Hello,
This is my first post on the site. I've been reading the posts over the last few weeks and thought you ladies offer some real support to others and wondered if I could tap into that.

It's no biggie, just wanted to share with like-minded fellows my disappointment.

Hubby and I (been together over 10 yrs) have finally got everything in order wrt work, home, finances etc to start ttc. To say I'm excited is an understatement. We've put so much planning into everything and are finally going to join the parenting club. I started on the Folic Acid, cut the booze, started reading your chats etc etc and getting geared up with a view to start trying after Christmas.

To cut a long story short (sorry), my recent smear tests have come back 'abnormal' and now have to go for another in 6 months. It's not the smear result I'm that worried about (last smears over 10 yrs have been fine, could just be an infection), it's the fact that just when we get near ttc, I have to hold off for 6 months! It's so unfair. I know in the grand scheme of things I'm being silly, selfish and worse things happen, I'm just dealing with my disappointment and hope you don't mind me getting it off my chest here. Six months isn't even that long (unless the cells of the next smear haven't gone back to normal and I need treatment, which will mean further delay!).

It just feels typical that after doing everything right and waiting for the right moment, we get this set back. I guess it's just because I was so excited. It's just frustrating.

Anyway, thanks for reading and letting me get it off my chest. Who knows, come April, if all goes to plan (!) I can join the 'ttc' board. I hope so.

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Hiya, really sorry to hear about your smear test result. I recently had a mc and am having to wait for one cycle before we can try again and thought that was bad enough, so I can imagine how frustrating it must be to be told you have to wait 6 months!

It must be tempting to think that you might as well stop all your hard work with cutting down on the booze and taking the supplements now seeing as you've got to wait till April to start ttc, but try not to give up, sounds like you've done so well that it would be a shame not to carry on. Try and look on these next few months as an even better opportunity to get your body into perfect shape for getting pregnant, and you never know with all your hard work you might be one of the lucky ones who gets their BFP really quickly!

And just in case it helps to talk to someone else in your position, here's a link to a post from someone else who I think is going through something similar to you, hope she doesn't mind me posting this link:

http://www.babyexpert.com/chatroom/topic/53863

Make sure you let us all know how you get on in April, and keep reading the ttc posts in the meantime, you'll pick up loads of ttc tips!

Love & hugs,
Caroline xxx

Thanks so much for your lovely reply Caroline, and the link to the other lady's post was really helpful. Whilst I really feel for her, it's nice to know one's not alone.

I'm really sorry to hear about your mc - my little delay is nothing in comparison, so sending you lots of pma and hope you have some good news v.soon.

I'll keep up with the good work. It has really helped just getting it off my chest and hearing back from folks that care.

Thanks again,
Love
"Hoping"
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Hi hoping

Life seems so unfair sometimes doesnt it, you did everything right and yet some girls dont really care and smoke, drink throughout pregnancy and get pregnant at the drop of a hat without actually wanting it. I know how hard it is to wait its horrible.We were trying 18months and nothing! then i got pregnant but sadly miscarried, another 7 months after that ifell pregnant again and finially had my gorgeous son in march this year! Its worth the wait, and in some ways i think all the waiting makes you appreciate things more.

Keep your chin up
charlie + 6mth old jay x

Hi Hoping

Was just wondering have you been told not to ttc? Or is that your decision to see whats going on?

I was having 6 monthly smears due to abnormal cells and that went on for 3 years before things finally got worse enough for them to perform a coloscopy and take a biopsy. I then had to have some form of laser treatment which removed part of my cervix but it was a long time in between my first abnormal smear and the treatment, they could be asking you to wait a long time!

I would say that they would ask you not to ttc if you are going for a coloscopy and perhaps treatment for abnormal cells but not if you are just on 6 monthly check ups, there are quite alot of us that have fallen pregnant very close to having treatment or after treatment, some have even waited to have their teatment after the baby has been born!

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Hi Charlie & Halle,

Thanks for your replies. It's exactly the unfairness I was feeling low about - like you say, the number of folks I know who have fallen pregnant without a care in the world... But you're right, the waiting will make it even more special (one reason we've waited until now instead of jumping in over the past 10 years). And like Caroline said, I can focus even more on getting everything in place for that exciting time. The old body clock heh - I didn't realise how impatient it can make one feel! ha ha.

Sorry to hear about your mc Charlie, esp after waiting so long! I'm really pleased things worked out for you - your little one must keep you busy!

Halle - I was advised by my GP and in the leaflet they send not to ttc between now and my next smear as if I fall pregnant and need treatment, it could make things more difficult. That coupled with a very practical (but wonderful) OH, I'm going to see what the results of the next one are. If they're still abnormal like you had, I think I'll push for something to be done and quickly! I have private cover, so maybe that's an option to move things along (I read on another post this was an option).

Thanks again girls for the support. When I first got the news I thought it was the end of the world (drama queen heh?) and now I feel much more hopeful after coming on here.

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