hi, this is well embarrassing but its really getting me worried now!

i went off sex while pg, it just felt so wierd! couldnt stand it! oh so uiunderstanding tho, he's a darling.

then, i got spd so couldnt anyway.

had emerg cesarean and 16hrs of traumatic labour, but that was 10 wks ago and now i STILL dont wantsex! but i wish i did! i really want to, but as soon as the moment approaches i just dont want to any more! its not fair on oh, we have talked about it and he understands its not to do with him, but i have got to sort this out soon!

we are too tired for romance which doesnt help :)

does anyone else feel like this? if you have, how did you get over it? how long did it take?

btw, changed my screen name as mine came up under google with my real name! this is far too personal
was rachey1975:\)
thx xXx

Im not overly keen on sex anymore at all.... just dont get 'horney' any more! I usually need a glass of vino to help me out! we are once a fortnite at the mo cos It is still painful, but I think its worry making it painful xxx

Try getting someone to babysit overnight and go out for some drinks and that might help relax you then come home and do the deed

Im the total opposite, the first time was scary as i had an episiotomy but sex is now better than it has ever been especially without a huge bumo in the way!!!

Try not to leave it too long hun x x x

Hello
It could just be your hormones hunny and that fact your baby is only is 10weeks so you are proberly knackered. Don't worry yourself about it. Give it time. My last pg and after I couldn't have been horner (well till the last few weeks when it got uncomfortable and bump got in the way) but this time round I think 'I fancy it tonight' but then it come down to it, I don't want to anymore. Its almost as if the thought of it is better then the deed, Lol.

Try not to worry about it. As long as your oh knows how you feel and understands it will proberly come back naturally.

Kerry, freya and bump
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Hey my lo is 4.5 months old and we have still not fully done the deed we tried once and it hurt that i got upset and we haven't really tried again, the fact that oh is always at work doesn't help. I'm sure it must get better otherwise ppl would never have more than one child(thats wot i keep thinkin!)
p.s. ur new username made me laugh!
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Hi im sorry to bump this thread up with no useful advice but i was just scrolling through afew pages as i usually do when not been online all day(sob)and i saw your username and i just love it?can i buy it off you???lol!!!!!sorry once again to not be helpful....

hahaha you can have it if you promise to deal with all future stinky bums for me! my lo is RANCID! aargh and he grins after he poos (frequently pooing) jus to rub it in! he's not even on solids yet ..... dont worry about not bein helpful :)

thanks for advice tho guys, guess it would be easier if i had a few but im bf so havent had beloved wine/cider/jd/gin and the rest for so long!

Hi, i was in the same position as u had emergency c sec and was in labour nearly 24 hours, i first had sex for first time when demi was about 4-5 weeks it was when we both went out n had a few drinks so it was nt as bad, were fine now x x

Hi hun, I still enjoy sex more than ever but sometimes I am just too tired, could this be it? I find with sex that the more I get, the more I want, and if we've gone a long time without (longest ever was 4 weeks and that was after Gabe so not that long!), then I feel like I could go without for ever. But if we have regular sex I love it & want it all the time. Maybe once you've got the first few times over with, you'll be fine...

Kudos to your oh though. Mine is such a horny git (this got very annoying when I was heavily pg, knackered and all he did was whine...basically just let him get on with it while i dozed!) . He can barely handle the frustration when I have AF! x

hi hun
I completely went off sex wen i was pregnant even tho have a high sex drive lol.
we didnt start having sex agen until 6 wks after lo born n even then i wasnt that interested as my body had changed so much, it wasnt until i learnt to come 2 terms wiv the new me that i got my drive back agen!!
Try it wen ur both relaxed n wen ur not as tierd (hard i no!) n c how it goes, maybe ur like me n have 2 feel bit more confident agen b4 enjoying it xx

hahahaa 'let him get on with it while i dozed'....you really made me larf! xXx

think it was 12 weeks at the least after my 3. also had c/s but never laboured! having the babies was enough shock on it's own!!!

it is hard, (no pun intended, sorry), but you will feel more in the mood when you are not as tired, lo in own room etc

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