I just wanted to let people know that the ladies in the baby forum aren't that bad! We seem to be getting a bad name because of a couple of people who have made rubbish posts on this section, and the ones who seem to make stupid or innappropriate posts are generally newbies people who seem to want to upset people!

I don't want anyone to be nervous of coming on this forum once there lo are here! If you read 99% of the threads it's people supporting each other as with most of the other threads on the site!

Just wanted to say, in case anyone felt they couldn't come on here.xxxx

ahhhh well said Suzaie, it is a very supportive thread - my lo is now 15 weeks old and I have found the baby forum more helpful than my hv (no surprise there hey?) I think there are just a few strong opinions out there and I guess when you are pregnant or have just had a baby you can find them quite hurtful as it seems like a personal attack on you and your ability.

I mean take the back to work thread - i got quite upset about that as there seemed to be a slant against women who chose to go back to work full time. I would love to stay with Chloe as long as possible but finances dictate that I need to go back to work - and yes I am going back full time, there are many reasons that I have chosen to go back full time (which I won't bore you with) and I am lucky in that me and my hubby have a supportive family to help us out with childcare.

I guess what I am trying to say is that is a tough enough job bringing a lo into the world without being made to feel more inadequate by other people's strong opinions - perhaps we should all remember that the next time we answer a post where someone is asking for help and advice.

Sarah xxx

Good morning ladies,

I say that with confidence as I know you two are not a couple of pitbulls. I agree with you Suzaie - some of comments on here have been unnessecary - I was convinced when I have my baby I was going to pretend I was still pregnant so I could stay out of here!!! having said that there was a bit of a rant in Pregnancy last night - and that nearly gave me nightmares.

I know I have been pretty vocal at times but I would hate for people to think I am being opinionated about things that don't concern me - it's one thing talking about what makes you made but it's a different story when people push their views on you.

I just wish at those times they could all see my FUCK OFF NOT INTERESTED t- shirt.

Clairexxxx

Suzaie.

i saw you in the magazine in Mums on-line with your cheeky one jake. OMG how cute he's looking staight at the camera little charmer.

How does it feel now 4 months on from Caesarean?

Hope I've got the right person.

i love the pregnancy forum - but mainly because I love to rant and it is great fun on there!! Also being a new mum it's also nice to share tips and give advice to those who are pregnant as hey it wasn't so long ago that I was there!!

Still not received my t shirt though!!!

Hi Claire21 what was the rant in pregnancy? was only on yesterday morning.

Hi starfly

I love it in there too, but worry sometimes we are talking crap when others are being serious and we should be talking about sore nipples and braxton hicks. not that I have got either incidentally.

I'm also a regular in ttc. It is nice to share with other people on there becuase I know how they are all feeling.

I'll send you out another - let me just check you size i think we only have Meduim heffa and Large heffa left. Let me know
xxxxxxx

trying to slim down to a medium heffa at the mo so send me that one to give me an incentive - right I'm off to eat some more cake !!!

I completely agree starfly, my hv is useless and without alot of the people on here I probably have done Jake a nasty injury by now lolol!!!!
Hi Bristol, yeah it me in the mag (cringe) I feel great after my c section to be honest, mine was elective and I have no doubt that it was the best desicion for me. My scar feels great, the only thing I have now is a little numbness between my scar and my belly button, but that's fine.
Come to think of it I don't seem to have my t-shirt either, I wanted one that said, 'Fuck off, I'm not interested in a thing you have to say, you started getting on my nerves the minute I saw you, shut it you moose' I have pretty big boobs, si that should fit on no problem.
At the end of the day we are all real people on here, and like any situation in life, we have all said things in the heat of the moment we regret, and sometimes we mis-intrpret people. There's no solution to it that I can think off, at the end of the day we never agree with everyone in the 'real' world do we! Love you all lots!!!!!xxxxx

I guess what I am trying to say is that is a tough enough job bringing a lo into the world without being made to feel more inadequate by other people's strong opinions - perhaps we should all remember that the next time we answer a post where someone is asking for help and advice.

Sarah xxx

hi sarah..

seeing that is was me that said that about full time working mums thought I should reply..lol :\)

In the real world we don't all have the same opinions... I understand too well that some people have to go back to full time work, my sister being one of them when she finally got rid of her arsehole boyfriend and she went back to her high paid PA job in manchester, 21 miles away! All she saw was "I need some money" At the time her son was 3 months old! she left the house at 6.30am and got back at 7.30pm everyday. she only actually saw her son 2 days a week!

Her son is now 21 months old and after an incident in the daycare he was at (she saw one of the nursery nurses hit him) she left her job that week and set her own part time PA/bookeeping agency. She's had to do a bit of retraining with the bookeeping but she's at home loads more and at the moment work 3 days a week. She wishes now that she'd just done this when her son was younger as she missed out on alot of milestones. but she doesn't regret it as at the time that was the easiest option for her.

My reply wasn't to make the mums that work full time feel bad but to make them "think outside the box" so to speak. There's a woman that lives next to my MIL and she left her fulltime job to spend time with the kids and now buys/sells things on ebay for a living! sometimes we get a bit tunnel vision with our own abilities and tell ourselves that it won't/can't work so don't try.

hope that this is making some sense! lol :\)

I also think that people think being a sahm is boring.. well I've never been so busy! lol the amount of activties we go to in a week I struggle to keep on top of ht ehousework sometimes!! lol (ok maybe it's me being lazy! lol )

I think the baby forum has alot of great people all giving their own responses, we are all great mums no matter what are differences are because we are all doing what we think is right for our babes at this particular time.

We all do things differently which is why I love coming on these forms as you give me ideas I'd not even crossed mind before. No one should feel bad because you don't do it the same way..

take care xxxxx

[Modified by: wenders on March 25, 2007 11:35 AM]

Hi Bristol, sorry I missed you there, I think it is in Tess1 congratulations - it involved smoking. Claire weston is priceless and put her straight - it is very funny xxx

actually no it wasn't about smoking it was about politics - both subjects I tend to keep away from as the first one I don't do and the second one gives me a headache.xx

Claire Weston is not priceless nor did she 'put me straight'. She's a bitch and a bully and I think there are far too many on here for me to continue staying on. Thanx to everyone who has been nice and given me support and advice, I wish everyone the best of luck. Take care.

Dawnie for god sake, don't you have any hobbies?

How am I a bitch and a bully??
We were all having a lovely conversation about our lo's growing up without smoke being blown in their faces and you pipe up saying you want to start an argument!!

If you want smoke blown in your baby's face everywhere you go then that's your right as his mother. But most of us don't and to be honest we don't really want to hear about it.

Have you actually re-read those posts back? I'm sure people will agree that no 'bullying' went on just passing opinion.....which is something you obviously feel very strongly about. But guess what....WE ARE ALL ENTITLED TO OUR OPINIONS TOO.

It seems like you can't bear listening to ther people and what they have to offer so why are you here??

[Modified by: claire_weston on March 25, 2007 12:06 PM]

I'm sorry Dawnie, I have to disagree, Claire Weston is a very good friend of mine and has helped me though a lot of crises, both pregnancy and non pregnancy related. I thik the main point was that no-one wante an argument, but you post was argumentative. I know you said in another thread that you were in a bad mood, but there is no need to take it out on the rest of us, we all get into crappy moods qute regularly, but we come on here to support and help each other through them, not to snipe at each other over irrelevant issues.

Hi Wenders - thanks for your post - i totally see where you are coming from.

going back to work is the hardest thing i have had to do - i was originally going to share care with my mil and then a couple of days at nursery ..... except when i took chloe to nursey for a "settling" session i watched a little boy on the cctv crawl over to her when she was playing on the mat and hit her over the head!! the nursery attendants didn't see this happen and it took what seemed like hours for them to pick her up (in reality it was probably only 10 seconds) but it hit home that she was never going to be 100% top priority in a nursery as there are other children there too.

Well i've now made the decision to use my mil a bit more frequently (which she is soooo happy about) and also try and work from home - and as things get a bit more settled we will have another look at things and see if we can afford for me to take a step back from work (although might have to battle with hubby as he wants to stay at home with her as well lol)

Anyway i've gone on far too long (which i didn't mean to do) I just wanted to let you know that yes Wenders when i first saw your post i got a bit upset but having read your one above I see what you are saying ...... if you have any more suggestions like your ebay one - let me know LOL

Take care, Sarah xxx

I love this forum,i used to be a member of a different site but they were too clicky so i joined here instead.I have had loads of tips off you all & passed a few on without being made to feel like a busy body.
Plus we are going to be in the mag next month on the letters page & we are also testing one of the buggys,i love this forum!!

Thanks for your support Katy xx

ohhhh Alexanders-mum I can't wait for your buggy testing report - i'm going on holiday in june and will be looking to buy one.

Starfly i am testing the Bruin Zen & so far its fab,they are going to have to prise it out of my hands when i have to send it back!!