:cry: my bezzie mate asked me to go to new york with her for her 50th bday in november. i wasnt gonna leave sam, but my oh, mom, lovely ladies on here and other moms have all told me i HAVE to go, sam will be fine with oh and itll do me the world of good

so i have agreed to go, its all booked and thats that! i was over the moon and so excited, but then last night i couldnt sleep a wink for the crushhing waves of guilt at leaving sam for a long weekend. ill be away froom fri till the following thurs! nearly a week! i feel like ive made a huge mistake and im the worst mother in the world. and then i started having irrational fears over the plane crashing or disappearing (i know its stupid!) . but i cant not go now, cos she is paying and its all booked!

arse i wish i wasnt going now ive only ever left him once, that was overnight and i was miserable for every second, couldnt wait to get him back

this is gonna be sooooo hard.

bit of a pointless post but i cant stop thinking about it and wanted to get off my chest and hope for some reassurance!

xXx

oh love dont be silly, i know its hard to think about leaving your lo but it will be such a nice break for you. i am going on a long weekend in july for my best friends hen weekend and i keep thinking i shouldnt go, but deep down i know Evie will be fine with daddy and at the end of the day she will be none the wiser and probably wont even remember! xx

oh no! now I feel bad cos I encouraged you to go!

But - I am sure you will have an amazing time and Sam is going to be fine. You can speak to him all the time and he'll have a great time with MrWASB, proper boys time together whilst you're away!

The chances of planes crashing etc are slim but its natural to worry about something happening - its very unlikely though

You will have a fab time and everything will be fine

oh hun you are not a baddy mummy at all, you are fantastic......

I think you would be better going & enjoying yourself chic, you will prob find sam & daddy will have a ball while you are away, spending quality time x

dont worry SB you werent the only one! No - one i asked said not to go

im so glad im not the only one leaving their lo for a hols, it feels so wrong....but i guess i can be distracted by shopping for his presents (and shoes)

thanks ladies for words of reassurance, its so awful feeling like you will be neglecting your lo. xXx

You are not neglecting your lo.

Yes, you are a mum, but you are also still a person in yourself and that person is allowed to have some fun time to their selves. You deserve it!

Worrying about the flight is natural - I'm a terrible flyer but once up there and in NYC you'll be fine.

And it will be good for OH to spend some time alon with your lo. I know my OH would love to do that without me nagging in the background lol!

You are NOT neglecting Sam!!

Maybe think of it as you giving him quality time with his Dad instead

U certainly won't be neglecting ur lo and like others have said it will be nice for them to have some Daddy and son time. I know my oh loves it when he gets him all to himself.
I know exactly how u feel though as I'm leaving lo at his grandparents for the weekend this weekend as we're going to see Oasis. I know it's not a long time but it's the 1st time I've left him and not been 5 mins away lol.
It will be hard to say goodbye i'm sure but once ur in NY ul have an amazing time and just occupy ur mind with all the shopping lol. And just think of the great big hug waiting for u when u get back home x