im 19 'n ave a 15 month old son who i love 2 bits but im pregnant again 'n cant get used 2 it, im 15 wks 'n found out at 5 wks i thought id get used 2 it but i dont feel ready for another 1 'n wud neva even think of abortion as i dont reali agree wiv it, can any1 help me plz thanx xx

hiya, theres not alot i can help u with dear iv never been in this situation, im 19 and preg with my 1st! im sure if ur keepin bub then u still have a while 2 get use to it! got ne help from family or fella? x

Hi Tammy I feel sad that you are worried about having two children so young. Please if you ever wanna chat my msn addy is libranaster@hotmail.com and this goes for anyone. We all have our own stress we can't deal with. I know it seems like it will be really hard but if your first baby is good you will get through it quite well. I was lucky my daughter was sleeping through the night at 14 months so I got it easy when I had my son 4 months later. I had trouble though because I had PND and that made me into some kind of mummymonster and very hard for my partner to live with. You have not stated specifically what you are worried about and if you wanna keep it private we can chat on MSN other wise let me know your worries specifically and we can talk them through.

Thanx 4 replyin, i get on fine with the dad and am with him but i constantly feel as if im on my own as he isnt much help, doesnt live with me and has a short temper (if gets woken up gets angry) . im worried bout the new baby wakin my other lil boy up 'n not b'in able to deal with them both by myself at nite and not suddenly cuttin my lil boy out bacause of the new baby x there's more 2 it but i ent sure wot it is :( x

Heya Tammy,
Im 18 n pregnant wqith my first but i can understand where your coming from my pregnancy was a real shock. As for your little boy and the baby you will find a way of dealing with it. And the dad sounds like my babys dad but i got rid of him because i decided that i would be better off alone than with a man whos not that much help, but if you ever wanna chat then you've got my msn addy hunni xxxxx

Can i just say firstly, i don't want to influence your decision in anyway but i was in the same position as you when my son was three months old.

I found out i was pregnant and i was devastated. I had PND and was struggling big time. I firstly thought that i would just get used to it but i didn't and i went against all my previous beliefs about abortion and had one. I must say that after the initial shock of actually going through with it, and the occasional 'i could have a bump again now' business, i think it was the best decision i made all round. I have a gorgeous little boy who i can take care of completely without having to worry or think about (too) much else but him.

However. If you find that you do deal with it, you will have two gorgeus children of your own to look after. Plus you don't need a man to support you (especially not a grumpy one! Lol). So many of y friends have just gone and done it alone and feel so much more empowered because of it. Good luck xXxxx

And also.. two kids means twice the fun and rewards back again! I hope you do have all the support that you need from family and friends as they are your backbone even in the strongest of people. Plus if you're aware that you think that you COULD be spending more time with the baby than your son then you'll know if you do it. and therefore stop. xxxx

Hi, wow i thought i had it bad but my son has slept right through from about 8 weeks old. Im also due another one around the same time as you, dont worry you still have ages yet left to prepare for your new little one, and bare in mind, its good stimualation and stuff for ur kids to have a sibling close in age. you'll be fine, some women have a dozen and ccope, so im sure you will be fine. x

hia thanx girlies, im startin 2 feel a bit beta bout things . . . ad my 16 wk appontment wiv da midwife 'n herd da baby's heart beat again but this tym i was happy dat everythins alrite xx

Glad you're feeling better about it! Just wait til you can see if its a boy or a girl!!! cxxx

I feel a bit old to be posting on here as i'm nearly 25 (it sounds so much older than 19) but thought i might be able to give you some reassurance. There's only 16 mnths between my two bundles of joy, now 2 + 3, with no 2 it was a complete accident, when i told my partner he freaked as he didn't even know i suspected i might be pg and at first thought i should have an abortion. At times i thought i wouldn't cope and it was really difficult, i was so tired at times but it doesn't last long honestly. Now my kids are the best of friends and i don't regret my decision one bit.
I don't want to sound anti-abortion though as i have friends who have had abortions because it has been the right decision for their circumstances. Its a scary thing having a baby at the best of times but just do what you feel is right.
Hope that helps x x

Hiya, im also 19 expecting baby no2, had my lil girlie at 15, long gap between but i cant wait, you can do anything you put your mind too, no need to fret and i bet u ur little boy will love a baby bro or sis, my lil girl cant wait. I live on my own with my partner, two bed house car etc etc, hard work but all worth it! xx

hey im emily im 19 im haveing my 1st baby when i fownd ou i was in alot of shock i was screaming shakeing eveythin lol im iv hade a scan n i think the shock hit me mourebut now im happy n cant wate dont let enyone make up your minde u need 2 do that hun x all the best yh x