going it alone - Labour and birth

norfolkbabe76 Platinum member

02/12/2010 at 09:53

hubby has sort of been offered a new job which would be on a 5/5 or 6/6 rota and by the looks of it, could be away when baby is due, if he/she comes early. how have others who have been in this situ coped with giving birth alone.

Nikki_Wood Gold member

02/12/2010 at 15:12

Your hubby is entitled to paternity leave just like anyone else so would be able to leavye work and come back to be with you as soon as possible in the mean time is your mum or a close friend near by who could be with you till he arrives?

norfolkbabe76 Platinum member

02/12/2010 at 15:35

he would be working in india, so no chance of being able to come home when he wants, no one close by, so i would be alone with 4 year old

michelle07 Platinum member

02/12/2010 at 19:06

Hire a doula?

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rosemary20 Platinum member

03/12/2010 at 13:20

do you have any family that could be there?
A trusted friend?

You are allowed 2 birthing partners in hosps so maybe one of each?

xx

norfolkbabe76 Platinum member

03/12/2010 at 13:33

i have no one that could be there, family are over 2 hours away and wouldnt get here in time. looking to have a home birth, was just wondering how ppl who was alone coped being alone, as i know i normally squeeze hubbys hand when pushing.

phat_sue4

03/12/2010 at 13:50

g/c but couldn't your mum or a family member come and stay while hubby is away? I know labours are all different but u might be in labour for a couple of days so surely someone could be there in time? I'm sure they'd hate to think of u doing it alone and who will be looking after your 4 year old?
I'm not pg but would prob put my foot down if hubby thought he was leaving the country when my baby was due!! (i know jobs are tricky).

sometimesoon Gold member

03/12/2010 at 14:46

Im most likely doing it alone. My hubby goes away 2 and a half months before the due date (hes in the forces) He will 99% likely miss the birth and days after. I live 5 n a hlaf hours drive away from my family, I think one of the girls living up here will prob end up taking me to the hospital, But I could very well end up doing it alone if family and hubby dont make it in time, Im not looking forward to the possibility of being alone but shall be as prepared as I can be. 2 hours isnt that far to travel If you let them know as soon as things start happening they could get there in time if your labour isnt too quick?

MummyJC

03/12/2010 at 14:50

I have to be honest and say I really don't think you should go it alone with your 4 year old.
I would ask hubby to speak to work to make sure he could be in this country for the 2wks before due date and 2 wks after. Would covet most bases that way.
Not saying anything will go wrong but what if it does and you need to go to hospital.
Your 4 year old will need looking after by someone. Can you not call your family 2 hours away as soon as labour starts so they can get to you. Labour is going to be longer than 2 hours as you know.
Sorry to babble on but I really think you need to speak to hubs to make sure he is home for the month around when your due.
Xx

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norfolkbabe76 Platinum member

03/12/2010 at 14:58

ty for all replies.

going on past labours, ringing his mum and dad when i go into labour wouldnt be enough time for them to get here, driving it is 2 hours, let alone them getting ready to leave.
as it goes, if the job comes off, he will be here 3 weeks before and after, but i have had 2 prem births.

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