Hi, I'm new to this forum but thought you ladies might understand my frustration. I currently have a DD who just turned 3 a fortnight ago and a DS who will be 1 in early may and am 20 weeks pg (tomorrow) with my 3rd. When I announced my pg I got so many negative comments I was really shocked. I don't know how much was due to my son also being quite young or what but I had my younger sister tell me I was ruining my life & going to be boring with just kids to talk about (I'm a SAHM). Also comments on being mad, crazy, "have I worked out why it keeps happening", "don't you have a tv" etc etc. Why is it you have your 1st child & everyone wants to know when you'll have your 2nd child, but you have a 3rd child & you're mad, a 4th child & your utterly insane & a 5th or more is considered certifiable! I just don't get it.

heehee I am currently pregnant with number four and as I already have three boys, I am thoroughly fed up with being asked 'were you trying for a girl?' and 'are you hoping this is a girl?' and 'if it is another boy will you try for a girl?' lol.  Just take a deep breath and ignore the lot of them! :0)

Well i've just found out today im expecting my 3rd and can hear it all now when my friends and family find out. I will have such a big age gap with my other 2 they will be 10 and 11yrs and i know ppl will also say to me am i mad going back to all that again babies crying sleepness nights etc. But who cares it's our decision and that makes us happy so be it. 

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Oh god I'm glad its not just me!! My parents couldn't believe our 3rd bubs was planned (even though I've been quite open about the potential of a third since DD2 was born 2 years ago), my grandad said 'what again?!' when I told him I was expecting and my boss (who is my age and technically a mate) told me it was 'abnormal' for someone with a decent career to have 3 children nowadays!! In my head the average family has 2-3 kids?? Surely that's where the 2.4 kids statistic came from?? I certainly have loads of friends who are 1 of three themselves even if they've not had 3 kids (yet!) personally. We're also having a third girl and whilst yes, DH was hoping that this time round we might have had a boy, it wasn't our only motivation for trying for number three (not mine at all as I was secretly hoping for another girl!) and my god the comments about 'doing a Beckham' and keep going til we get a boy is so irritating. We always said 2 or 3 kids was our ideal and have no plans for a fourth. I've also had loads of negative comments about what being a middle child will do to DD2! Like we'll suddenly sideline her now a new baby is on the way. Grrrrrr!

i'm so glad i'm not the only one experiencing negativity from other people! Every single person we have told we are expecting our 3rd baby has asked us if it was planned! one person even asked me why two children wasnt enough. As for the "are you hoping for a boy this time?" comments, well #i dont know how many more people could ask me the same predictable question! aaaarrrrrgh!

Us too re the "was it planned" Millysmum! Honestly what a personal question!!!

Yup i have had all that. "Was it planned' is normally first question. Which yes we always wanted 3, ever since we were married 6yrs ago. Closely followed by "are you hoping for a girl this time?" We have said a girl would bring amazing, but it Will be what ever god has given us. I have been asked "Will you keep trying if its a boy", no we want 3! Couple of people have said "oh didst think you would have other after last time" which i had 10lb baby and a blood transfusion, closely followed by a difficult baby and chronic pnd. All that is in the past now. Also had "thought oz Was enough of a handful" which yes Ds2 has been a difficult baby and bounces off the walls. To me that is not a reason not to have a third. He is getting easier as he gets older. Any way you got me started there lol!

Hello Ladies,

I am new here and just going to jump in here if you dont mind! LOL

I am 40 (since February 27th) I have 8 live births along with four miscarriages at 4 months. My children are from 22,20,17,14,10,8,7,and 4 and I believe I am pregnant now with number 9!! Had two faint positives at 11 dpo and 13 dpo, did a blood test day af was supposed to arrive and came back inconclusive, I was told to come back after 2 days and repeat, Im not sure and a bit afraid of a weak pregnancy or miscarraiage, but am praying it will come positive and healthy. I have had sore boobs and frequent urination since 7 dpo and as of today I am 1 day late, and cervix is high closed and soft, so lady at lab says she believes Im pregnant but numbers have to be higher for her to confirm it???? I thought presence of hcg meant pregnant regardless??

Anyways, noone put food on your table or raises your children or wakes in the night so, what others think it is not important!! As long as you and hubby agree and are happy, this is what matters and congrats to all of you!!

Hello ladies, I'm 13 wks with no 5 though it isn't common knowledge (thank god for the summer hols!) I am dreading the comments to come! Seriously trying to figure out how long I can leave it before it becomes obvious lol and I still haven't told my family eeeeek! Not looking forward to that one!

I frequently get comments along the lines of 'you've got your hands full!' Rom random strangers. Mostly well meaning and just being friendly but seriously! Enough already! I even had a friend ask me ' are you catholic?' !!! Like I couldn't possibly want a large family otherwise!

The next time it happens I think I just say 'I'm just very randy and incredibly fertile!' And see what they say!

Love it NNH04!! I just had a corker from my Grandad telling me that dh and I will have to be 'more careful' now we have 3 'no more accidents'! She wasn't a fricking accident!!!!

What is it with grandparents (and parents for that matter) assuming no.3 must be an accident? Actually our no.3 was!! But 4 and 5 definitely weren't! My oh's nan had the best comment ever about our pregnancies, telling his aunt 'its about time that girl put the shutters up!' Wtf!!

Omg!!!!! I'm soooooo happy I found this site, and all of u's!!!!! I've been feeling so down since last week wen my neighbour made really horrible comments abt me being pregnant 4th time round. She also made remarks of how she Thot I had been forced into it cos I'm a Muslim n got 3 girls..........I mean yea it's Muslims put an emphasis on having boys to carry on the family name, but it all doesn't come down to that, n yea if its a boy I will count my blessings to have finished my family, but if it's another girl then it's still ours n we will bring her up with all the love and happiness I'm bringing my other daughters up with!!!!
My neighbours got da one daughter n always goin on abt her perfect family, n I mean good for her, but if I only had one kid, boy or a girl I wudve killed myself out of boredom!!!! I love all da hustle bustle from my kids, and even wen I get together wit my 4 siblings n 4 cousins, it's great!!!!!
But my neighbour really pushed me bak dwn to earth n I was thinking that mayb I was being stupid n selfish n basicly wrong for wanting another go at having a boy, so I'm really really glad I found other ppl in da same boat.
Thank u all!!!!!!

I too have been called mad!!  Im 5 weeks pregnant with my 5th. I have 2 DD 14 and 5 and 2 DS 11 and 3. Im dreading the comments when it becomes public knowledge, but at the end of the day its my body and my decision!

Its so nice to see other large families on here, and nice to know there is somewhere I can go for a rant! Lol. x