well the title says it all!
im 17 and a single mummy to Jessicas Louise who is 10 1/2 wks. i went and had lunch with my friend and her oh who have a 5 week old together, and it realy hit home me seeing them together sharing the responsibility. the father to my baby girl doesnt really show much interest in jessica he doesnt have that connection i have with her. i take jessica down to his nans house (he lives with her and his dad) and when he does see her its like he doesnt want to learn how to hold her properly or try to calm her when shes unsettled, it breaks my heart knowing that hes just not interested!
everything is such an effort getting up in the morning and getting me and bubs ready to be out early in the mornin im just not sure im coping very well atall! does anyone else feel the same?
xx
Joanne and Jessica

Hey Hun. I know exactly what you mean. My Lo's Dad walked out when I was 5 months pregnant. He has only seen her once, the morning after she was born as she stopped breathing, was rushed to hospital and they didn't think she would survive. He left after an hour and then sent me a text to say never to contact him again.
I had to move in to my Mum's and thought I would get lots of support from her but, I don't! My Lo doesn't sleep well and we are sharing a room so that means I don't sleep well either. I am working full time and am getting more and more tired and, at times, even feel a bit of resentment at having no time for me. I'm sure that, if I had someone to share the load I would feel so much better. I feel so sad that Lo has no Daddy and I have no-one to give me a cuddle or just hold me and tell me it'll all be ok.

My husband has just left me and I feel utterly hopeless. Im left with a mortgage and car loan but cant go back to work full time because of childcare.
I hate this flat now its like a tomb and I do get support from parents but I cant expect them to do everything. All our plans for my son seem gone now, he hasn't even got through his first xmas as a family. I have no time to do anything and dont feel at all womanly.
I too miss the feeling of having someone to cuddle and laugh with, the thought of being a single mu really terrifies me. I love my husband dearly and miss him so much but he doesnt love me and I just have to keep strong for my son but I am finding it so lonely already and its only been 2 weeks.

d1ydiva, and the rest of you your stories are very touching and I'm glad I'm none of these people you talk of. Sorry to here your situ's and if I can offer comfort I'll try my best OK. Love U All Mum's Rob! xx (( hug, hug huuuuuuuuggggy ))...

hey, it is hard work bein a single mum n all u want is to have a family n 2 b able 2 have a break now n then. i am temporarily living back wiv my parents after splittin wiv my ex n although they help out i dont get much time 2 myself. my ex has her once a week but never asks how she is or helps provide for her. he doesnt no much about her at all. i buy her everything n do everythin for her n yes it is so hard sometimes u jus wana get up n do whatever u want but cant. i hate the fact that my lo wont spend her 1st xmas wiv her mummy n daddy n all i want is the best 4 her.

i think we shld all giv ourselves a pat on the back as we have the hardest job in the world but im sure we wldnt change it 4 a thing, we have a special bond wiv our lil ones n we r much stronger ppl 4 it. If a man chooses not 2 b there for their own children then they arnt worth botherin wiv, same wiv single dads aswell-we all do a great job!
xxxxx

Being able to talk to others about problems is great and having heard some stories on here I can't help but share compassion.

My Girl split but my faith to woman will never change because I love woman
when I hug My lo I do wish I had another body to hug as well love you all lots xx

It can get so lonely at times and i have my down days when i just feel totally alone and sad that things turned out this way...my ex doesnt really provide for his son as hes not working and seems to be out in the pub alot..if he has money for beer he can damn well buy his son some nappies ect.....
Life sure has a funny way of turning out sometimes but it goes on and i can only hope things get better for me and everyone else x

If he's a proper Dad he will think about what his Son needs and not what he needs.
Things can't be sorted out when you argue best to have someone on your side to support you do you have family who could help. lul's Rob

Yep, we all deserve a pat on the back and just think, our kids will be brought up our way and they will never leave us for some greener grass because we are always gonna be their mum/dad no matter what happens in life.

The people who leave, walk away are the loosers because they miss out on all the good stuff, all the firsts in their childs life and they will just bloody well have to deal with that.

You guys all seem fab, if any of you wanna drop me a line on MSN, im on mariesaville@hotmail.co.uk... I mean it. Us fantastic parents have to stick together and we all need each others supprot right now. xxxx

hey, its amazing the way men think they can jst walk out on their children and leave us to sort out their mess when our LO's start asking questions!
i hope we can all find someone who treats us the way we should be treated and love our LO's
it will come back on the fathers one day

Joanne and Jessica
xx

Amen to that Joanne!Im feeling bitter,my ex never provided for his son and although he had him once a week at his parents for 4hrs he never asked about him or really showed he cared...if it wasnt for his parents coming for Ben and my mum picking Ben up(i cant drive and ex got banned for drink driving)i doubt he would of even bothered!
Last sat i found out he was in the pub and so now im not letting him see Ben till something gets sorted out..ie he grows up and provides for his son and puts him over afternoon drinking!!!!!!!!!!not heard a thing as yet so shows how bothered he really is over his son!arse!!!!!!!!!!better off without men like that imo and my lo desreves so much more