Hi
As u no i split wiv my lo's dad wen she was 3 months old as caught him flirting and chattin up women on facebook.
We still c each other reguarly so he can have our lo for the night n next day, he is currently out of work as was made redundant so doesnt provide for our lo at the mo but where we r seeing more of each other he keeps suggesting maybe that we get back 2getha! aarrgghh, deep down i no we shouldnt because i no that i would never trust him n b so paranoid and because a lot has happened between us, but im also thinking i would love to jus b a family agen n the thought of our lo having a real brother or sister in the future.
Its hard because i had started to move on n think i didnt need him but then i think i dont wana b wiv another man as my ex knows me so well n we were 2getha for 3 years, i am jus so confused as wot 2 do, i jus dont no wot i want n its all i am thinking about!! Wot would u do or has ne one else bin in a similar situation, thought i had moved on but now hes gettin 2 me again xx

Do what ur gut instinct tells you, i broke up with my bf last weeks, we have a 13month old and a baby girl due in feb and he is so selfish wanting to go out with his mates all the time and not putting us first, plus lying to me etc i had to do whats best for my girls and he wasnt it, do what you feel is right, you did say you know deep down it wouldnt be right so maybe theres your ansswer

I will never get back with my ex now, hes had so many chances and i know he wont change.
Do whats right for your little girl
x

I agree with Sarah but to be honest your message kind of makes up your decision for you. Saying you cant trust him and would be paranoid then really whats the point. we would all like that happy family situation but alot of the time it just wouldnt work that way. In the end of the day it is up to you of course but i know what id do x

I agree that you answer your own question in your post!if there is no trust there it will be very hard and tbh you have a child together he should of tried harder!did he leave easily or try to stay?obv i dont know your full story but i would think he should of put up more of a fight to stick around and not behave so selfish and childish as to flirt with exs ect on FB!
iIm not with my babies dad anymore,its been 16mths since Ben was born but we had spilt whilst i was pregnant due to him rowing with me all the time and wanting to go out drinking ect....i couldnt really forgive him for that,i went through hell whilst i was pregnant,felt so lonely and let down and of course we all want to be a family,its the ideal and what we all expected when we had our children but sometimes this just doesnt happen!
I truthfully think he wants to come back now because its the easy answer,hes had his freedom and maybe its not been all he thought it would be,or maybe he is slightly lonely also and thinks getting back with you is the expected thing to do!
I would say dont rush into anything,deep down you know you are better off without him.
I have no contact with my ex and this does make things easier i am over him and wouldnt take him back if he begged BUT i would find it hard because of everything luckily not having any contact for all this time as helped me move on and get over him!
Im now in a new relationship,and just being with someone else as highlighted to me how wrong me and him were!!!!
As they say,they are exs for a reason and why go back to the same old problems??!!
Good luck Hun

Thanx 4 ur replies! Yeh i think i no if i met some1 else id b ok, its the jus thought of it n im 2 scared! i no it will happen wen it happens n im not fussed bout wen i meet some1 else jus wana no that im doin the rite thing by moving on!
Its is hard coz we still speak on the phone everyday n so hard 2 get away from it! Hopefully things will plan themselves out n i make the rite choice, aarrggh its so hard! xx

if its any consolation, i speak to daisys dad everyday and see him a few times a week, also im 32weeks pregnant with his 2nd child so he is still my birthing partner, imagine how hard thats gonna be for me, all hormonal,emotional and i know that no matter how much he helps out i will still live alone with my 2 babies.
I know i will stay strong because i know its the right thing to do, for me and my babies.
Hope you make the right choice, only you know whats best for you and your lo xxxxx