my teen is causing so much stress with her mouth its unbearable. im eight weeks pregnant and was forced to tell her in order to get her to back off. My oh thought shed change no way she actually said she didnt care if damage was caused.she knows how to put it on. she so sweet at school and pretends to be shy in front of relatives. she is giving me hell and the rotten things she says. she is 15 nearly 16 and cant justify being a teen for her rotten mouth. im actually really hating her. she could be a help and offer to babysit we have a 9 and 7 yr old but i dont trust her during the day with kids. shed argue with them .she ok when they in bed then i might get to meeting etc. my oh reacts badly if i mention her behaviour he cant deal with it. how do i sort her out actually make her see her behaviour is sooo wrong. the other two have to deal with a big sister who doesnt give a damn.im so angry i have to have her in house there is no escape she even said she schieves if were unhappy.

i feel for you hun, i have a 15 yr son who i could quite happily kill most of the time. Not so much gobby but oh how he thinks he is always right. He is lovely but bloody lazy and the rows i have with him about school and the lack of any effort put into coursework but he seems to think that he can spend every waking moment on the xbox not revise at all and still pass his exams!! All his teachers think he is lovely and that i am some pushy mum who wont get off his back. he is also a competitive swimmer and wants to quit that now as he cant be bothered and would rather hang around the strrets with god knows who and he cant understand why i am pissed off about! what is it about 15yr olds. I am 26 weeks pg with 3 other kids to deal with and he is giving me nothing but aggro!

ha..laughing at this post. I too have a 15 year old son. Xbox, Xbox and errrr Xbox. TBH he is doing well at shcool even though he is horribly dyslexic. Bless. ... I also have a 17 year old daughter. Again, I am lucky really as she is lovely and helps so much with kid. She is as I type this outside with our 4 and 3 year old playing with them. Amelia is 10 months nearly and she is a huge help with her too. She goes to Uni next year and i have no idea what I will do... we live abroad and she goin to UK.

To answer your question.............i know you will hate this sentence but it is a phase. Its hard and shitty for you but, hopefully it will pass. I would also check on her eating, sleeping habits. Could she be unhappy, bullied, stressed over something? Could you and her go out shopping on a late night shopping and have a chat together to see if something else is at the bottem of her behaviour?? IF its just a phase then some tough love might be in order. They say that if your teens like you then you are not doing your job right!!! ha ha !!!!

When we stop lauren going out or doing something she wants to do she gets in such a mood... however, sometimes we have to. its our job.

I hope you get sorted and manage a happy xmas.
Good luck with pregnancy.

d xxx

thanx for replies i talked to my teen about it all shortly after my rant and i agree it is just that age. unfortunatly im losing the baby no ones fault and you know im sorry i was so harsh on her she didnt try and annoy me she was very good through this sad time .we kept it secret cause i dont like upsetting people on christmas week. my sis in law due to give birth anyday now and not the time to take her precious moment from her. ill tell family after christmas. its sad but my teen and i and my oh are only ones that know but im glad she has proved me wrong xxxxxx

oh no..I am so so sorry. You poor thing. What a tragic thing to happen.
I am glad you and your DD have made it up. You will need all the help and support you can get over this time.
I hope you are OK and that you get lots of TLC and time to grieve for your loss.

take care

d xxx