silent miscarriage

how do i go on?

12 messages
27/07/2012 at 00:31
I have never gone on a forum before. today my husband and i went for the 12 week scan, i believed i was 13 weeks pregnant. i had been so sick and tired up.until a week or so ago and i thought my symptoms had stopped because i was starting the second trimester. I was wrong. nothing showed up on the monitor from the tummy scan and i don't think i will ever forget the image of the tiny empty womb on the screen. they did an internal scan which showed a Yolk sac and embryo.of seven week. i knew that the baby was dead along with my dreams for it. now i have to wait a week for another scan till they confirm then i have tl.pass the baby somehow. i have never cried so much or felt so.broken. i am.scared i will never be a mum. I don't know what i am expecting bit this is like screaming into a void as i can't sleep. how do i go on from here there is no brave left just sad.
27/07/2012 at 06:43
hey hun so so sorry for your loss... a missed miscarriage is one of the most awful things to ever experience.... I had 3 in a row.... all at 12 week scan and it felt like my life was over each time. I got massive support on here on the ttc after miscarriage section it was a great help to chat to others who had experienced the same thing. try posting again in that forum Im sure you will get the support your looking for there.

don't give up hope though... after 3 miscarriages I am now 27weeks pregnant and all is well.... so after the heartache something amazing will happen x
27/07/2012 at 15:29
So sorry for your loss, I have had multiple silent miscarriages but have since gone on to have two perfect children. It will happen for you, dont let this rule the rest of your life. Greive, give your body time to heal and try again but dont give up hope
27/07/2012 at 17:40
Thank you very much for your kind words and for sharing your painful stories. im taking every moment at a time before i have to go back to hospital on Friday.
Xxx
27/07/2012 at 22:24

Hi, I agree with the other mums here, don't give up. I have had 2 miscarriages and a stillbirth at term+10 but have also had 2 lovely children and I am now 24 weeks pregnant with my 3rd. It's hard to get your head around the disappoitment at first but believe it was your body's way of telling you that something wasn't right.

Giver yourself time and never give up

28/07/2012 at 15:55

Hi  I too had a silent miscarriage but only the one(-having one doesn't mean you are any more likely to have another). I went on 2 months later to have a healthy pregnancy and then another and am now preg with third! Hope this gives you some hope. x

31/07/2012 at 04:45

Hi, never posted on here before either. I had a missed miscarriage years ago as well-very similar to what you described. I can still picture the empty sac. My husband realized what we were looking at before I did. I think I was in shock and denial for a while. Then the hardest part became waiting for it to pass. It took a few weeks. Those weeks were so painful. My husband and I waited a couple of years and now have three boys, 9,8 and 5. It was very painful and the anniversary date is still hard 11 yrs later. I am so sorry for your loss and for the pain that you feel. But seeing that you are seeking support online is great! Good luck and know that my heart goes with you. 

02/08/2012 at 09:53

Hi Fairysare and the rest of you lovely people, im sorry for your losses .... I have suffered 5 losses .. our first baby in 2009 September 11th, lasted 17 weeks, we couldnt understand how she had died as she was so active 3 weeks ago prior to her passing away in my womb on the scan. We tried the following year of 2010 and our other baby had lasted 6 weeks when she or he was suppose to be 12 weeks. I had to go and have a birth for our first baby Scarlett and it was the most awful upsetting experience of my life. It knocked my husband fro six and since then he doesnt want to know im pregnant until it will be confirmed .. in between we have lost three more and this time i thought i was pregnant as i was late three days and now i have started again. It is so upsetting for us all and the worst thing a mum to be could ever go through. I really can empathise with you all and wish you all luck in the future .. we have to see light at the end of the tunnel and some have seen it and got their little angels with them now. Many hugs and well wishes to you all and hope that even my husband and i can be successful one day ... god bless ...

09/08/2012 at 19:49
Edited: 25/09/2012 at 13:56
25/09/2012 at 10:44
Sorry for your loss, same thing happened to me.
My doc said it was because of my age (I'm 45), didn't help the sorrow of the loss of much wanted 2nd baby..we went into hospital the next day to remove what little there was inside me, the theatre staff were so kind to me but didn't help the broken heart.
Stay strong and remember you are not alone-miscarriage is surprisingly (to me) common-up to 20 percent of pregnancies end this way. There is nothing to say that next time a pregnancy won't be absolutely fine.
Be kind to yourself-you did nothing wrong sweetie, it is not your fault this happened.
Good luck and lots of love and it will get better-take one day at a time xxx
25/09/2012 at 14:00

awww what kind words Pinkstar ... thank you so much .. its always hard when you lose a baby you so much wanted and it doesnt help when they pratically tell you your over weight or you are older ... your right it doesnt take the sorrow away and all you go through and not end up with any thing to show for it .... all of us are brave women, i have support from friends and family and most of all my husband who sadly wont talk much about it as men dont ... take care your self hun and chin up and always think they is light at the end of the tunnel for us all ... xxxx

much love

Chevchina

26/09/2012 at 15:17

Hi, I am e newbie to the site. I can tell you I had what they called a blighted ovum which is a miscarrage as you explained. It is disapointing to expect to see a little life on the scan only to be told thats not the case..I felt so cheated. That was a long time ago for me now but I noticed I fell quickly once I had kicked started my body into action. It will happen but i guess it feels a million miles away. One day you will look back with babe in arms and wonder why you didn't trust your body to do what it knows best when something isn't quite right. Its a very complex thing to make a baby and our body has to make it just right. We need to trust when the time is right its right. Baby dust to you. x

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