reli bad week this week my bf spilt up with me he said 'he cant do this anymore' i was devastated and didnt see it comming atall ehs always been so supportive and loving and seemed asthough he wanted this baby more than i did to be honest but now im shocked and confused and dont know whats happened and why its happened the alst week ive been reli upset and hasterically crying evry night, i cried so much the other night i was sick and then relised this cannot be good for my baby. i couldnt believe he had done this to me and his unborn child its onli bit a week and a bit since but im getting to grips with it now and not crying over it but im still hurting becasue i love him soooo much and because its so out of the blue. some people have said hes probably just really scared and that hell cum round i cant see that happening i dont know what to think anymore :cry::\( does anyone have any ideas what they think may happen???? he said he still loves me but his feelings ave changed

please help me out thnx x

[Modified by: xmasmumtobex on 02 November 2008 17:19:43 ]

hiya

maybe your bf just needs some space hun? Has he still been in contact whilst you have been broken up? Its a tough time being pregnant, especially when its your first and it can be quite scary when you think about all the changes that will be made once your little one arrives, maybe he has just freaked out a little bit? He may come round and decide he wants to give it a go but i hate to say this, it gets alot harder and much more of a strain on your relationship once the baby is here. Me and my partner barely have time to be alone and it is hard.

Just give him a little bit of time to have a think about things, but try to concentrate on you and your baby for now as thats the most important thing.

good luck
charlie x

hi im joanne im 17 and have a 12 week old baby girl called jessica louise!
i split with the babies dad when i was 3 months pregnant, i think it is absolutely awful the way a fella can say sorry i just need time to think, my bf done this to me and took 9 months to think we still argue now about when is he coming to see the baby and so on, it is so hard being a single mummy but i absolutely love it, you need to look at both sides of the spectrum and be ready for the worst, i always though he would see sense once baby comes and he still hasnt iv learned to get on with it tho its hard but well worth your while!!!
keep your chin up hun for your growing baby!
joanne and jessica xxx

thnx girlies x

i agree with evrything you say x

i dnt want to believe that hes never going to want to get bck wif me i kno its wud be best too jus miove on but i reli reli cant thinking that hes going to get bk wif me soon is the only thing keeping me from avin a mental breakdown soo im jus gunah keep thinking that im still hurting sooo sooo much its unbareable !!

wer still intouch but im nt texting him or foning him because ive heard reverse pshycology wrks well so im trying to make it look like im moving on by nt fusing over him x

time is a great heeler so opefully he will come round

yer if u make him think that you have moved on, sooner or later he is gunna realise what he has lost!
thats the plany anyway lol
xx
Joanne and jessica

Hunni don't wait for him! Im sure you'd rathr have your lo grow up with one loving parent than two with one resenting the other and wishing the hadnt been born!!
Yes you love him but carrying on like this is not good for you or your baby!Try and have a girls night in with a takeaway and a big tub of icecream and chocolate! Why no invite some girls round for a pampering session?
Nothing you can do will make him come back! He has to make this desicion himself Im afraid!
Stear clear of him and sort your own head out and greaive iygwi that way you wil be able to carry on and raise your child with or without him!
I know its hard and your hurting but it will get easier!! Im not intending to be mean but holding on to him will only make matters worse for you and drive him further away!
Im sure you will make a brilliant Mum with or with out any man!! (((((BIG HUGS)))))
If you need someone to talk to pm me! Please talk to someone dont bottle thing up!