:\)i wonder if any one has had the same problems as me. when my son was a baby i took him to the local mothers and baby group. You think i had a disease of some sort because i went up to the other mums and said hello and they just ignored me. that was the first and last time i went. i found another playgroup which is run by the local church and what lovely people they are the girls have even had nights out in newcastle letting our hair down(while the other halfs have been pulling theirs out) we are one family now and when i se other mums at the weigh in i tell them about the playgroup and our number is growing:D

I have heard the same from my friends.

Ive been really lucky as the playgroups i go to have been ace one is a church group like yours and they were all so welcoming and the other too are groups for people with twins or kids close in age (less than 20 months) and have been ace but ive heard horror storys where my friends have been blanked and made to feel unwelcome its such a shame as i think us mothers should stick together.

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thanks for that i thought it was just me, got to say you have 2 beautiful babies take care x:D

yeah some of them can be like that.
the one i take my daughter two is really good we have nights out as well and all the mums are lovley.
i have been lucky with my son he went to three difrent groups so he had one each day monday - friday and they were all lovley but it took a while as i had to try out some not so nice ones before i found ones that we liked.

I've had the same thing happen on a couple of occasions. I'm a bit of a goth so I don't know if I scared them a bit or not?

hi. i run my local parent and toddler group.and i must say that i won't have any kind of clickyness or anything of that kind in my group. i have a friendly face policy and a welcoming pack for new parents that come through the door. we even have a few dads that come .
when i started to go 9 years ago when i had my first baby there was alot of clickiness, but now i run it and we are all very friendly and welcoming. it's a shame when groups come across as clicky or snobby. it really puts parents off.
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I'm like you pen, I help run our mother and toddler group, we have a friendly face policy, we always have some one at the door to welcome people in and especially new mums. We also have a welcome pack for new mums and we have done a few evening things like usborne book/body shop etc It's really friendly although there are a few groups in our town which are a bit clicky.

Your positive reply almost convince me to try again. I had two rotten experiences and have never gone back, which has made being a mum rather lonely...

The first group was just clicky and despite going weekly for two months not once did anyone speak to me outside the lady organizing it. The second week I brought a big tray of homemade fairy cakes and squares hoping to break the ice, and nobody would even try one. It was awful. I did try to speak to people but I was either ignored or as one lady said. "I'm speaking to ____", when I tried to join in. The second group I went to and at the end of the first I was told that despite having a newborn and struggling to breast feed that my 19 month old was not appropriate for a breast feeding mum and baby group and that could I please not return. I felt really bad because I'd gone hoping to get some much needed advice and it's rather personal to ask for help. There was older breast feeding toddlers there, but I was told that that perhaps I'd be better suited to try the international mums group across town.

I left ashamed and feeling stupid and have never been to one anywhere since.

That is disgraceful! Am about to join/go along to a parent toddler/baby group but to be honest I feel a bit nervous. I don't understand why women have to be like that with each other especially when we're all going through the same thing.
Did you do antenatal classes? We meet up on a Wednesday (give or take!) and that's at least once a week I know we're off out for a bit of adult conversation.
Hope you're feeling better about things and lets be honest what a boring life those women must lead and bet they're insecure too!

iv had this before, they all blanked me and when i put jayden on the baby mats they would lift there babys off, i went the following week to see if it was the same and it was... i asked them if they had a promblem with me and they just walked off, so now i dont go to that one, iv also been to another one run by surestart... and thats not has bad but the women who go there are all mates and tend not to include me, i used to get very upset so dont bother going to any now!! which im very dissapointed about.

when i 1st took my wee boy to local toddler group nobody spoke to me, but i was determined this was the group we were coming to...so when i went next time, people spoke to me... then i ended up making a small group of friends!!
think some people just dont like the change!

I took my eldest to one 4 yeras ago I wnt for 3 months in all and nothing changed no one spoke to me the kids were just left to do as they pleased while the moms drank tea and gossiped to each other etc . They arranged nights and days out but never asked me and my lo to go so I stopped going. Last week as I have been very very lonely and in need of some adult convo I ventured to one again but where the babys are looked after in the creach and the moms and dads have tea and toast in the cafe (baby is one ) and all I can say is never again. No one spoke to me and I was obviously being talked about by a few of the moms looking down their noses at me . The rest of the parents just swore and shouted about benefits and who was the latest to be on drugs and where to get cheap fags from lol (obviously they wernt speaking to me I wasnt good enough for that kinda talk almao) So I will definatly not be going to anything like it again

Oh yes Ive been in tears before now because of the awful unwelcoming women at a few groups Ive been too.

Thankfully Ive moved and my youngest dd nursery group is the same women in the mother and toddler group so we all get on super.

I did find that the clicky groups were people that have known each other forever! and as my hubby used to say, they are closed to new friendships:roll:. I love meeting other mums, Im one of those mad people that strike up a conversation with other mums/dads in super markets etc(when waiting in a cue or if our kids start chatting etc) TBH we have all been there done that and we all know how hard/rewarding/ funny/lonely etc being a parent is so why not welcome EVERYONE???!!!

When I took my daughter to be weighed and playgroups I was welcomed with open arms and thought I got on really well with the other mothers. I couldnt believe all the horror stories of being judged solely on appearances, that is until I took my daughter swimming and with the very same group of people who had been talking to me for months. Apparently the fact that I have tattoos made me unwelcome, one mother was rude enough to ask me whether I thought "people like me" are good parents.
Thankfully I have found a better class of people to associate with now and none of which mind my tattoos. Surely these people should remember we all had lives before we had children and (although I dont regret my tattoos) we have all done things we wouldnt necessarily do again.