things as they come.

xx

Thanks girls. I was so positive about everything until this morning and now I am really anxious. I keep welling up. She was lovely in the other class but I think she may have forgotten I had spoken to her. Not very professional and very insensitive. I have decided not to go to the last class even though the classes cost nearly ??300!! I have all the support and advice I need from my girls here

Just to point out I was induced at 38+5 & never needed sintocin on a drip, I just had 2 pessary tablets so is possible you may not need drip. My labour was long (36 hours) but the worst pain was after my waters broke so around 7 hours and I'm still here to tell the tale!!

Sounds like scare mongering to me, not all inductions are extra long, extra painful etc so don't worry. Just cross that bridge if you come to it. You & your doctors know what you're doing is right!

What a horrible woman, I would seriously consider complaining if I were you. As you rightly say some women have no choice but to be induced and its completley wrong that she's allowed to go round terrifying women like that.
I've been induced 3 times at 42, 38 and 36 weeks. I did need the synotocin drip each time and although the first two times I had an epidural that was before they set the drip up and the second epidural didn't even work so I felt every contraction and then with my last I just had gas and air and I coped no problem AND I'm the worlds biggest wimp so believe me its not "nasty" at all. Yes natural labour for every pregnancy would be ideal in a perfect world but induction is most definitley not a bad thing. Don't listen to her, its awful that she can say things like that.
xx

Just wanted to send you some big *hugs*

Like the others have said I think your midwife was really out of order to make those comments! Sounds like a load of sweeping generalisations! I mean for goodness sake, if inductions weren't either necessary or safe at 38 weeks or before then your consultant would hardly be advising it and you would be hard pressed to find other mummies who had had the same experience. Yet both Pickles and Lambchop have had this done.... So please don't worry yourself about it or think you're a bad Mummy. You have done a fantastic job looking after yourself and baby to get to 38 weeks

Unfortunately you get people who are good and bad in every profession... just because your tutor is a qualified midwife doesn't mean she hasn't got her own agenda that she's trying to push on the class... sounds like she personally doesn't agree with early inductions and is forcing her opinions on you. Like others have said she sounds very unprofessional...

Oh Frecks, so sorry hun, what a B**tch! I agree with everything the others have said also 37 weeks is considered full term so there is nothing wrong at all with 38 wks for induction. As you know I also have various issues including the MCTD and I have had several people comment on the fact that I am 'electing' a c section - you know what sod them, they haven't lost 3 babies already due to my issues and been advised that the c section is the safest route - there is no way in the world, having come this far, will I put me and my baby at risk by selfishly insisting on a 'natural' birth that could lead to a em c section in any case! People will always have their opinions you just have to select the ones that you think are valuable. In my class last week the women was criticising my car seat choice - you know what I couldn't give a crap - has she sat down and researched for days all of my reasons and the safety stats - you can bet your a*s she has not, so I just took it with a pinch of salt. You will be fine hun, have the epidural and enjoy the fact that hey you're not going to go all overdue and uncomfortable and you'll get to enjoy mini Frecks a little sooner!

Everyone seems to have amazing advice on here, just wanted to reiterate, what a b****!! Some people can be so insensitive, I've had some poor treatment in my NCT classes, sometimes they are not so fluffy, I would go and announce loudly how happy you will be to see you baby at 38 weeks by being induced, because you won't have to put up with the annoyance of going overdue, silly mare of a midwife

Thanks again girls. I'm feeling a lot better about it all today. I think I will just send a little email wishing all the others well for their babies in June and to say that we will not be there next week for the last session. I might suggest that she caters for Mums with pre existing conditions in her future talks. It's really good to hear that you both coped well Pickles and Lambchop. She said most inductions lasted 3 days!!!!
Bob ..you wouldn't believe how bad I felt. Thank goodness no one saw me crying when we left. OH was really angry that she had been so insensitive just a week away from our induction.
Anyway...have decided....much more important things to do than waste my time fretting about that stupid woman like imagining what my baby looks like and re folding all babies clothes!!!!

Glad you are feeling better pet, like you say better things to do, When I told one of my friends about Induction she told me story that at best is dubious and I was upset for a day then once I had spoken to few more ladies and NCT midwife and Consultant I felt better about it all, at the end of the day, as long as you and bubba are safe thats all that matters hun. Go fold clothes and be happy you are meeting your Maybie v.v. soon xxx

Hi Hun!

I'm gatecrashing but wanted to say that I'm my opinion the fact that you are thinking about the safety of yourself and your baby and following the medical advice you are being given shows what an amazing mummy you are already!

No one knows how their labour will go, weather you go naturally, are induced, have a natural birth or section the most important thing is the safety and health of mummy and baby, as for the pain everyones pain threshold is different and speaking as a mummy who already lost a baby prior to having my little girl the pain wasn't an issue, I had looked forward to being a mummy for so long I just though being it on, every contraction is one step further to meeting my gorgeous daughter and oh my goodness was she worth it!

Don't let anyone know your confidence Hun! Good luck, I'll keep a lookout for your BA xxx

Just a quick one. I was induced at 38 weeks n had a labour of 12 hours. It wasn't ideal but we were both ill so much better for us. Just try to keep mobile and you will be fine. Don't listen to the negative comments. X

G/c form BIN, but just to say that MW sounds like such a cow.
My friend was induced at 37+4 due to gestational diabetes and delivered a 9pm 4oz beautiful boy 5 hours after the first pessery. All labours are different and she should know that and not go out of her way to make you feel bad.
I am a cardiac nurse and have seen many patients be induced early due to medical reasons, both for mum and baby and we always make sure that mum is aware of her options so she feels like she has some control over her labour. You are doing the best for your baby by listening to your specialist so taken notice of her.
I would also complain to the local PALS office, she can't go around making people feel like that, she is supposed to be a professional and her main role is to be her patients (your) advocate, which means she should act in your vest interest. I know she needed to tell you about complications and how bad things may get but she should also tell you that most inductions go smoothly and give you advice on pain relief ect. Like has been said before ask for an Epirural if they need to start sintocin but hopefully you will not need it. Good luck Hun xxxx

Oh hun what a bitch! I was with my friend when she was induced 18 months ago and it was absolutely fine, worked really quickly and she managed on just gas and air and had the synt etc in fact we had a gr8 time lol and she was induced at 38 weeks due to back problems and her baby was nearly 10lb!! I had to have the synt drip first time around as my ds was back to back and I had him within 5 hours and was fine I would have had another the next day lol. Hope your ok, big hugs hun x x x