Well Alf is upstairs crying his head off and has been since I put him down for his usual 2 hour nap. I have no idea where this came from and it has only happened in hte last 4 days and only at sleep time. Sorry about spelling just cant think straight.
SO advice pleaese:
Do I keep going to him?
Do I take him downstaris with me even though he's exhautted?
Do I ignore it-don't think I'm stong enough for that to be hinset
Please what the hell do I do, I'm now crying which won't help either. DOn't often post upset stuff but I need some help here. He only stops when I go in,Have changed his bum, put teeth gel on so just help please
Bxxx

oh sweetie, maybe you should try a bit of loose cc...leave him but then go in after five mins to reassure him you are there, dont pick him up but sroke his headf or something...then add two mins on each time.hopefully he should settle. Have you got a musical mobile or anything you could put on or a radio maybe? xxx

If it was me hun I'd go and get him. I'd prob get shot down from all the routine queens but I just dont get how people can ignor their babies crying. I tried CC with my toddler an it didnt f***ing work anyway!!!!!

Everyone has bad days and he might just be having one. You could try and go up and soothe him in his room if you dont want to break his routine.

Just follow your instincts do what your emotions tell you to do . Hope hes ok xxxx

Did he only start crying when you left the room? If so it could be seperation anxiety. TBH when Gabe does this (it's a really heart broken cry which is awful!!) I just wait outside the door and talk to him through the door telling him that I'm still here....
To be honest if Alfie is crying that much I wouldn't leave him...just keep going in and reassuring him, or bring him downstairs and try again once he's calmed down...Big hugs...This is only what I'd do though, I dont know if it's right or not. I haven't got the patience to listen to Gabe cry so I just do what the hell he wants, lol!! Luckily he's always been a (fairly) good sleeper xx

oh i wasnt advocating leaving him for ages...ive never done cc but if you go in regularly but dont take him down he might realise that you are still there, and that he can go to sleep safely? I am by no means a routine queen!

have been doing just what you said mousenose but each time i moved to the door he was on his feet and crying/screaming etc!
So he's sat on my knee and i'm crying while he looks at me like a nutter! couldn't cope with the crying-no tears from him though! With you on that B, maybe as its been for the last hour with me in and out of the room!
thank you both not sure what to do but couldn't cope with the tears. bxxxxx

ah bless him...cuddles never hurt anyone...jake was doing that a few days ago and agter a bit i just gave up and took him in with us...two days later and his first two teeth appeared!...silly mummy for not thinking!

xxx

am googling it now while he crawls about, with a huge smile on his chops. Thank you all for your help and I have now stopped crying-what a wally eh? Not going to get anywhere crying about it. Hoping I might get to pop to the loo and then have breakfast-will see how that goes!
Thanks again Bxxxx

I'd go and pick him up as well hun, neither of you are feeling good being a part, Charlie is really clingy to me because I never give him to anyone, but it's okay it just shows they love us so much & they know we'll meet there needs, it doesn't last forever, and maybe at this present time he just needs that extra bit of sercuity!?

Go and give him a cuddle, calm him down, make him feel sercure and put him down again, don't leave the room, don't look at him just stroke his face or hand for a bit so he knows that you are still there. If a baby can't need there mummy at this age when can they? Him wanting and needing you is just showing me your doing a really good job with him! I promise it'll pass again! xxxx

Awwww bless him.

If he is teething then he may just need a cuddle to get to sleep. Gracie faye has days like this, on Monday she completly missed her afternoon nap because she cried everytime me and Lee left the room which isnt like her at all.. i dont like leaving her to cry so i tried to have a nap with her in my bed but that didnt work either (think she wanted daddy) so in the end i gave up and brought her downstairs.

My lo has stranger anxiety but thats a whole mother story lol.

Hope he takes his nap soon xx

Thank you i_m_b_l he's sat playing with the treasure bag I made him yesterday! I kept going back to him for an hour every few minutes and as soon as I left that was it!
It's just such a shock as he has been a brilliant sleeper and dead chilled out but obviously we're in another phase! Also I go back to work on and off for a few days from Tuesday so I wonder if he's icking up on how I feel about that?!
Re read my first post sorry about being a drama queen I just couldn't get hold of oh and haven't realy got anyone else I can call when I'm all teary and in a crisis! Bxxxx

ok control crying works sort of for me

i used to go in after 10 mins check, dummy in, stroke her face
then 10 mins again until it gets to 20 mins n then she used to fall asleep

Thanks MrsG I've given up too! I tried the sleeping in our bed thing (as I could have done with a nap too!) but it didn't work either so he's down here with me! Hoping he might nod off in his highchair or Jumperoo possibly, fingers crossed!
Tracey1981 it might be something I have to do but to be honest the crying was getting too much and I couldn't manage on my own with it today. But thank yo for the advice. Bxx

O love don't be sorry we all have days like that, that's why this support forum is so good!

Charlie is a really chilled out baby too, so when he does cry I just try to remind myself that's it's the only way he can get his needs met and he is trying to tell me something, & that it's my job to work it out. I find that normal helps me deal with it a bit better.

It is hard cause all of a sudden they get into a new phase and you have to work everything out all over agaib because what they needed/wanted last week is diffrent from this week. xxxx

I think you did the right thing by getting him up. Maybe he just genuinely wasn't tired or his teeth were bothering him. BUt if he seems happy enough then let him play. He'll fall asleep when he's tired.
See how you go with the next nap, or tomorrow. Maybe just an off day. If Archie ever does this I wait it out a wee while and keep popping in every few mins. But like you I can't bear to hear the crying and always get him up. He soon shows signs of being tired and then we try agian. 9 times out of 10 he goes down no problem next time. Hope you're feeling a bit cheerier. S x

Well am feeling a bit nervous as it's heading towards bedtime and I can't cope with anymore of what today's been like. Oh's taken over and is doing the bath but seriously Alf very rarely cries and he just hasn't stopped today. Wish I could make him feel better and stop the pain or the worry if that's what it is.
Anyway off to see what happens-wish me luck! Bx

[Modified by: Mum to 1 on April 15, 2009 06:07 PM]

Awwwwwwww good luck hun!

I put gracie faye to bed 20 mins ago and for the first time EVER SINCE BIRTH she cried!! (i mean cried when its bedtime lo) l couldnt believe it! Lee was so shocked lol... anyway she had only had a bit of her bottle so went up and gave her the rest and she swugged it all and is now fast asleep... fingers crossed she was just hungry! xxx

Glad Gracie Faye is fast asleep they give you such a shock don't they when they behave out of character?!
Well I'm pleased and a bit upset as he hasn't made much of a fuss and seems to have fallen asleep.
Makes me look like a right prat in front of oh and makes me wonder if I made it worse or didn't do the right thing. Am going to find out some more while oh is at the shops!
Bxx