Hello guys, just wondering what you think of your o/h going to a strip club???

Any thoughts welcome!!!:\?

Well the way its sorted in our house is he doesnt go to one and neither do I!! Neither of us like the thought of the other going to places like that, unless we were to go as a couple so we just dont do it. Theres no loss to either of us tho as neither of us are bothered. It what we are comfortable with it suits us. Why u ask T-bear? x

My o/h is having a baby shower instead of me cos my friends are a bit shit tbh!!!

I suggested a couple months ago that cos he has never been to a strip club, then why doesnt he do that with his friends!!! DONT ASK WHY!!!

Now the baby shower is near & it hasnt been mentioned until today, as he reminded me of it but said he is not sure if he is going to go. Its not something that is important to him.

But i said to go anyway cos i did suggest it a couple months ago. However i am now a fat cow & dont feel very sexy & the thought of it makes me feel crap!!!!

He wont go unless he has my say so but how can i say he cant go when it was my stupid idea????

At the same time i think why should he have to keep looking at my fat body, when even if he does go he wouldnt dare touch & i dont think they are allowed to anyway. But is he gonna come home & sleep with me imagining one of those skinny stippers????

Oh i dont know whats wrong with me, hehe*

I honestly dont know what to suggest other than to say that if you originally suggested it, you didnt mind... but now you do and you're gonna need a heap of reassurance when he comes home or it could cause a row. If you're really set against it now, I'd say tell him so. We are funny when we get preggers cos we never know how we're gonna feel about stuff. Chances are, he wont be thinking of the strippers at all when he comes home to you because he loves you and is having a family with you, but if it were me and my OH I still wouldnt like it one bit, especially at this stage. I'm sure if he aint that bothered he wont go and will know you may feel a bit put out about it, not many people want their partners (male or female) to go ogling someone else dressed in their altogether!

Yea, i think i said it originally to make myself believe i wasnt an irrational pregnant woman!!!!

But i think deep down we all can be to some extent!!!

I will let him go & ill tell him that he better show me some love when he gets back!

I know whenever he goes out he spends the whole night talking bout me anyway*

Thanks loads*

'sok. Wish I could have said something more constructive really! As long as you're ok with it chuck, Try not to think about it too much xx

I do things like that Tess, suggest things then regret it. Years ago i had real issues with jealousy. My husband was seeing someone else when we met and i had it in my head that he would go back to her if he had the chance. Anyway - this is a long and boring story but I ended up going for councelling, because I found it taking over my life. I would go to visit him in work (he used to work for John Lewis) and if I went in and he was talking to someone fit who worked there - I would walk in one door and out the other and go home crying. I would convince myself that the reason he didn't ring me on his break was because he was giving her one in the car. Completely irrational - I know. I then became obsessed with him reading Arena magazine - which is something he has always done - I just couldn't handle it. I'd check his pockets for receipts to see if hed bought The Sun.

I sound completely mental I know. Anyway - sorted out my issues and for years have not had a jealousy problem and when it does rear it's head - I just have a chat with myself and told myself I'm being a twat, after all,we've been married 8 years this year (been together 9 )

But Jesus, since being pregnant - i feel the need to skin him when he buys the sun, And he does, and I get in a mood - and I can't talk to him, I wonder what he is watching on the tele when I go to bed at night - I feel like i've gone back in time by 8 years - its frightening.

even thought I sound unstable - i would let him go. I found the more Pete gave into my irrational demands the more I would make on him. And hes still here - and yeah of course he likes looking a good pair of boobs - what man doesn't, but staying rational is really the best thing.

I bet if you explained it all to him completely honestly- how you are now feeling about your original suggestion - he'd probably be very understanding. If he's already said it's not something that's important to him it may be he's looking for a reason not to go anyway!

I was on the phone to OH who's working in Turkey this afternoon and for no apparent reason decided that he must be shagging some bird out there. He works away a lot and it's not something that's worried me til now but I really panicked, then told him not to go shagging any thin and un-pregnant women. Typically he replied that if he found a fat pregnant one, would that be ok?...... Well I guess it'd prepare him for his return when he walks through the door and see's me all heffer-like!

Let us know what happens xxx

Perosnally I dont think any men, especially married men should be doing that anyway. The same goes for women. Women shouldnt have to exploit their bodies, loose all self respect and dignity for a bit of money and to tease some men. Its not right, And men shouldnt be using such women as if they are nothing and just sum slag of the street. The same goes for male strippers. Its not fair for them to show themselvs off either and just be clased as sex object and nothing else. I have never seen another man naked other than my husband and he has never seen another woman naked accept for me. Thats how it will be kept. besides religously thats not permissable. I think the human body, sex and everything else should be special and not made just for fun, jokes, laugh a tease and just pleasure. Your pregnant, this is the time he really needs to spend and share with you. I know you suggested it, but women often say things that they regret. Im sure he will understand, besides he did he wont go unless you say he can. I knw how you would feel, being pregnant, carrying his child and feeling fat and all the rest whilst hes out with a bunch of guys looking at women naked dancing, and doing all sorts of things you could imagine. I wouldnt let him go if I was you hun... Amirah xo

who says its not right?i knew a girl that was addicted to every drug and was permantly off her head,she had a baby boy and she found herself stripping and doing alot more,purely to get money for him and drugs...she didnt class herself as a slag off the street, she did what she had to do,i hopefully wont get in that situation, but i can understand y people do it.u cant say its not right,well u can, but until your in that situation i really wouldnt judge,sometimes people have no choice,obviously u have your views and thats fine as i have mine,but if i was on my own with a baby,always off my head,addicted to drugs and had no family id do the same.

I didnt judge anyone.. I said thats how men and other people percieve women that do it. i didnt say that I did.. If u read my post correctly you have seen that I was saying thats its not fair for women to be judged as sex objects and things etc. Ofcourse women have their reasons. Its up to them. perosnally, I dont care what others do (aprat from my family and friends) In the end Allah (swt) judges us all laone anyway, so what another person does, has nothing to do with anyone. I dont judge anyone thankyou, from my reading you have jugded me by saying that I haved judged people. I was saying that women should be treated better and with respect. Which unfortunately many women in that job usually dont.

Hi guys, i didnt post this topic to discuss the 'rights' & 'wrongs' of stripping so lets not turn it into a debate about that!!!

I posted it to ask ppls opinions on me letting my o/h go whilst i am pg***

Well said T-bear!!

Oh Tessie bear you old spoil sport.

I personally don't think theres anything wrong with letting your other half go to a strip club as long as you have complete trust in each other and its not going to play on your mind. I wouldn't mind my o/h going because i know he loves me and he sees it as nothing but a bit of fun and nothing more.
saying that i was a bit hormonal and a bit insecure while i was pregnant so i don't think i would have liked him to go then, only because of how my head was working at the time.

i wouldnt ban my fiance from going as im completely secure in our relationship...but he wouldnt go anyway!!! he says he sees looking at other women as cheating and so wont even glance at women in the street. i found this very strange at first as i truly believed all men (and women) look at people of the opposite sex, but after being with him so long i understand he really doesnt look at anyone but me and so i appreciate how much he loves me and takes my feelings into consideration

Hi guys, quick update.

I have decided that he CAN go & i feel ok about it now. Guess i was just going through a week of feeling insecure.

I KNOW if my other half was gonna be unfaithful he would not be in a relationship with me as he is thoughtful loving & caring. I also know that he loves me & i AM the one who suggested it otherwise i do not think it would of been an issue.

Anyway he says he wont go if i dont want him to but i am totally fie with it now.

Thanks for all your comments*