I love my lo to bits but i get the feelling that she is not too bothered whether i am there or not. I have just started back at work after 8 months & expected her to be happy to see me when i come home like she is with her daddy but she barely even looks at me. At best she is not a cuddly baby. If you try to cuddle or kiss her she puts her arms out & pushes you away. I don't know why as we have always been affectionate with her? I feel like i'm doing something wrong & sometimes wonder what i was thinking, thinking i could ever be a good mum.
Why can i say this on here & not to the people around me??

Hi there,

Just wanted to pop on a post.....everything u describe in ur post is, to me anyway, totally normal. With all 4 of mine, the kisses n cuddles suddenly appeared between 12 & 18 months - in fact, my current youngest has only just started accepting and giving cuddles freely in the last cpl of months and he turned 20 months this wk.

U say u've only just returned to work after 8 months - as far as ur lo is concerned, in her little world u are the constant.....even thou ur 'missing' for the period ur at work, ur still where u should be when u come home. Sorry, I know what I'm trying to say, just hope it came across ok lol

Don't in any way think of urself as 'not a good mum' hun - being a parent can, at times, b a thankless 'job', no matter how old they are.....but we do it because those special moments we get are more than worth it

sorry meant to write a new post x

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hi, i totally agree with Mummyx5, you should in no way let the 'im not a good mum' thoughts in!!!!
i was convinced my 1st lo didnt love or like me, i was wrong but for some crazy reason i started to think the same again this time round!
ypu say your affectionate with your lo but she isnt?! my 1st lo will let me cuddle him & my 12yr old sister & thats it! even tho his daddy is his world he will only willingly kiss/cuddle him once in a blue moon! i really wouldnt take it personally (i know thats easier said than done!)
hope your feeling better soon & dont strees that your not telling people round you, getting it out is the main thing!
xx