What are your veiws on discaplin?

Would you smack, be stern in your voice, use the naughty corner??

We dont smack - Iv smacked J twice (both times for biting) Isaac once (for biting the dog). They have had the occasional tap on the hand (to shock) for touching plug sockets but in all honesty it didnt do much good so that idea has been abandoned.

I have found that the best way to discaplin (my boys) is to remove toys ect when they are naughty ( after they have had a warning already) and to praise the good stuff. At first I thought it was all bullcrap but when I started to do it I saw an improvement in j Instantly! Kids just want to please so that technique really works well.

What are your veiws? xx

Elaine & boys xx

I find time out the best option. alice particularly hates being given time out, to be honest everyones opinions are different and I just cant see the point of smacking as it is often done out of anger and all it would do is make the child angry and teach them that if they dont like something it is ok to hit. Also I tink about the size of me and my hubby compared to out little ones and it just doesnt seem right.

I agree hun

it must be really scarey for a child to be smacked.

We wernt often smacked as children but when we were it was bloody scarey (coming from my dad)

How would you handle it if your child bit??

Time out dosnt work for my boys at all. They zone out or start singing or counting patterns on the wall! lol.

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Its soooo difficult, When I started using the naughty step with Alice, her 2 min time out lasted about 45 mins becuase she kept getting off. I just have to make sure there is nothing around for her to touch or play with (our stairs seem to be a dumping ground for anything) then just sit her there and totally ignore her. Megan was never that bad and Jacob was the same as Alice. Dont really know about Isaac yet. As for the biting thing that is also difficult as most people seem to see it as being so much worse than hitting/pinching/hair pulling when really it is just the same, I would just use the time out on the younger ones, and for the older 2 (mine are 12 and 9) I take away favourite toys like their ds or computer games. Whoever said being a parent was easy.

My dad is a big one for discipline and I must admit I want my children to be well behaved but I dont think you have to be as forceful as my dad is, he shouts at Alice all the time and now she wont even come downstairs when he visits, she says she doesnt like him because he is angry, he just says "well she does what I tell her so obviously it works" but I disagree, Alice will always do what I ask her, and if she is doing something she shouldnt and I ask her to stop, although she wont always stop straight away, if I say to her "don't make me count to 3" she will often push it till I get to 2 but I have never made it to 3 (not too sure what I would do if I did ). My dad always says things like a good smack is what she needs and it never did you any harm, but to be honest I completely disagree, I am 36 now and there are times when I am still scared of my dad and I dont want my children to be like that.

Sorry for the ramble xx

jayden only 11 months and is becoming a little rogue lol but he still to young to understand but when hes older i will use naughy/or time out corner has jayden always on the go and very enerjectiic so i think it will have the best afect,has for smacking them i think a light tap on the hand for some things like plug sockets if they no they shouldnt touch etc, although im not saying ill never smack jayden bum, but when i was younger my mum and dad always hit us for being naughty and it never worked even though it bloody hurt lol i wouold of took more notice and respected my parents more if i my luxturios(cant spell) was taken away xx xx

I don't like smacking so mostly we use either toy removal or time out. I'm lucky that Millie is fairly good, most of the time it's just arguements with Barney over toys. I only really use time out when she is having a tantrum or doing things like pushing and hitting Barney. We tried the naughty step but she just thought sitting on the step for 2 mins was funny so we abandoned that. Now I put her in the hall and close the door behind her! She can open the doors so she isn't really shut out, but I tell her that she isn't allowed to come back and play until she has finished being silly and stopped screaming. When she does come back in we have a cuddle and carry on playing and this seems to work for us. No idea what I am going to do with Barney as he is a monster! He seems to think his mission in life is to try and do as many things he's not allowed to as possible
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I must admit I have given Tim a gentle smack on a few occasions. But I find it doesnt really work. He even tells me to smack him if he knows he's been naughty because he knows full well i won't smack him hard enough to actually hurt him. I use the same method as Bedhead. I sent him to stand out in the hall until he has calmed down and is ready to come back and say sorry.

My lo is only 11 months so my discipline at the moment amounts to a stern 'No' and thats about it. J just shakes his head and mouths no, he even does it beore I tell him off now I have to stop myself from laughing. I think I will try the supernanny techniques we will see..........