i really appreciate it ....its just so hard and devastating. I cant ever say it will never happen to me because thats what i believed for a longtime. Im so sorry to hear about your daughter. I know alittle of what your going through but not all because hes still here. It seems like the doctors are so negative. I thought he was doing so good but there making it seem like hes not even trying. Its so hard i just have no idea what to think. He getting an MRI and EEG on monday and we will have a better understanding of what is going on. If he has signs of cerebral palsy, i have no idea what i would do. I take care of a girl who has that at my job and thats no way a child should live, but the sametime i want him here, i dont want to let him go. But anyway i guess we'll just have to wait and see.

I totally understand how u are feeling, I wish I could give u a big hug... And make your little boy ok. My partner got very 'bogged down' with the negativity of the staff. Just go with your heart and what is best for you and your family. Until you know if he has CP just assume he doesn't, then if it turns out he does, deal with it then.

When the doctor told us, we had to make a decision- turn off the machines or leave them on a pray for a miracle(that just wasn't going to happen, in our case. Even if it did she will b severly brain damaged and disabled.(he didn't go into details) we decided it was best for her to let her go, the easier option for us would have been to keep her here, but as hard and as sickening a thought we had seen her go through enough. Part of me was still praying on that mirracle when we took her off. The first thing I thought was omg what the hell are we doing put her back on, I felt like in a way I was taking my daughters life away from her by taking her away from the thing that was keeping her alive. I realise now that if she was meant to be here, she would have been no matter what choicces we had made. We were told that if we left her on the machine there was a high chance she would have a huge seejar(sp?) and die attatched to the machines we didn't want that.

It's all very personal choices, and if's and buts. Sometimes now I think oh god what if we'd done this or that. And I probably will for the rest of my life. If it comes to it whatever you decide, will be the right desicion for your little boy. I feel for you I really do, the 19 hours Darcey was here was absolute hell for us, try and enjoy your little boy aswell, ok it's nit the way things should be but make the best of the situation. I wish I had spent less time crying Anne more time singing and stroking my little girl.

I hope you wee boy has had a good night and that the scan go's well. I'll keep praying for him Xxx

Hi

firstly my thoughts and prayers to all those who have been through this, especially if you now have angels looking down on you.

Ive only read this as i replied to a post in c-sec vbac, but would now like to ask a question.

I had a em sec after a long labour as blood began pouring out of me. No-one said anything about it just sent me for em sec. could that have been the begining of an abruption or is it just one of those things?

thanks

xxDBxx

Hi DB, em iwould say that yes Otis possiblethatyourblood loss was due to placenta abruption althoughiguess it could have been a number off other things. I'm also not sure as why wouldn't they tell you?... It's probably worth making an appointment to speak to your consultant as he/she should know either way and finding outwill put your mind at ease.. Goodluck x

Thanks for your reply.

Im seeing consultant on 16th so will ask him, just i have so many questions for him i didnt want to look daft.

take care

xxDBxx

Hi Krystinamae,

Just wanted to let you know I have been thinking about you and your little boy. I hope everything is 'ok'. Hugs xx